Closing Down

[dave4him]

I am sadly closing the doors on my daycare experience. It has been a long three years but after recent events I just cannot take the added pressure along with school. There have been complaints made about me and my treatment of one of the daycare kids. I don't care if it means I cannot have a daycare anymore, I just pray it does not affect me getting a teaching certificate. Either way the claims are false, but it doesn't seem like it matters much what I say about the issue. It ****s that it is that way and I really don't know what else I can do. I am just done.

[Josiegirl]

I'm so sorry. We give our hearts, time, money, homes, away for these kids and their families and to have something falsely said about you must sting to the core.
I wish you the best of luck in your teaching endeavors.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I'm very sorry to hear this, Dave.
I don't think an unfounded complaint should effect your teaching future. I hope not.

[DaveA]

I'm sorry to hear about that.

Good luck on school and teaching.

[dave4him]

The problem is if they think its true then it must be. They can say its substantiated based on just what they hear alone. Its a bad system.

[Laurel]

I'm so sorry. I truly hope everything works out for you.

The system is so unfair sometimes. I hope they get this straightened out.

Laurel

[Laurel]

P.S. If you have daycare insurance, they should be able to represent you in this if it becomes a legal matter. Unless it is like a case with Marina Vanessa and 'they' are the ones making the claims.

[dave4him]

There are no legal claims which is good. Its really a he said she said, but I think they have people who are biased against a male caregiver in the first place. Either way im tired and done with the whole thing.

[Heidi]

unless there is physical proof or you admit anything, they will not "substantiate" , Since substantiate means they have proof, they can't claim they do. Give them the facts only, or better yet, if you have an attorney, get some advice there. If they rule against you, FIGHT IT. If you did nothing wrong, do NOT let it follow you.

Sorry to hear about this. Best wishes, Dave.

[dave4him]

Thank you. I will make a statement providing they let me appeal the allegations. I just don't know how to word it.

[Second Home]

Sorry to hear you are going through this . I worry all the time about a parent getting mad and accusing me of doing something wrong to get back at me .

I am sure that someone on here who is good at writing letters would help you out with yours when the time comes .

Good luck with school and teaching . My oldest dd will be graduating high school this year and would like become a teacher .

[Heidi]

Thank you. I will make a statement providing they let me appeal the allegations. I just don't know how to word it.

Have they come out to "investigate" the allegations?

Usually, a complaint is made, they come out to talk to you and investigate (basically, you tell your side of the story), and then they say if it's founded or unfounded.

When they talk to you, generally, the best thing is to say less vs. more, I think. Simply saying "that never happened, nothing even close to it happened, and I'm shocked that anyone would even accuse me of that" is better than "well, there was this one time when I yelled at that boy, and made him go to time out, but I certainly didn't hurt him".

Not an attorney, but I have 2x had false accusations made (years ago), and both times, they were deemed unfounded.

[Play Care]

I agree with Heidi. Unless there is a "founded" allegation, you shouldn't have any issues.
But I would walk away also because I would hate for daycare (which in your case was supposed to be a temporary thing until you finished your degree, IIRC?) ruin all you are trying to build.
Best of luck!

[daycarediva]

I am so sorry you're going through that. I live in fear of a false allegation, it can absolutely destroy your life if it's pushed through.

(((((HUGS)))))

[butterfly]

So sorry, Dave. Praying for you! :hug: