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Over the years I feel I have been generous at birthdays and holidays with gifts. For instance besides a few small toys and scholastic books, I made 7 fleece hats for the kids this Xmas. Yesterday not one child acknowledged my gifts or wore my hats? They all had new name brand hats on....also yesterday was one mom's b-day I made her a cd of music I knew she liked that I had....not one word of thanks. How are kids going to learn manners if parents aren't starting it at home?My second issue is what do ya'll do with that one kid that comes extra early(my fault for allowing it I know), is too old to put back to bed but goes to preschool at 11:45............here is where I will get bashed..........I let her have tube time..........my family is still asleep and this is quiet.....we are a slow to get going group here and this transition time helps the others coming in also........they are more eager to leave parent at the door(no lingering adults). then it goes off.Thanks forgot my password and didn't have time to figure it out.
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I think that mentality is spreading like wildfire. I rarely get kids that have even heard the phrase 'thank you' or 'please'. People are always so surprised when my 2 year old says them and I am baffled, because I thought manners were customary things to teaach your child??? Apparently not! You sound like a wonderful provider and they are lucky to have you, even if they don't realize it.
And I think it is totally fine to let a kid watch tv when they come early. I have babies now, but when I had older kids, eavery morning was the same. The tv was on a child's program, free play toys were out, and once everyone was there, tv went off and the day "began". -
I agree that manners (especially appreciation and thanks) are a dying practice and that is sad but I don't think anyone should ever feel unappreciated for what they do. If you are wondering if the kids liked their hats....ask them.
If you are curious as to DCM liking the music CD, mention it.
You aren't asking them to say thank you but you are prompting them to acknowledge it and something that gets the ball rolling and if not, atleast you'll know they got it.
In the future, try to give gifts for the pure joy of giving verses looking for the appreciation and/or thanks that normally go along with gift giving.
Every year there are tons of threads posted about how hurt a provider is or how uncaring their daycare families are for not thanking them or even reciprocating. I feel badly that providers feel that way but a part of me also wonders why so many people give gifts that have that type of emotional expectations (NOT saying you are...just speaking in general here).
As for the TV thing....what ever. Just because one person may not use the TV in their program doesn't mean it's wrong for you to use it. We all have unique situations and circumstances that make our programs work so never apologize or feel badly about doing something others may not. As long as you and your clients are on the same page and agree then that is all that matters.Last edited by Blackcat31; 01-06-2015, 06:42 AM.Comment
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One thing I tell every parent I interview is that I will, teach and enforce manners . That is how I raised my kids and will do the same with theirs .
I bought small gifts for my dck , not 1 said anything about the gift . They all said thank you when I gave it to them , but nothing about what they got the next time they came .
Last week we stopped to get something to eat . as we were leaving all my kids thanked the older woman who held the door open , my oldest told her to she would hold the door for the woman , then my other child held the next door open for her . It was kinda funny as the line of us kept thanking each other . But when we got out side she touched my are and commented on how polite all my kids were and how you do not see that much anymore, I thanked her and we laughed again .Comment
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I do know how you feel but like BlackCat said you shouldn't have that expectation and now that you know what they are like you may think before giving them anything meaningful. Give as much as you get is my motto. I give out of the kindness of my heart but I am not a doormat!
I took care of a woman's two kids for 3.5 years and not only did she not give me anything as a thank you on the last day, she got me the exact same ornament at Christmas that she got the neighbour up the street that she barely knows! Lol! Some people are just dolts so don't go out of your way for them.Comment
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I wouldn't worry about early arrival tv. I do it! I don't feel bad about having the tv on for a 1/2 hour in the morning and 15 min. at noon.
I'm sorry you didn't get any thanks for your kind gifts. ;-(
I don't think I've ever gotten much of a thanks for the gifts I give the kids. I a cheap depot though. I get toys on clearance after Christmas for the next year that's around $7.00-$8.00 per kid. This year I can't find those deals.
I guess if you give gifts you can't expect a thank you. It's too bad.Comment
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I wouldn't worry about early arrival tv. I do it! I don't feel bad about having the tv on for a 1/2 hour in the morning and 15 min. at noon.
I'm sorry you didn't get any thanks for your kind gifts. ;-(
I don't think I've ever gotten much of a thanks for the gifts I give the kids. I'm a cheapo depot though! I get toys on clearance after Christmas for the next year that's around $7.00-$8.00 per kid. This year I can't find those deals.
I guess if you give gifts you can't expect a thank you. It's too bad.Comment
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