How To Tell A Parent You Are Transitioning Their Kid To A Cot?

[Leigh]

I have always done the same. I move them when they are developmentally ready.

However, I would never feel comfortable lying to a daycare parent about it.

I would definitely try to inform them of why I am making the transition but I just wouldn't be ok with purposely lying to a parent. If a parent had issue with their child being moved to a mat, I would try to talk with them about it but if they didn't agree with me and still said no, then I would tell them I am not the right fit for them instead of just lying and doing whatever worked best for me.
I am surprised at the number of providers that advise other providers to with hold information or to outright lie to the parent about something as so many of these same providers complain and vent about parents that with hold and outright lie to them. Why is it okay to do what is best for you in your programs but it's not okay for parents to do what's best for them?
I understand that this kind of thing is something that directly affects your day but isn't that a two way street? Everything we do also affects the parents too in one way or another.

I wouldn't consider it "withholding information"...I don't believe I have ever had a parent CARE where their child slept. They've never asked. In my interviews and in my handbook I state that children will be provided with a safe and appropriate place to sleep, either a crib, pack-n-play or cot. If ever a parent asked, I wouldn't lie to them about it, but they really don't appear to worry about it.

[jenboo]

are you licensed? We are required to move children by 18 months or if they exceed the height/weight requirements of the crib/pack and play.
I love using licensing as my backbone

[Unregistered]

I wouldn't consider it "withholding information"...I don't believe I have ever had a parent CARE where their child slept. They've never asked. In my interviews and in my handbook I state that children will be provided with a safe and appropriate place to sleep, either a crib, pack-n-play or cot. If ever a parent asked, I wouldn't lie to them about it, but they really don't appear to worry about it.

I don't consider not discussing it with parents with holding information. I was referring to the situation the OP mentioned where a parent actually DID have issue with it.

When parents actually say anything about it, then it's definitely with holding information or outright lying depending on the situation.

[lovemykidstoo]

If a parent had a problem with it in my care, I would just revert to the licensing rules or just simply say that he/she does just fine here with it. There is no reason to lie about it. It's really not something that has come up in a conversation with any of my parents. As far as it being considered withholding? I think that's just an attempt by an unregistered person to poke. There is alot that goes on during the day that I don't report to the parent at the end of the day. Is that considered "withholding"?

Bottom line, run your program the way you see fit and don't bend for anyone. If they don't like it, tell them to hit the bricks!