Annoyed!

[crazydaycarelady]

My contract says parents have to bring all food until their child is old enough to eat what I serve at the table, which is usually around 10-12months.

This dcm has brought maybe 3-4 jars of food total. Today I gave her 9mo daughter those puff things. She told me at pick-up they are being very careful what she eats so don't give the puffs anymore.

I know I am super sensitive to criticism but if she didn't want me to give those should she have told me? or brought stuff herself? Do you think I over-stepped?

She said it was the sugar she didn't want and they aren't organic. She has never said a word to me about only feeding organic.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If she wants her daughter to eat or not eat certain things then it is 100% her and dad's responsiblity to tell you.

The only comparison I have to this is when I drop off my daughter at the Church nursery twice a week, since I am obviously home with her all other times.
Every time I tell them what she cannot have and give them substitutes in case they are feeding that. Heck, my nephew is allergic to things as well so I bring in snacks for him for his 2-year-old classroom just in case.

If she wants an alternative to what you are offering SHE needs to supply it and mention it. I would have just replied, "Oh, you have never mentioned that before so I was unaware." and smiled and stared.

Edited to add: I would print off the page that says that, highlight it, and write a list of things you NEED each day in care and say that appropriate substitutes (like organic) can be made.

[hope]

Why hasn't she been bringing food then herself? If she came with no food why not just ask "bottle only today?".

[Thriftylady]

Sounds to melike there is only one way to solve this. Text or email right now that you are only serving xyz (insert normal toddler) menu and child will be served that or bottles only starting in the morning.

[Play Care]

I would not accept the child into care if mom didn't supply the food. I know some believe "food before 1 is just for fun" but this is a child who IS used to eating FOOD (I imagine that's why she was given the puffs to begin with?) I am willing to bet bottles wouldn't be enough and she would be fussy at best. To me it's no different than any other supplies that parents must have daily (diapers, spare clothes, etc)