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I haven't posted in a while. It's been a crazy couple of months. Some of this may be TMI but I'm going to post anyway because I learned it is useless to be embarrassed. So here it goes: I went to the gyno on Sept. 17 and told her I had been having some rectal bleeding and was a little concerned. It seemed to me the problem was something on the outside of my bottom (I still have a hard time using the word anus so I'm going to refer to it as "bottom"). She said she saw two little "bumps", not hemorrhoids but wasn't sure what they were. She sent me to the gastroenterologist who without even examining me except to take my weight, blood pressure, listen to my heart and lungs, sent me for a colonoscopy even though I made it clear the problem was on the outside. I was super annoyed to be having my first colonoscopy (I believe that unless there's a family history of colon cancer you don't start til age 50 and I'm 40). Thank God I did. The doctor removed two polyps one of which initially I was told was cancerous. He sent me to a surgeon who sent the polyp for a second opinion. The second opinion came back as "severe dysplasia". Had that polyp been left in place I'd have not discovered it for another ten years when it may have been too late. Meanwhile, the surgeon did examine my bottom and found a fissure and fistula (the two "spots" the gyno saw) and has since repaired them. Circling back to how this relates to daycare...The day they called to say the polyp was cancerous I was such a wreck I had to have the kids picked up early. I have NEVER closed for illness, emergency, etc in the 11 years I have done childcare in my home. I've taken two vacations in all those years. I've never been anything but flexible. You need to drop off early? Ok, that's no problem. Pick up a little late? I can do that. You name it, I've helped. I have one family I've had for almost 8 years through two children. I've seen them through a separation, getting back together, etc. I've been so good to them. Well, the very day of that horrifying phone call they started looking for (and found) another provider. I know this because they were kind enough (ha) to tell me when they gave notice. Told me matter of factly. Ouch. Also told me how having me care for their girls was like leaving them with a best trusted friend. But this was a "business decision". They had no back up even though I always made one thing very clear in spite of my track record: HAVE BACK UP. Also told me new provider is $15 cheaper than I am a week. So, What did I learn: A. This is a business and I should treat it as such because the parents will regardless of your friendship. B. More importantly we do no one any favors when we put off our own needs for those of our "client's" and furthermore why should we be any less important than anyone else. C. MOST IMPORTANT: Nothing is worth more than our health. I have yet to replace this child's spot and am struggling financially but ya know what? I'm well. I'm not sick. I'm ok. I'm going to be here for my husband and my son. NOTHING is worth more than that. I won't die if I struggle to pay some bills. I'll catch up. It will be ok if Christmas is a little smaller this year. There's even a lesson in that about what the holiday truly means. But all that matters is that we are all TOGETHER, warm, fed, clothed. TOGETHER and HEALTHY. :hug:lovethis
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Oh wow! I am so sorry to hear about your frightening experience... I can only imagine how scary it was! But I am super glad everything is okay.
I am also sorry about how your DC clients treated you... I know we all have to do what works best for us but it IS a slap in the face when you do a ton of giving only to get stomped on later in your time of need. I am sorry.
But back to the positive side.....
I am super happy you are healthy and a bit wiser now!!!!! happyface happyface happyface -
Oh my goodness!! I am so glad you got checked out and are on the mend!
And I've always said that no good deed goes unpunished. Hopefully they will get what they deserve though
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It's weird because even though I think I'm over it (the family that left) it still brings tears to my eyes to talk about it. I wish they would have kept to themselves that they called another daycare the very day I heard that news. It wasn't kind to share that even though it wasn't said in a nasty way.
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Wow! I am so happy that you went when you did.
How horrible of them to tell you that! I'm sure their goal was guilt trip "for leaving them in a tight spot". How dare you get sick and frightened when faced with cancer!
Much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving! Thankful you went to the dr when you did and thankful for your family's health. What could be better than that? :hug:Comment
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It's because they hurt youIt's weird because even though I think I'm over it (the family that left) it still brings tears to my eyes to talk about it. I wish they would have kept to themselves that they called another daycare the very day I heard that news. It wasn't kind to share that even though it wasn't said in a nasty way.
I had a family for nine years, through three beautiful children that I loved.
I think I cried for a year and a half when they left and never looked back.
Nine years of professed love, every day It really hurts sometimes, when it takes you by surprise.
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I am so happy you are going to be okay.
Wow, they can't take off a half day for an emergency?
Just make sure that you don't do them any favors if they call for you to be a backup at some later date. I would say "Sorry, no." If asked why I'd say "It's a business decision."
Wow, that just makes me angry.
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:hug: I'm glad that you are ok!
I agree with Laurel, it makes me mad that that family did that to you and if they ever do call for backup, I would say what Laurel said!Comment
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Wait, they left because of having to pick up early? Or they happened to be about to give notice and told you the news on the worst possible day?
Congrats on being healthy and I hope you can enjoy your holidays! :hug:Comment
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That bites they did that. I've been open 8 years and I've always been a little scared to close sometimes, but when I was diagnosed with heart failure and cardiomyopathy this summer, I learned the same thing you did, health comes before business. Luckily I only had 2 take a couple Fridays off for a couple hospital procedures, but I still haven't taken my vaca this year and was feeling guilty about doing it. Finally I decided that I still need rest so I am going to take my vaca. We need to take care of ourselves to take care of them, and some of them just don't get that. Sorry that family did that to you. :hug: Hopefully soon you will find a better family and in the meantime thank God you got checked out and fixed up.lovethis daymommy to 7 kiddos - 5 girls and 2 boysComment
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:hug: I'm glad your ok. What scary thing to go through. I also agree with Laurel, if they call you for back up to tell them no it's a business decision
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I got the medical news on a Friday morning and needed the following Monday off for an appointment with the surgeon. The dad called me the Monday of the surgeon apt and gave me two weeks notice and said that the previous Friday and that day had been a "disaster" for them because they didn't have back up.Comment
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:hug::hug::hug:
What that family did was mean, and mean people ****.
Sooooo glad you are well!Comment
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