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  • Cat Herder
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 13744

    #16
    Originally posted by Unregistered
    I have to say, as someone who had difficult getting pregnant and keeping it, pregnancy isn't an educated choice as CAT HERDER so insensitively said. I couldn't decide when I got pregnant, I had to keep trying and getting fertility treatments. I also didn't CHOOSE to have complications and miscarriages. No, pregnancy isn't a choice for everyone.
    You did not know that fertility treatments could end in pregnancy?

    You were unaware that you could potentially have complications with your pregnancy?

    Come on. You know what causes pregnancy and what prevents it. You are choosing to be offended by a literal statement.

    I am sorry you had a rough time of it, and sincerely hope you had a healthy outcome, but YES you had a choice in all of it. Pregnancy is a responsibility, to be planned for. It is not mandatory or someone else's responsibility.
    - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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    • sahm1225
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Jun 2010
      • 2060

      #17

      Originally posted by Cat Herder
      You did not know that fertility treatments could end in pregnancy?

      You were unaware that you could potentially have complications with your pregnancy?

      Come on. You know what causes it and what prevents it.

      I am sorry you had a rough time of it, and sincerely hope you had a healthy outcome, but YES you had a choice in all of it. Pregnancy is a responsibility, to be planned for. It is not mandatory or someone else's responsibility.

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      • sahm1225
        Advanced Daycare.com Member
        • Jun 2010
        • 2060

        #18
        Originally posted by Unregistered
        I think you're up a creek. She can really twist any thing you say. You may have hired her pregnant, but she has since gotten complications. I would keep her on until the baby is born.


        I have to say, as someone who had difficult getting pregnant and keeping it, pregnancy isn't an educated choice as CAT HERDER so insensitively said. I couldn't decide when I got pregnant, I had to keep trying and getting fertility treatments. I also didn't CHOOSE to have complications and miscarriages. No, pregnancy isn't a choice for everyone.
        So you would pay for another assistant to do her job and cause financial hardship on yourself because she is not capable of doing her job? That makes no sense at all. Keep in mind that most of us make about the same as our assistants, so basically I would be working for free just to keep an assistant because she can't do the job

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        • MOM OF 4
          Jack of All Trades
          • Jul 2014
          • 306

          #19
          Originally posted by Cat Herder
          You did not know that fertility treatments could end in pregnancy?

          You were unaware that you could potentially have complications with your pregnancy?

          Come on. You know what causes pregnancy and what prevents it. You are choosing to be offended by a literal statement.

          I am sorry you had a rough time of it, and sincerely hope you had a healthy outcome, but YES you had a choice in all of it. Pregnancy is a responsibility, to be planned for. It is not mandatory or someone else's responsibility.
          AGREED. It's not to be hurtful either. she said EDUCATED choice. So unless you are raped, it's a choice to have a child. Even if you have to go through treatments (making it even MORE of a choice IMHO). I had trouble TTC myself, and it was all my and my husband's choice to proceed or to quit. We WANTED kids. Therefore, it was our CHOICE. It's not offensive to admit that.

          As far as letting the employee go, are you (OP) at will state? If so you don't even need a reason

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