How Long Do You Allow

[Unregistered]

Nursing moms to stay and nurse? Just wondering if an hour is too long? Baby's been fed now she is cuddling with her. She didn't tell me she was coming she just showed up at nap time grrrr.

[Leigh]

I don't allow it at all. If they want to nurse, they may pick up their child and leave. I allow ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day. Parents may stop by at ANY time, but they will take their child with them when they leave.

If she wants to cuddle all day, she can do it at HER home, not mine. An hour of a parent visiting would cause utter chaos at my house.

[AuntTami]

I don't allow it at all. If they want to nurse, they may pick up their child and leave. I allow ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day. Parents may stop by at ANY time, but they will take their child with them when they leave.

If she wants to cuddle all day, she can do it at HER home, not mine. An hour of a parent visiting would cause utter chaos at my house.

Same here. One pick up, one drop off. They're welcome to come earlier than pik up time but they HAVE to take their kids with them when they leave. Baby has to get accustomed to YOU BOTTLE feeding him. He'll never get used to it if she's coming all the time to nurse and really? Is she going to keep this up long term or is it because baby is so new?

[Controlled Chaos]

It would depend on if the child was in the same space as the other kids
, the attitude of the parent, temperament of the baby after she leaves. Those things matter. I am very supportive of nursing mothers but don't have a problem addressing problematic behaviors in adults and children I have been lucky with mostly respectful and appreciative nursing moms so far. Ex: if they want to nurse before taking baby home they arrive 15 min before I close so they are out the door by 5

[Unregistered]

I don't allow moms to come and nurse. They can provide breast milk and I will feed them with a bottle. It would be too inconvenient and it could easily be taken advantage of, imo.

[lovemykidstoo]

I received a message from my neighbor last week. She has a friend that has her baby in a daycare in the adjoining city. I guess she pulled her because the baby would not take a bottle and was losing weight. She's looking for a daycare that she can go to twice a day to breastfeed and wondered if I knew anyone. I don't, but told her good luck that if the baby is not taking a bottle at all at home, that there is literally no way she will at a daycare. Oh boy! I guess the lady was willing to pay $4.50 an hour The pay would be good, but no way, not twice a day and you know that would increase over time.

[LysesKids]

I received a message from my neighbor last week. She has a friend that has her baby in a daycare in the adjoining city. I guess she pulled her because the baby would not take a bottle and was losing weight. She's looking for a daycare that she can go to twice a day to breastfeed and wondered if I knew anyone. I don't, but told her good luck that if the baby is not taking a bottle at all at home, that there is literally no way she will at a daycare. Oh boy! I guess the lady was willing to pay $4.50 an hour The pay would be good, but no way, not twice a day and you know that would increase over time.

I actually allow parents to come nurse at lunch (between 11-Noon only), but then all my kids are 18 months & younger. The only other time they get nursed in my home is at pick-up, I do not allow nap time disturbances (12-2pm). My home use to be closer to a bunch of moms, but this new home is minimum 20 minutes out from all but one, so nobody nurses anymore at lunch, just bottle fed. I allow moms to go into the playroom and close the door so i can feed the others

[Controlled Chaos]

I received a message from my neighbor last week. She has a friend that has her baby in a daycare in the adjoining city. I guess she pulled her because the baby would not take a bottle and was losing weight. She's looking for a daycare that she can go to twice a day to breastfeed and wondered if I knew anyone. I don't, but told her good luck that if the baby is not taking a bottle at all at home, that there is literally no way she will at a daycare. Oh boy! I guess the lady was willing to pay $4.50 an hour The pay would be good, but no way, not twice a day and you know that would increase over time.

See, I would give this a try for a month. I would have super strict rules for where mom would be during feedings etc. But for an infant I would try. Now a child over one is another story.

[KSDC]

I am also open to nursing moms. BUT - I expect mom to schedule it with me, not just show up randomly. AND, I don't allow anyone to hang out in the house during nap time, ever.
I have had a couple of moms that nursed at my home on their lunch breaks. For me, it worked out. the moms weren't disruptive. And, it was one feeding that I didn't have to fit into my schedule.

[lovemykidstoo]

I actually allow parents to come nurse at lunch (between 11-Noon only), but then all my kids are 18 months & younger. The only other time they get nursed in my home is at pick-up, I do not allow nap time disturbances (12-2pm). My home use to be closer to a bunch of moms, but this new home is minimum 20 minutes out from all but one, so nobody nurses anymore at lunch, just bottle fed. I allow moms to go into the playroom and close the door so i can feed the others

The question is, if you allow it just from 12-2 and then at pickup and the baby doesn't take a bottle at all, what happens if the baby just needs what I call a "top off" at any certain time of day. I only had 1 dcm that asked to breast feed at pickup. It got to the point that she was there 20 minutes after I closed and I put a stop to that right then. She only lived 5 min away too and the little girl was over a year. I think it's absolutely wonderful if you can accommodate a breast feeding mom and it works honestly. All the other moms that breastfed have just brought me frozen breastmilk that I kept on hand here. For a mom to be coming and going 2 or more times a day though I would think would be highly disruptive. I just sent my neighbor a message to see what ever happened with her friend.

[midaycare]

I believe - although I could be wrong - that I have to allow it. If I ever ran into this, it would be feeding and then that's it. So ... 20 minutes? I dunno, I never breastfed ds. My milk never came in. It wouldn't bother me too much. I would stick dcm upstairs and continue our lives downstairs.

[lovemykidstoo]

I believe - although I could be wrong - that I have to allow it. If I ever ran into this, it would be feeding and then that's it. So ... 20 minutes? I dunno, I never breastfed ds. My milk never came in. It wouldn't bother me too much. I would stick dcm upstairs and continue our lives downstairs.

That's what I wondered too is if you can legally say that they can't come in and breastfeed.

[cheerfuldom]

That's what I wondered too is if you can legally say that they can't come in and breastfeed.

This has been discussed over and over but for a home provider, we aren't legally required to allow others to breastfeed in our homes, just in general. Now specific states or licensing may have some restrictions but for the legally unlicensed provider, no you dont have to do anything. There is a lot of wiggle room even for licensed homes or centers. It is generally simple to say "I don't provide that service" and either the parents deal with it or find someone else. There is no way that a parent is going to come in and tell me I have do anything for them (legally unlicensed here). My house, my rules.

[Unregistered]

I'm also very pro breast feeding. I don't allow between 12:30-2:30 (nap time ). I've never had anyone stay an extended time. It might bother me, it might not. It just depends on the situation and the individual parent.

[Second Home]

This has been discussed over and over but for a home provider, we aren't legally required to allow others to breastfeed in our homes, just in general

If the regs change here we will have to allow moms to nurse in our home and provide a place with them to nurse in private.