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My dd will be 4 in a few weeks. She has started avoiding the daycare kids. She wakes up and will play for about an half hour with them. She eats meals and snacks with them. However, any other time she is in her room playing with her toys. She started this after the DCB her age tried ripping her earring out about a week maybe two weeks. I don't want to force her to come out and play. The other kids are all 2-years old so they are pretty much not interesting to her. I think it is she is bored with them. She tells me all the time she can't wait to go to school. How do you ladies handle this?
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That was part of the reason I sent both of my personal children to preschool half day. They went from 9am-12 noon and were with only kids their own ages. They came home in time for the daycare kids to take their naps. That gave me time to focus on just my daughter. After the daycare kids' nap, often enough, we would have a friend of my daughter's from the neighborhood come over for free play. -
My kids were allowed to be in their rooms when they wanted to. They had their own toys and special things they didn't have to share with dck's. I have to say, if a daycare child here was violent, I'd term him/her, whether the violence was directed at my child or a dck. I'd never want my child feeling like she had to hide in her room to be safe in her own home.Comment
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Unfortunately we don't have half day preschools except for a few at churches an they stay full. She is getting tested next month to attend the public school pre k but that starts in September. It is also a long day, bus arrives about 930 and she won't get off the bus till about 4:45. It is also on an as needed bases with kids who don't need the extra help filling the last spots if open. I've thought about putting her in the center my sister works at but I would have to go back to work outside the home.Comment
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I also let my own kids play alone in their rooms if they wanted . They kept all their personal toys and things in there and no dck were allowed in their rooms .MY children did not have to play with the dck if they did not want to .
To this day my 11 yr old will go up to his room when coming home after school so he does not have to hear the noise from the little ones .Comment
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I also sent my own kids to preschool at 4. It was nice for them to be able to make friends on their terms and not because they *had* to. It was only 9-11:30.
I also agree with terming kids who were aggressive towards my own kids. I never had to, but wouldn't hesitate to. And DH probably would have put his foot down if I didn't. Our kids deserve the same protections offered to dck's.
I see nothing wrong with having your child in her room playing if that's what she chooses. I would hope though that it's because she wants to, and not because she feels she has to due to aggressive kids, KWIM?Comment
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In my state during business hours we are no longer allowed to let our own children play in a non-licensed area of the house not even with their other parent.Comment
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Does your daughter have any friends in the neighborhood her own age? If not, you could do like I did and take your daughter on walks purposely looking for little kids her age. As we would see a child who looked like my daughter's age, I'd point the child out to my daughter and then naturally, the two kids would start talking. I'd stand back enough that it didn't look like I was trying to kidnap the child. The child's mother or father would come over and we'd introduce ourselves. By doing that, my daughter met 4 kids her own age that we didn't even know existed before walking to find friends for her.
If you find neighborhood friends for your daughter, if they are at home during the day, you can invite the child (and their parent until they feel comfortable letting their child go without them) to your house to play during the day.
If all your child's neighborhood friends work, you could offer a good discount or free daycare to one or two of them just so your daughter has friends to play with during the day.Comment
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Originally Posted by Unregistered
In my state during business hours we are no longer allowed to let our own children play in a non-licensed area of the house not even with their other parent.
What state do you live in?Comment
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Because pre-school is not an option for you could you find another DC and send her part time? One that offers a pre-school type program? I know in my town there are several DC that offer something like that.
Or how about a class of some kind? Even if its on a Saturday. I know that wont help her get out of her room but it will help her expand her world a little bit.Comment
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sorry I can't get past the fact that a kid her age tried to rip her earing out and he is still there?? So she is afraid in her own home?
Sorry maybe I am misunderstanding what happen???Comment
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It might just be a phase. Mine fall in and out of love with the dcks. Its just how it is. I thankfully am allowed to let mine play in their rooms if they want. If DH is home, they go upstairs (dc is downstairs) and hang with him. Don't force it and in a few months she might decide she likes them agian.Comment
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