Closing Down

[melilley]

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through something like that Dave. I wish you luck in your future endeavors! :hug:

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I had a sexual abuse complaint made last year. Her "facts" were clearly fabricated and those that investigated were rolling their eyes at the end. Mom just wanted to get out of her contract. I pray that this isn't what you are facing...because people ARE crazy and it really IS disheartening.

Fight it. Fight whatever they are saying that is false about you. (((HUGS)))

[sugar buzz]

I'm really sorry. When the dust settles, you should write about your experience being a male in the childcare industry. I bet that many of the parent magazines would pay for that article. It sounds like that type of discrimination needs some exposure.

[crazydaycarelady]

I also had a sexual abuse allegation against my dc. As Heidi said they came and "investigated" and it was determined to be unfounded, which it absolutely was. Dcm who made the complaint still wanted to bring her kid here. I of course said he!! to the NO! Whose kids gets "sexually abused" but they still want to continue care? No one! Also the cousin of that family remained in my dc for a few more years, even they didn't buy it!

It is crazy the things that people will pull! This dcm wanted to have something to hold over my head so I would watch her kid 2 extra days, which I had declined.

I imagine it is even more difficult for a man in this field. Good luck to you Michael!

[Laurel]

I had a sexual abuse complaint made last year. Her "facts" were clearly fabricated and those that investigated were rolling their eyes at the end. Mom just wanted to get out of her contract. I pray that this isn't what you are facing...because people ARE crazy and it really IS disheartening.

Fight it. Fight whatever they are saying that is false about you. (((HUGS)))

If it was reported and then was unfounded, wouldn't you have some legal recourse against her like a counter suit or do I watch too much Judge Judy? It sounds like she was deliberately making up lies to ruin your reputation and business.

Laurel

[midaycare]

I'm sorry. Just ... :hug:

[dave4him]

Kind of a weird sad feeling send in my letter of closing, taking down my board with all the daycare notices, getting the machine ready to go back. I don't feel unhappy, just kind of sigh like.

[dave4him]

Actually I feel like crying, but I think I can hold it in.

[Josiegirl]

Awww It's terrible the allegations from one person can change our lives completely.

[passedpawn]

Has this turned into a founded complaint? If it has you can file an appeal.
if they are still investigating it will seem like they are leaning against you no matter what. The system ****s but let them do their work, if it doesn't go in your favor appeal the decision.

[Wednesday!]

Yes, don't let them put you in a stereotypical box. We NEED more men in this profession. Being a man shouldn't make you an easy target.

[dave4him]

I am appealing it either way. I am having the hardest time simply forgiving the accusers and moving ahead with my life without a daycare. I know its for the best though to shut it down. I just hope in the long run the whole thing can just be done.

[KidGrind]

Fight it.
You know the truth.
I know there is a prejudice against male providers.
Woman often abuse too, hence all the news stories.
If you did what they say you did, why no legal actions?
If it were my child, the law would be involved.
So fight it Sir, some parents are vindictive when they don’t get their way.

Cry let it out!
Crying doesn’t make you a b**ch baby.
Continue to stand up for yourself.
Good luck!

[Wednesday!]

I hate that you closed. Can I ask, did state suspend your license pending an investigation? Or you chose to close due to this incident?

I felt the overwhelming urge to close after an infant died of SIDS at my center almost 3 years ago. It was crushing in every way and the state treated us like criminals during the investigation. They did everything they could to find some fault in our actions that day, but ultimately, they couldn't. They officially ended their investigation after 9 miserable months.

I could've closed at any point during that time and they would've been quite happy, but I just couldn't do it. I already had plans in the works to close the center, before this happened, because I wanted to be a home provider, but I refused to do it under those circumstances. I wanted to close on my terms, not theirs.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I hope you closed on your own terms. I don't want you to look back and have any regrets, that's all. Be proud of what you accomplished and be happy that your were able to touch the lives of your families and their kids. I still think you should fight this until the bitter end, but don't let this taint your entire experience as a provider.

[dave4him]

No one told me to close, I took it upon myself to do so. My parents and wife thought it was a good idea though. Not sure my wife ever really wanted me to have a daycare in house anyway so she is probably happier still. I have to find a second income source for the remainder of time while I am in school though.