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both behaviorally and academically?
He is one of my best behaved children- by FAR. A little rambunctious/full of boy energy. But nothing out of the ordinary. He can reign himself in with a reminder or two to calm down. Has never been aggressive or destructive.
He's 3, almost 4. His parents are VERY hard on him. EVERYTHING is a BIG DEAL. At pick up yesterday my ds was getting ready to go practice as ds was getting picked up. His Mom and I were chatting while I was getting ready and to be silly, her ds and my ds swapped a boot. They stood there giggling until we noticed. I laughed and said you goofs! and ds and dck started to take them off to switch. Dcm took him by the arm and put him in time out for being 'disrespectful' and not following directions. I got 'the look' from her over my reaction, which was to ruffle my son's hair and tell him to go grab his bag for practice.
Another example- she expects him to get up, get dressed and attempt to make his bed before leaving his room. She sets his clothes out on his dresser when she wakes him and says "Get ready, make your bed and come to the table for breakfast."
Sorry, he still struggles with multistep directions! This is something I do with my 6 year old! Not a 3 year old!
Last night I got a lengthy email from her with concerns over his behavior. Eg. he laughs when put in time out (he's there a LOT I assume, he's never been in TO here) He gets out of bed. His bedtime is at 7:30 SHARP. Their routine is OCD to the minute and it's like she expects him to be asleep the second his head hits the pillow. If he potties, or asks for anything, he gets a TO. He has been telling her NO. I saw it this morning, she told him to remove his boots, put them in his cubby, then come give her a kiss. He said NO, she put him in TO until he was ready to listen. He put the boots away, and then went to play. She called to him to come back and 'follow directions' and I shooed her out.
She points out my other dck's NORMAL behavior (eg toy taking, budging in line, scowl faces when told no,etc) and says "I will never let DCK behave that way."
Sorry, this is crazy long it's been building up for the last few weeks and driving me nuts!
He is one of my best behaved children- by FAR. A little rambunctious/full of boy energy. But nothing out of the ordinary. He can reign himself in with a reminder or two to calm down. Has never been aggressive or destructive.
He's 3, almost 4. His parents are VERY hard on him. EVERYTHING is a BIG DEAL. At pick up yesterday my ds was getting ready to go practice as ds was getting picked up. His Mom and I were chatting while I was getting ready and to be silly, her ds and my ds swapped a boot. They stood there giggling until we noticed. I laughed and said you goofs! and ds and dck started to take them off to switch. Dcm took him by the arm and put him in time out for being 'disrespectful' and not following directions. I got 'the look' from her over my reaction, which was to ruffle my son's hair and tell him to go grab his bag for practice.
Another example- she expects him to get up, get dressed and attempt to make his bed before leaving his room. She sets his clothes out on his dresser when she wakes him and says "Get ready, make your bed and come to the table for breakfast."
Sorry, he still struggles with multistep directions! This is something I do with my 6 year old! Not a 3 year old!
Last night I got a lengthy email from her with concerns over his behavior. Eg. he laughs when put in time out (he's there a LOT I assume, he's never been in TO here) He gets out of bed. His bedtime is at 7:30 SHARP. Their routine is OCD to the minute and it's like she expects him to be asleep the second his head hits the pillow. If he potties, or asks for anything, he gets a TO. He has been telling her NO. I saw it this morning, she told him to remove his boots, put them in his cubby, then come give her a kiss. He said NO, she put him in TO until he was ready to listen. He put the boots away, and then went to play. She called to him to come back and 'follow directions' and I shooed her out.
She points out my other dck's NORMAL behavior (eg toy taking, budging in line, scowl faces when told no,etc) and says "I will never let DCK behave that way."
Sorry, this is crazy long it's been building up for the last few weeks and driving me nuts!
Poor kids. Anytime the older brother did something, dcm would scold him or tell me things he does at home and gets in trouble for. Mostly things kids his age do. This child is very bright and she expects him to do things way above what's appropriate and if he doesn't, he gets in trouble. 
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