Are You a Hugger?

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  • MissAnn
    Preschool Teacher
    • Jan 2011
    • 2213

    Are You a Hugger?

    I'm not! It just doesn't come naturally to me. My mother died when I was just 5 years old and I didn't get many hugs after that. I LOVE kids and yes, I hug them.....but usually not when parents are around. It's kind of awkward because the kids don't naturally hug me either. Kids will run to each other to hug goodbye but bypass me. It makes me feel really bad.....but I'm the one who puts out the "I'm not much of a hugger" vibe.

    Geez...this makes me look awful! Please tell me I'm not the only one.
  • hsdcmama
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 106

    #2
    I am a hugger, once I get to know the kids. I kind of take some time to develop some sort of bond with each child before I become a "hugger", unless the kid comes up to me & wants a hug. Then I will always give them one, regardless of how I feel about it, bc if the kid shows/feels love that way and I deny it, he/she may feel rejected. It doesn't have to be a long, drawn-out hug, but just a simple squeeze is enough to show a "hugger child" that you care. Also, some kids like hugs, and others do not. For me, it's about figuring out how each child feels loved & cared for, more so than just hugging each and every one bc that's what we're "supposed to do".

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    • Indoorvoice
      Daycare.com Member
      • Apr 2014
      • 1109

      #3
      I'm not a hugger at all! I just don't think to do it. I feel like the kids still know I love them though. They're always excited to be here and I don't think my lack of hugging affects them at all.

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      • Crazy8
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jun 2011
        • 2769

        #4
        Nope, I am not much of a hugger either.

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        • nannyde
          All powerful, all knowing daycare whisperer
          • Mar 2010
          • 7320

          #5
          :hug::hug::hug:

          Yes big time
          http://www.amazon.com/Daycare-Whispe...=doing+daycare

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          • DaveA
            Daycare.com Member and Bladesmith
            • Jul 2014
            • 4245

            #6
            I'm a "conditional hugger." With kids it doesn't bother me. With adults not so much. I prefer my space not invaded.

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            • Kimskiddos
              Daycare.com Member
              • Oct 2013
              • 420

              #7
              I'm not a natural hugger but it is easier with the kiddos. I usually get a good morning and see you tomorrow hug from all my kiddos. Then will give them a hug during the day if they ask or it's needed.

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              • Unregistered

                #8
                I hug the babies all the time, though not so much when parents are around. I really only hug older ones if they come to me or if they are hurt or scared or something. I am so not a huggy person generally.

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                • SquirrellyMama
                  New Daycare.com Member
                  • Mar 2012
                  • 554

                  #9
                  I'm not a hugger, but I have one dcb who is. I was always fine hugging my own kids, and will sometimes hug dcks. Just depends on how I'm feeling.

                  Kelly
                  Homeschooling Mama to:
                  lovethis
                  dd12
                  ds 10
                  dd 8

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                  • Baby Beluga
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Aug 2014
                    • 3891

                    #10
                    I'm a hugger within my own family. Not so much with DCKs.

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                    • MissAnn
                      Preschool Teacher
                      • Jan 2011
                      • 2213

                      #11
                      Glad to know I'm not a total weirdo!

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                      • morgan24
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Feb 2011
                        • 694

                        #12
                        I hug the kids but I'm not a hugger of adults at all.

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                        • taylorw1210
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2014
                          • 487

                          #13
                          I'm not a hugger until I form a pretty good bond with my daycare kids.

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                          • NightOwl
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Mar 2014
                            • 2722

                            #14
                            Yes, the bond has to be there first. And I don't care how bonded we are, DON'T TOUCH MY FACE. It gives me the heeby jeebies just thinking about it.

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                            • daycarediva
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jul 2012
                              • 11698

                              #15
                              I'm a hugger once I get to know the kids.

                              I do like that some of my dck's are just NOT huggers though. One less kid asking for a hug. :: I high 5 them, give knucks, ruffle their hair, etc. So they get touch, just not in hug form. If I wasn't a hugger, I would do a secret handshake or something to say goodbye.

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