DCP actively lookin for a new provider

[CraftyMom]

Sounds like this is the straw that broke the camel's back...all the other things added up, now one more thing...even though it's small it's just the last straw with these people

I would start advertising now that you know

[e.j.]

Sounds like this is the straw that broke the camel's back...all the other things added up, now one more thing...even though it's small it's just the last straw with these people

I would start advertising now that you know

This is what I was thinking, too... almost word for word!
If you can't afford to let them go until you replace them, start looking. If you can afford to let them go now, I'd give them their notice at pick up tonight.

[Unregistered]

Honestly, they were very nice, that's why I tried to bite my tongue with all the other occurrences. It was nothing to do with the quality of care I provided, they loved me and let me know daily. I guess being made to feel appreciated was why I kept them so long, but I recently raised my rates, and they didn't want to pay the higher rate. I am actually still lower priced for registered providers in my area, so am not insanely out of line. This was the only family that questioned the small rate change. I am owner of a facebook group that parents can contact looking for referrals, DCD went on there not saying anything bad about me, just that they were looking for a new lower priced provider. He didn't know I ran this group. Yes, this was the straw that broke the camels back. I know families can look for alternate care at any time, but what I wanted to avoid with them casually looking and leaving when I have 3 preschoolers leaving for preschool programs at the end of the school year. What I did is gave them 30 days notice to find a new provider, and even gave them a few referrals. The DCM was hysterical and angry. I felt bad, but this needed to be done. I am fine without the income, but already have a couple on my waitlist anyway. I know this isn't what everyone would have done. But this was what was right for me. Like I said, this was the straw that broke the camels back. Today should be interesting...I just hope DCD doesn't come...

[Shell]

Honestly, they were very nice, that's why I tried to bite my tongue with all the other occurrences. It was nothing to do with the quality of care I provided, they loved me and let me know daily. I guess being made to feel appreciated was why I kept them so long, but I recently raised my rates, and they didn't want to pay the higher rate. I am actually still lower priced for registered providers in my area, so am not insanely out of line. This was the only family that questioned the small rate change. I am owner of a facebook group that parents can contact looking for referrals, DCD went on there not saying anything bad about me, just that they were looking for a new lower priced provider. He didn't know I ran this group. Yes, this was the straw that broke the camels back. I know families can look for alternate care at any time, but what I wanted to avoid with them casually looking and leaving when I have 3 preschoolers leaving for preschool programs at the end of the school year. What I did is gave them 30 days notice to find a new provider, and even gave them a few referrals. The DCM was hysterical and angry. I felt bad, but this needed to be done. I am fine without the income, but already have a couple on my waitlist anyway. I know this isn't what everyone would have done. But this was what was right for me. Like I said, this was the straw that broke the camels back. Today should be interesting...I just hope DCD doesn't come...

do what you have to do, and no regrets!

[e.j.]

What I did is gave them 30 days notice to find a new provider, and even gave them a few referrals. The DCM was hysterical and angry.

Assuming you gave her referrals for cheaper care, you gave them exactly what they were looking for and dcm still got hysterical and angry! There's just no pleasing some people! If dcd does show up and causes a scene, I would term immediately instead of giving them the very generous 30 day notice you offered.

[midaycare]

You have mentioned terming this family in several threads starting back in October? What haven't you termed already? Every time you post about this family everyone tells you to term...

OP is probably concerned about eternal consequences.

[Meeko]

I have been a daycare provider for 29 years. I have dealt with every kind of parent out there. The good, the bad and the ugly.

But I have never brought their religion into it.

Catholic helicopter mom isn't that way because she's Catholic. Baptist neglectful mom isn't that way because she's a Baptist.

I have met irritating, rabid Catholics who have tried to "save" me. I have met irritating, rabid Baptists who have tried the same thing. I have know Catholics who are wonderful people. Same with Baptists.

Your Mormon mom was rude and I would have termed her. Sending church members over without your permission was not acceptable. But not all Mormons are like that.

It is no more acceptable to bash Mormons than it is to bash Catholics or Baptists etc. etc.

I'm a Mormon. I live in Utah. I have had awful daycare parents. I have had fantastic daycare parents. Nothing to do with their various religions.

[hope]

I do think that you should have termed for all the reasons you stated much earlier in the relationship and am curious as to why you didn't.
I would look for a replacement family and term once I can replace if I knew the current family was looking for another provider because I wouldn't want to be out the income unexpectedly.

[Controlled Chaos]

I have been a daycare provider for 29 years. I have dealt with every kind of parent out there. The good, the bad and the ugly.

But I have never brought their religion into it.

Catholic helicopter mom isn't that way because she's Catholic. Baptist neglectful mom isn't that way because she's a Baptist.

I have met irritating, rabid Catholics who have tried to "save" me. I have met irritating, rabid Baptists who have tried the same thing. I have know Catholics who are wonderful people. Same with Baptists.

Your Mormon mom was rude and I would have termed her. Sending church members over without your permission was not acceptable. But not all Mormons are like that.


It is no more acceptable to bash Mormons than it is to bash Catholics or Baptists etc. etc.

I'm a Mormon. I live in Utah. I have had awful daycare parents. I have had fantastic daycare parents. Nothing to do with their various religions.

[TaylorTots]

I had a parent once do the same when I raised rates. A local DCP contacted me to state she called her asking about rates and was looking around. I'm friends with a lot of DCPs in the area, so I compiled a list of local providers with their rates (80% were equal to or higher than mine) and all the local centers (which are all $200+ more a month for her child compared to my care) and their phone numbers. I told her that I thought this may help as she daycare shopped and be sure to adhere to the contract policies she signed when she gave her notice.

Passive-aggressive? Yes. Did I feel better? Yes. Worth it? Oh yes.


Oh, she ended up not finding cheaper care she liked and I had to term 3 months later anyway as she got SUPER disrespectful regarding my biting policy when her child started biting