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I have a dcg who is crying wolf A LOT to get her way. Recently she has started saying she is scared as an attempt to get her way. For instance today when she got up from naptime she refused to go get her undies from her cubby to put back on after she changed out of her pull up and insisted she was scared. But when asked what was making her scared she kept changing her answers. First it was the dark, but when I showed her the lights were on it then became a scary room. Then it was that other kids weren't with her etc, etc, etc. I just put her underwear in a bag and told her that we'll send them home and plan on talking with mom about it. I am at my witts end, and having a hard time handling her tantrum when she doesn't get her way. Any suggestions would be appreciated both on how to handle her behaviors so they are not so disruptive in taking time away from the other kids, and how to address with her parents.
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Don't give her so much attention.
I'd hand her the undies, walk her to the bathroom, then leave her alone until she's changed. If she's too scared to get changed I'd say "I can't hear you in there, I'll talk to you when you're done changing."
My ears don't understand whining, crying, yelling, etc voices. "I'll talk to you when you're done" and walking away works wonders because they don't get attention for their behavior. -
I try to work through it with the child, but if they refuse, then I move on. I have one going through an "I'm just shy" faze everytime I tell her to do something. We had a visitor last week, someone she has met 4 or 5 times now. She told the lady that she was too shy to tell her what her name was. But, she wasn't too shy to tell the lady everyone else's name. Today we went to see Santa and when I asked her if she wanted to sit on Santa's lap, her answer was "I'm just too shy". She sat on Santa's lap the past two years. This kid has NEVER met a stranger in her life.
I refuse to buy into it. Today, the other kids got a candy cane and a picture. She got nothing.
(Two of my grandkids (6, 9) are terrified of the dark at home, but not here. They each have nightlites AND several flashlights in their beds. Yet, if they wake up in the middle of the night, they call out and wake up Mom so they can go to the bathroom. Grandma doesn't play that game. They get up on their own.)Comment
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