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[Blackcat31]

I see it two ways- I will carry my kids (between 2 and 5) if they ask and IF I'm able/willing to. I love to snuggle and I consider that a form of cuddling. Now mind you, this is short distances, not carting them around everywhere. Before I was a provider I'm sure I carried my oldest (then 2/3) into daycare at times, BUT I don't think of it as babying. I stress self-help skills and teach my kids to do what they can for themselves (if not just for them, for my own sanity as well ) Now when a parent does it, and everything else, for a child- that bugs me! Or when they do it because the child is throwing a fit! That is setting your child up for a harsh reality (as well as all their teachers/caregivers!)

cyber smack me if you want, but I baby and carry my 7 year old.

he is my youngest, Hes a miracle to be alive and I can't have anymore so he will always be my baby no matter what.

BUT when it's time for him to have to do things on his own, I don't do things for him, I make him do everything on his own.

That is the difference though....

Knowing the difference between cuddling and coddling.

Depending on the situation and the child, it could be a positive thing (good example GoodLife) or a negative thing...such as some of the examples others have posted in regards to the child not being willing OR able to have developmentally appropriate self-help skills.

[permanentvacation]

When I read that, I thought, Oh God, shoot me! I can't stand that! It's a 10 for me! But it does seem to happen with many of my kids now. And many of my kids for the past few years are much less capable than the kids I had 10 years ago. The parents overall are treating their children like little babies. They don't make them walk, don't make them speak correctly, don't make them clean up, don't teach them how to put their coats or clothes on for themselves, etc. I am horribly irritated by the way parents treat their children like babies.

[SignMeUp]

I have a child who began here at age three. He did not even lift a foot to put into the shoe - mom had to do it all. Or an arm into a sleeve - he did not push, she had to 'fish' it through like a tiny baby. My goodness, my 8 month old pushes her arms through ::

I just worked on it here after realizing mom had zero interest in doing so. A year later and he's fully capable and can even zip Yahoo! Mom still does everything when she's here though ::

[MissAnn]

When I read that, I thought, Oh God, shoot me! I can't stand that! It's a 10 for me! But it does seem to happen with many of my kids now. And many of my kids for the past few years are much less capable than the kids I had 10 years ago. The parents overall are treating their children like little babies. They don't make them walk, don't make them speak correctly, don't make them clean up, don't teach them how to put their coats or clothes on for themselves, etc. I am horribly irritated by the way parents treat their children like babies.

I had a mom aske me how the kids up on the toilet.....her kid was almost 4.

[MissAnn]

I had a mom aske me how the kids up on the toilet.....her kid was almost 4.

Really bugs me that I put a e on ask. :dislike:

[Bookworm]

We had a DCB-3 who had serious speech issues. No one could understand him. He didn't know how to dress himself at all and had problems drinking from a styrofoam cup. Then one day dad dropped off and everything made sense. I never heard such baby talk to a 3 yr old in my life. It almost sounded like dad was talking to a dog. He got accepted into 4k and sadly we never found out if he had any improvement.

[permanentvacation]

MissAnn,

Regarding the toilet question, I believe it! Some parents just amaze me!

[permanentvacation]

MissAnn,

Regarding the toilet question, I fully believe it! Some parents amaze me!

[DaveA]

On a 1-10 scale I'd say a 5.

Yes - it's annoying and counterproductive. On the flip side I've seen more than enough unattached/ uncaring/ emotionally distant parents to not get too upset about it.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have a child who began here at age three. He did not even lift a foot to put into the shoe - mom had to do it all. Or an arm into a sleeve - he did not push, she had to 'fish' it through like a tiny baby. My goodness, my 8 month old pushes her arms through ::

I just worked on it here after realizing mom had zero interest in doing so. A year later and he's fully capable and can even zip Yahoo! Mom still does everything when she's here though ::

I have a 3yo here that didn't have a CLUE how to take their sock OFF. I had honestly never met a child that had no idea how to take it off. I had to teach and we are still working on this skill. Nevermind putting it on...

[Former Teacher]

How much does it bug you when a dad carries in a 4 year old and then says in a baby voice to that child....."hugs and kissies!!!!"

Just had to get that off my chest. happyface

I had a boy in Pre-K years ago. He would ALWAYS answer (in a whiney voice) with "Whaty?". I would say No Wesley, not whaty? It is what? or Yes Ma'am? etc

One day, the father dropped him off. Wesley said in that whiney voice "Daddy!". Yep you guessed it. The father turned around and said in an equally whiney voice "Whaty?"

I wanted to scream!

[MissAnn]

I had a boy in Pre-K years ago. He would ALWAYS answer (in a whiney voice) with "Whaty?". I would say No Wesley, not whaty? It is what? or Yes Ma'am? etc

One day, the father dropped him off. Wesley said in that whiney voice "Daddy!". Yep you guessed it. The father turned around and said in an equally whiney voice "Whaty?"

I wanted to scream!

Aaaaaaaargh.......I just spit out my coffee! Did you tell that dad to use his big boy voice?

[MissAnn]

I have a 3yo here that didn't have a CLUE how to take their sock OFF. I had honestly never met a child that had no idea how to take it off. I had to teach and we are still working on this skill. Nevermind putting it on...

Babies take socks OFF! It's a good thing he is with you!if I get a kid with very low self help skills I will work very hard to get him up to par. I don't want them to go off to kindergarten and for that kindergarten teacher to think I didn't teach them anything!sending kids to kindergarten well prepared is very good advertising!happyface

[AuntTami]

I had a boy in Pre-K years ago. He would ALWAYS answer (in a whiney voice) with "Whaty?". I would say No Wesley, not whaty? It is what? or Yes Ma'am? etc

One day, the father dropped him off. Wesley said in that whiney voice "Daddy!". Yep you guessed it. The father turned around and said in an equally whiney voice "Whaty?"

I wanted to scream!

. I'm 27 and my dad still responds "whaty" when I say "daddy" .

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Babies take socks OFF! It's a good thing he is with you!if I get a kid with very low self help skills I will work very hard to get him up to par. I don't want them to go off to kindergarten and for that kindergarten teacher to think I didn't teach them anything!sending kids to kindergarten well prepared is very good advertising!happyface

I think there are some bigger issues at play here, but Mom did say she coddles her kids. Not sure I can really get this little one fully up to par since he is only here 2x/week but I will try.