Yep, Royally Ticked Off a DCM Today

[Wubby]

Holy wow, some people are crazy: Dcm is telling me about how sneaky her 5 yr old is. Dad catches 5 yr old (dcg)with a bink in her mouth.
My response: " Why in the world does she even have a bink, she is 5 yrs old, really"
Mom " Well I am trying to wean little sister (aka 2 yr old dcg), so I had big sis show little sis how cool binks are." insert mom smiling.
Me with mouth filter shut off: " Are you insane, why would you do that. You are trading boob for a bink at the age of 2. That's like trading your 16 yr old a beer for a joint because you don't want him to drink. How about just saying NO."

[Josiegirl]

You can DO that? You can say No to a child and everyone will survive??

[taylorw1210]

:: I'd really like to know her reaction to that...

[CraftyMom]

What did she say?

You are right...not the way I would have worded it...but very true! ::

[Blackcat31]

What did she say?

You are right...not the way I would have worded it...but very true! ::

It's definitely hard but I try not to make comments about a parent's choices.

It only matters to me what happens here. The rest is on them.

[TaylorTots]

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Thanks! I needed this!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Made me laugh! What did she say?

That is usually how my mind operates. I know I come across as harsh and to the point so I work VERY hard at sounding nice when I don't agree with something...sometimes I do poorly at it. Usually that looks like me staring at them.

[taylorw1210]

Made me laugh! What did she say?

That is usually how my mind operates. I know I come across as harsh and to the point so I work VERY hard at sounding nice when I don't agree with something...sometimes I do poorly at it. Usually that looks like me staring at them.

This is totally me.

[Wubby]

Made me laugh! What did she say?

That is usually how my mind operates. I know I come across as harsh and to the point so I work VERY hard at sounding nice when I don't agree with something...sometimes I do poorly at it. Usually that looks like me staring at them.

This is a parent that follows every trend, wanted to potty train at 12 mos., teach the baby to read ect. She is tired of nursing, says it is not fun anymore, it's more of a chore.

The conversation was " Dad caught 5 yr old with a bink, hiding behind the couch."
Me " Why in the world does she even have a bink, she is 5 yrs old, really" I pulled it here when she turned 2..
Mom "Well I am trying to wean little sister (aka 2 yr old dcg), so I had big sis show little sis how cool binks are." insert mom smiling.
Mom asks me "Could you try and give dcg a bottle or bink so I can ween her?"
Me with mouth filter shut off: " Are you insane, why would you do that. You are trading boob for a bink at the age of 2. That's like trading your 16 yr old a beer for a joint because you don't want him to drink. How about just saying NO."
Her response "But, if I tell her no she will cry. I tried giving her a bottle and she won't take it" (well duh, she hasn't had a bottle here in 9 mos and has never used a bink) "
My response "Kids cry, tell her no now. It won't be so hard when she is a teen."
Pretty much mom does not want to be the bad guy.

And this morning she says " Oh man, we had a really rough night. 5 yr old cried because she couldn't have a bink and the 2 yr old cried because she couldn't have boob. I finally gave in to both at 11pm"
Me

[lovemykidstoo]

It's definitely hard but I try not to make comments about a parent's choices.

It only matters to me what happens here. The rest is on them.

I try not to either. Sometimes, boy it's so hard. I have literally had blood running from my mouth from biting my tongue sometimes ! Last week a mom came and was out of breath literally. She said she had to stop at home because she realized that she didn't have a piece of candy for dcb to have in the car on the way home. He's 3 1/2. Seriously? You actually went home first to get candy so dcb wouldn't throw a fit. Wow! Bit my tongue good on that one. of course, this is the one that as soon as he gets home he asks for a diaper so he can go behind the couch and poop.

[Thriftylady]

You can DO that? You can say No to a child and everyone will survive??

I don't think you can, if my son and his GF are the ones doing it . My grandson just turned a year and the other day they were here and I told them "you need to take that bottle away NOW, he is already getting attached to it". She told me "I can't take it away he won't use a sippy and he will get dehydrated". I said "uses one at my house all the time I fail to see any issue other than you two don't like him to cry". I told her leave him here for three days and nights and he will never want another bottle, he hasn't come yet.