I Actually Told A DCM "No"!

**midaycare** · 11-03-2014, 08:14 AM

You go! Love it!

**Baby Beluga** · 11-03-2014, 08:25 AM

Good for you! And you are correct, it's not your fault if they don't know how to manage money. How would a DCP feel if you suddenly said "Sorry DCP, you have to bring your child's food this week. I didn't manage my money well so I don't have enough money to go grocery shopping for the week!"

**TaylorTots** · 11-03-2014, 08:47 AM

Originally posted by Baby Beluga

Good for you! And you are correct, it's not your fault if they don't know how to manage money. How would a DCP feel if you suddenly said "Sorry DCP, you have to bring your child's food this week. I didn't manage my money well so I don't have enough money to go grocery shopping for the week!"

**daycarediva** · 11-03-2014, 10:12 AM

I would switch them to Fridays like everyone else, too.

Also, they have gloves at the $1 store that would work ok for fall, she could scrounge for change to buy them! I bought some for my own younger kids because they lose theirs at school constantly. I wouldn't feel guilty.

**TaylorTots** · 11-03-2014, 10:53 AM

Walmart $.97 2 pack of fall type gloves. I stock up for DCKs and my own kids as we lose so many gloves @ school. I found them in the baby/toddler section, the big boys section and the big girls section.

**butterfly** · 11-03-2014, 10:56 AM

Good job!

Praying this check won't bounce though...

**Crazy8** · 11-03-2014, 11:08 AM

Good for you! If DCM gets paid on Thursday but by Monday is out of money, you need to do her the "favor" of switching her back to Fridays.

I require payments on their last scheduled day of care for the week but I do allow them to choose weekly or biweekly since that is how some get paid. But once they choose a method they have to stick with it. I can relate to running low on cash by the 2nd week so if they want to pay in advance that is fine by me! Always in advance though!!!!!

**Hazel** · 11-03-2014, 11:09 AM

I feel your pain. I have one mom like this. This is the mom who is ALWAYS behind on payments (my fault, I let it happen... I'm too nice) BUT every week, at some point, she complains about her money problems...
Ex:
DCM :" my freaking job shorted my check! I go and tell them and they say.. 'well you'll have to wait until the next pay period'
DCM: "so I says to them, well how am I gonna pay for daycare?"

She ALWAYS complains about money and tells me how she tells everyone who wants money from her "how am I gonna pay for daycare?"

I KNOW she tells me this crap so I'll feel bad for her but FOR GOODNESS SAKE! I've already been ok with her paying a little extra each week to catch up on past due payments....
She is almost 40, lives at home with her parents and only pays her cell, car, car insurance and healthcare premium.... And for a while she had medicaid (yet she complained even then!)
This is the same mom who wanted to pay with her food stamps!
Honestly, I get it. Times are tough. But she's not the sweetest lady either... She will come in early bc I forgot to lock the door. She over shares about her personal life. She will go on and on to me and then roll her eyes when another parent comes in and I interupt her to greet the other parent and their child.
I love her baby to death. She has such a sad situation but if I didn't have a good enrollment right now I would advertise and replace her. As it is, I'm ok with her being a little late but just HATE the comments!

**SignMeUp** · 11-03-2014, 11:13 AM

Melilley.
One of mine forgot to pay me last week and had a late-fee invoice in their mail slot today. They came in and tried to tell me that I hadn't left them a "reminder to pay" and clearly wanted the late fee forgiven.

I know they just forgot. They just switched their payment systems. But I gave them two reminders in the two weeks preceding the switch, and I also changed my policy on "reminder" notes and am no longer doing them. Which I let everyone know about in their mail slots prior to last week's pay-day.

Bottom line: Reminding people to pay me feels like begging for my pay and I am done with it. Pay me on time or pay me the late fee - it's up to you

^^ No drama here

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**melilley** · 11-03-2014, 11:53 AM

Originally posted by butterfly

Good job!

Praying this check won't bounce though...

Lol, that's what dh said!

**melilley** · 11-03-2014, 12:01 PM

Originally posted by Hazel

I feel your pain. I have one mom like this. This is the mom who is ALWAYS behind on payments (my fault, I let it happen... I'm too nice) BUT every week, at some point, she complains about her money problems...
Ex:
DCM :" my freaking job shorted my check! I go and tell them and they say.. 'well you'll have to wait until the next pay period'
DCM: "so I says to them, well how am I gonna pay for daycare?"

She ALWAYS complains about money and tells me how she tells everyone who wants money from her "how am I gonna pay for daycare?"

I KNOW she tells me this crap so I'll feel bad for her but FOR GOODNESS SAKE! I've already been ok with her paying a little extra each week to catch up on past due payments....
She is almost 40, lives at home with her parents and only pays her cell, car, car insurance and healthcare premium.... And for a while she had medicaid (yet she complained even then!)
This is the same mom who wanted to pay with her food stamps!
Honestly, I get it. Times are tough. But she's not the sweetest lady either... She will come in early bc I forgot to lock the door. She over shares about her personal life. She will go on and on to me and then roll her eyes when another parent comes in and I interupt her to greet the other parent and their child.
I love her baby to death. She has such a sad situation but if I didn't have a good enrollment right now I would advertise and replace her. As it is, I'm ok with her being a little late but just HATE the comments!

This family does the same thing!
Her work shorted her check before too. Don't know if I believe that. They have been late many times with payments, finally one day I made her come at 9 at night because she was already late, but that was her choice, she didn't want to pay the late fees. She always makes comments about money. It's like one thing after another.

I do get it that people may be on hard times too, but like pp's said, there are ways to budget and we need to pay bills too.

**melilley** · 11-03-2014, 12:03 PM

Originally posted by SignMeUp

Bottom line: Reminding people to pay me feels like begging for my pay and I am done with it. Pay me on time or pay me the late fee - it's up to you

^^ No drama here

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This is how I feel. I shouldn't be put in that place of saying No. I shouldn't have to ask or remind them of payment. You pay every week, there is NO reason to forget or think that you can pay late. I just had to laugh that she would pay me for 2 weeks, as long as I waited until Friday, huge benefit for me.

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**nannyde** · 11-03-2014, 12:05 PM

They wouldn't even ask. No way.

Nice try. That buys them the week and then.come Thursday another tragedy befalls them that is beyond their control.

Nope. Borrow money from your Mama.

Signed, I aint your Mama

**melilley** · 11-03-2014, 12:11 PM

Originally posted by nannyde

They wouldn't even ask. No way.

Nice try. That buys them the week and then.come Thursday another tragedy befalls them that is beyond their control.

Nope. Borrow money from your Mama.

Signed, I aint your Mama

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: Totally my fault that they did ask....well not anymore!!!

Especially when you have money to buy iphones and such.....

I Actually Told A DCM "No"!

I Actually Told A DCM "No"!

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