Well...that just happening

[Turquoise14]

Hmm. That just happened.

Dcb 1 1/2 has been rough at pick up the past couple of weeks going around yelling no about mom getting him ready so I had him all ready to go with shoes on. Mom comes in and talks to me. She likes to prolong things, asking about his day and if he ate well, etc. dcb goes in my kitchen, which the kids know is out of bounds during the day, opens my cabinet and starts carrying on.


Then.....Dcm asks if he can have one of the cookies in on the shelf....

So bewildered, I just said "I guess so." What? What I'm really thinking is that he is hers now, go eat your own food! Whines for a cookie, so she just gives it to him. That was weird.

[Josiegirl]

If he's not your only one left at that time, can you just tell her you need to be with the others and have a nice night? Do you send home a daily note, then you could say 'gotta run, the note says it all'.
I don't mind chatting for a couple minutes if the dcks aren't running wild or getting into things but once they take off for unknown parts, it's time for them to leave!

[AuntTami]

Hmm. That just happened.

Dcb 1 1/2 has been rough at pick up the past couple of weeks going around yelling no about mom getting him ready so I had him all ready to go with shoes on. Mom comes in and talks to me. She likes to prolong things, asking about his day and if he ate well, etc. dcb goes in my kitchen, which the kids know is out of bounds during the day, opens my cabinet and starts carrying on.


Then.....Dcm asks if he can have one of the cookies in on the shelf....

So bewildered, I just said "I guess so." What? What I'm really thinking is that he is hers now, go eat your own food! Whines for a cookie, so she just gives it to him. That was weird.

First, let me say, LOL! :: How random? Do you go to your neighbors and say "Hey, I see you have a bag of popcorn, can I have it?" LOL

But secondly, I would have said "Absolutely not" if he was whining for one. I don't reward whining, and she should have corrected his behavior, but obviously she just gives in to him, so I would have stepped in and corrected it for her. I may be "off the clock" but he's still in my house and needs to respect my rules, which includes whining gets you no where!

[Rockgirl]

When I first started my daycare, I felt awkward calling kids out on their behavior in front of parents. Not anymore. This is my home! I would've said, "Dcb, you know you are not allowed in my pantry." Then to dcm "I need to get back to the other kids. Have a great weekend." And back to the playroom.

[Heidi]

I got one of these:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000U5LXU6/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

It now blocks off my entry area. I have an open concept living room, so everyone basically comes right into it.

I made it into an L-shape, one side up against my couch (across from stairs up and down that are not daycare areas).

There are area rugs that fit just in that area, a bench, and coat hooks. I open the gate for the child, and close it behind them. No more running back in with shoes on, saying goodbye to every friend, doing things they know better than to do, etc. Once they are over that gate, they are the parent's problem. Of course, I can still be warm and friendly. I just don't have to wrangle their kid.

[Unregistered]

I've done the deer-in-headlights-is-this-really-happening reaction, too. I had a family like this, and one evening, dcb walks over to my landscaping and rips out a handful of flowers. I told him that those flowers weren't for picking and that I work very hard on my landscaping. Dcm said to him, "We'll have to invite her over to our house, so we can "share" our flowers with her." WTH? LOL!!!! Apparently, I'm the one with the sharing issues.

[Josiegirl]

I've done the deer-in-headlights-is-this-really-happening reaction, too. I had a family like this, and one evening, dcb walks over to my landscaping and rips out a handful of flowers. I told him that those flowers weren't for picking and that I work very hard on my landscaping. Dcm said to him, "We'll have to invite her over to our house, so we can "share" our flowers with her." WTH? LOL!!!! Apparently, I'm the one with the sharing issues.

Unbelievable! Way to teach dcb to respect other people's property.

[daycare]

I tell parents

Drop off and pick up are the most hectic times of our day. for this reason, we ask that you make them short, sweet and simple for you, your child and the other children in care.

While I am sure you really want to see your child in action with their friends, please don't forget that per state licensing, you have access to your child, but you may not have access to the other children.

All of my kids are ready to go sitting my the door, they are not allowed to stand up and get off of the rug until the parents are ready to open that door and leave.

[e.j.]

Hmm. That just happened.
Then.....Dcm asks if he can have one of the cookies in on the shelf....

So bewildered, I just said "I guess so." What? What I'm really thinking is that he is hers now, go eat your own food! Whines for a cookie, so she just gives it to him. That was weird.

I've had that happen to me, too, and had the same reaction -. When it happened, I was too shocked and embarrassed to say no. It became a daily ritual with the mother actually encouraging her to open my cabinet to find something. When the other kids started to follow her lead, I finally grew a back bone and told her it couldn't continue to happen. It's crazy that you have to actually address something like this but sometimes, you just have to speak up. Turns out, dcm thought that since I was on the food program, it was okay for her to do. When I explained things, she apologized and never did it again. Chances are, that dcb will remember he got cookies from you once and he'll probably try it again. Prepare yourself.