Frustrated Housewife Syndrome

[Naptime yet?]

No, no, I was being flippant, but I was referring to Nannyde's carpet bagging post and the unregistered one directed towards KidGrind.

It had nothing to do with housewives, although certain Facebook groups do sound somewhat "Stepford Wives" ish.

For some reason, Nanny's post really bothered me, I know she is a strong woman, but why would people waste so much energy trying to undermine her because of her views? And that thread about Kid....huh???

I think it's my current mindset, I really do wish we could all just get along, I was just imagining a bunch of lonely housewives rallying together to " destroy" (I use that term in jest) someone they don't know.

What is it called when adults bully each other? Difference of opinion? Dominance ?

[preschoolteacher]

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What is it called when adults bully each other? Difference of opinion? Dominance ?[/QUOTE]

Whatever you call it, it is definitely a glimpse into the ugly side of human behavior. We have such capacity for love and beauty, and it is sad when people get stuck in hatred and grudge holding and waste their potential to build rather than destroy....

[NeedaVaca]

These people have too much time on their hands...not a real, meaningful, life to speak of. Instead of reading a good book, enjoying a hobby, or just loving on the people in their lives, they use their free time or work time to cyberbully. These are truly sad people who have yet to reach an emotional stage of development that dictates a life of kindness, integrity, and compassion. They are unhappy people.

What always makes me go is that these people (the ones we see from time to time on this forum) are watching kids...very sad and very scary!

[nannyde]

These people have too much time on their hands...not a real, meaningful, life to speak of. Instead of reading a good book, enjoying a hobby, or just loving on the people in their lives, they use their free time or work time to cyberbully. These are truly sad people who have yet to reach an emotional stage of development that dictates a life of kindness, integrity, and compassion. They are unhappy people.

What always makes me go is that these people (the ones we see from time to time on this forum) are watching kids...very sad and very scary!

I wish I understood the root of it. I don't.

When I see successful people I'm proud of them. When I see someone does something completely differently than me, I'm interested not offended. There are so many ways to do this job and net great kids and a great business. I can't understand the venom especially when the book wasn't even ABOUT taking care of kids.

[Bookworm]

My Grandma had a saying, " You throw a stick in a pile of dogs,the one who hollers is the one who got hit". Like I said in an earlier post, Nanny must have struck a nerve.

[nannyde]

My Grandma had a saying, " You throw a stick in a pile of dogs,theooho hollers is the one who got hit". Like I said in an earlier post, Nanny must have struck a nerve.

I love that saying. Is your Granny related to Dr Phil's Dad? That sounds like a Dr Philism saying.

I don't know what nerve I hit. Last night someone from here was putting hateful things on my YouTube videos. I could tell who it was by the word usage. I answered them politely but decided to delete them all.

I have to just settle with the notion that these guys just say words. I'm used to that. My teenager tries to "word" me when he is trying to weasel out of something.

They are just people with an opinion and not child abuse experts or child care experts. They don't put their own original content up. They offer nothing to a discussion. If they were experts they would gladly show their own work and offer it as a resource for the education they believe I need.

When I teach the kids how to build block structures I say "Build wide, then high" not "build high, knock down" These guys build high with their hysterical assessment and then knock down to make themselves feel mighty.

I'm going to build wide then high.... That is what works for me. Build a strong foundation of content and then build upon it as I learn this phase of my career.

[Josiegirl]

Someone from here?? That's really sad.

I truly believe when people crawl out of the woodwork attempting to ruin someone like that, they're working out of jealousy and feelings of low self-esteem. It makes them feel like the bigger better person by belittling the other one, when in fact just the opposite happens.
JMO

[NightOwl]

I've watched most of the videos on youtube and I don't see anything that even remotely resembles abuse. This makes me wonder if there is someone here who's actually a lurker for these idiots.

[Josiegirl]

I've watched most of the videos on youtube and I don't see anything that even remotely resembles abuse. This makes me wonder if there is someone here who's actually a lurker for these idiots.

The I Spy theme song just ran through my head.

[NightOwl]

Or Mission Impossible!

[nannyde]

Someone from here?? That's really sad.

I truly believe when people crawl out of the woodwork attempting to ruin someone like that, they're working out of jealousy and feelings of low self-esteem. It makes them feel like the bigger better person by belittling the other one, when in fact just the opposite happens.
JMO

Yes someone from here. (shaking head) It wasn't safe to pile on here or the blogs so off to youtube she went.

It actually ended up being an experience that was helpful.

She hit every one of my videos one after another.

First it was my toy playing rules one where she said I have to have the kids run cars one handed because I have way too many kids in a teeny tiny space. I replied that the room was a 300 square foot room and one of two 300 square foot rooms. I'm only required to have 35 square foot per child and I have 150 square foot per child. She said it didn't make any difference because the video proved I had too many kids for that small space. I then reminded her that I videotaped that while I was running daycare with my helper holding the camera and that we HAD to have all the kids in the area so we could SUPERVISE them while we videotaped.

Then on to my belly time video where she said that at least the kids had space in THAT room. I responded... it's the SAME room you just said was too small.

Then onto the footed jammy video telling me that the jammies were too hot on the child and asking if I put them on the kids in the summer. I responded that they are actually very light weight (they weigh about seven ounces for the size two/three) and I keep the house cool year around. She knows this because it has been discussed here many times.

She said it was abusive because I am not teaching the child to stay out of their dirty diaper or keep their clothes on. What are the parents supposed to do? Take the kid out in public in footed pajamas? I reminded her that I don't do "teaching" while children take a nap. For crying out loud...........

Then she went to my Dixie cup pyramid video and said she liked THAT one BUT how degrading it is that I call the child in it "ONE". I explained that the oldest child in my daycare earns the nickname "one" and it is a title that goes along with a lot of privilege in my home. She responded with that it is demeaning to a child and she wouldn't want her child called that.

It was at that point I just deleted all the comments because it was beyond ridiculous.

When I spoke to the child abuse expert regarding these videos I learned a good lesson in fielding the child abuse claims. The bottom line is that the people accusing me of abusing kids and being mean to kids are at most... mandatory reporters. In mandatory reporting classes it is hammered into the student that they are only there to report abuse if they suspect it. There isn't a state in the nation that allows them to make a determination because they are not trained to determine child abuse. By law they aren't allowed to in any state to make any determination. That simple fact will be a serious legal issue for them when the day comes to go to court.

After having them reviewed for my legal protection, I am supremely confident that... and I quote "there is not a single second of a single act that would be even remotely considered child abuse". This is from someone who is TRAINED and TESTIFIES as a court approved expert AND has a specialty in child abuse.

People crawl out of the woodwork to slam content when they can't come up with their own original content. Not a single one of the carpet bombers has any published content that I can find. Destroying others content is easy. Creating your own ... that aint so easy.