Need Help

[NeedaVaca]

I agree with PP's and would add that when you talk to mom and dad you also use Kindergarten being right around the corner...schools will NOT put up with this so they need to get a handle on his behavior sooner vs. later. Otherwise I am seeing lots of trips to the school in their future.

[AuntTami]

I give time outs, but how do you get a kid that is hitting, kicking and biting into a time out. That is what I'm having an issue with.

I'm also trying to figure out if I'm somehow escalating the fit. I feel like parents are dancing around the fit by giving comfort items, and they may not agree with what I did.

I hope I'm making sense. Sorry if I'm not. This is frustrating.

Kelly

Pick them up and put them there if they won't walk. I would literally cradle dck like a baby, holding his arms and legs tight so he can't kick/hit and I would physically put him in a time out. Get down to his level, tell him why he's there and to sit there until you come get him. If he gets up, say nothing, just put him back in the spot, and reset the timer. Rinse and repeat. The first couple days will probably be horrible but after that he SHOULD start to catch on. Ugh good luck

[daycare]

I didn't get to read all of the responses, but the only thing that I saw is that you gave DCK A zero warning of any kind and went straight to YOu are DONE.

I would have jumped in and been proactive once I saw the child moving closer to the other child.

DCK A can you please use your words? It looks like you need some help.

DCK A tells you I want that marker B has.

Ok so can you ask B for it nicely, DCK then asks B, can I please use the marker? B says no. YOu jump in and say B, lets be nice to our friends. Can you tell A that he can use it as soon as you are done. B will say ok.

OR I would have jumped in again being proactive (especially this close to nap times, kids are just not really in control of their emotions due to being tired) and said, A it looks like you need some help. so you go over and help A, he says I want a blue marker too, ok well can you use your manners and I will be so happy to get you one.

I have kids that without warning will flip out to the high heavens too. I found that being proactive and helping guide will really squash things before they happen.

I don't allow any activities before lunch time. We eat, toilet and go straight to naps....

[daycare]

Pick them up and put them there if they won't walk. I would literally cradle dck like a baby, holding his arms and legs tight so he can't kick/hit and I would physically put him in a time out. Get down to his level, tell him why he's there and to sit there until you come get him. If he gets up, say nothing, just put him back in the spot, and reset the timer. Rinse and repeat. The first couple days will probably be horrible but after that he SHOULD start to catch on. Ugh good luck

I would not do this....sorry I know we can agree to disagree, but I would never pick up a child against their will. now you are asking to be kicked or hit in the face. I would leave them be where they are and walk away.

[SquirrellyMama]

I didn't get to read all of the responses, but the only thing that I saw is that you gave DCK A zero warning of any kind and went straight to YOu are DONE.

OR I would have jumped in again being proactive (especially this close to nap times, kids are just not really in control of their emotions due to being tired) and said, A it looks like you need some help. so you go over and help A, he says I want a blue marker too, ok well can you use your manners and I will be so happy to get you one.

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Sorry, yes, I had told Dck A to stop and be patient. Dck A had moved once, was told to move back, did move back, but was over there again. We had asked Dck B for the marker and that child was almost done with it. I feel I was very proactive and gave plenty of warning.
The post was getting long so I had to leave some out. I only put in what I thought was most important.

Kelly

[SquirrellyMama]

I talked to dad and he was super nice about it. He is a K teacher so he wants us to be on the same page too. Still trying to decide if I'll fight against giving the blanket or not. I'll only have him until summer and then he'll be off to K in the fall. He's my awful veggie eater also. I decided that it wasn't my job to get him to eat them, which has made lunch time much calmer.

I'll keep an eye on situations and see where I can be more proactive with him. We'll get through it.

Kelly