Does Anyone Else Get Tired Of The Excuses?

[taylorw1210]

Yesterday I had to send a little girl home with a fever of 100.3, with green nasal discharge. Gramma picks her up and says, "She MUST be teething!".

Today I had to send home a little boy for vomiting and a fever of 100.4. Mom says, "Sometimes he throws up when he gets over excited." When I address the fever she says, "His Dr. says he just runs hot."



Why is it never because the kid is actually sick?

[daycarediva]

It is probably my #1 pet peeve.

I sent home a dcg yesterday when Mom said "She spit up..." as she's trying to baby wipe vomit off of dcg's shirt. She's 2! That's not spit up. She's never been car sick in the 2 minute drive on the way over before, no no, she needs to STAY HOME until she's vomit free for 24 hours. See you THURSDAY. It SMELLED like vomit, too. *gag*

[TickleMonster]

Yep Ive heard all the excuses. Their teething, its allergies, I had the heater on in the car so thats why his fever must be 101.2, blah blah blah. Nobody can believe that their little one might actually be sick!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I just repeat ad nauseum, "We exclude for symptoms. I will see DCK in 48 hours." if I have to send home.

The other day a child had diarrhea because stressful situations make his stomach anxious?????? Sometimes, all I can do is blink and stare for a good minute or two.

I have a lot of boogery kids here and I know they have colds. I don't exclude for colds, only if their snot cannot be contained and is getting on everything. But, apparently they all have "allergies." So weird. I just text now and ask how long they have had X and Y symptoms for, get a lame excuse text reply, and then let the parent know that I will be contacting them if Z happens to which they NEVER reply back now. Sometimes, I just want to term people because their lies bug me.

[Blackcat31]

My ears do not hear excuses.

Parent: "She MUST be teething!"

Me: "Well whatever it is, I'm excluding for the fever part so I'll see you 24 hours after he/she is fever free"

Parent: "Sometimes he throws up when he gets over excited."

Me: "Wow, that's a bummer because I exclude for throwing up no matter what the reason. Sure hope you have a good back up plan because it gets pretty exciting here during the day!"

Just bring the conversation back around to WHY you are excluding. If the parent continues to give excuses, just say "I am not a doctor so I don't diagnose, I only exclude when required." and smile FIRMLY but friendly.

[daycarediva]

I just repeat ad nauseum, "We exclude for symptoms. I will see DCK in 48 hours." if I have to send home.

The other day a child had diarrhea because stressful situations make his stomach anxious?????? Sometimes, all I can do is blink and stare for a good minute or two.

I have a lot of boogery kids here and I know they have colds. I don't exclude for colds, only if their snot cannot be contained and is getting on everything. But, apparently they all have "allergies." So weird. I just text now and ask how long they have had X and Y symptoms for, get a lame excuse text reply, and then let the parent know that I will be contacting them if Z happens to which they NEVER reply back now. Sometimes, I just want to term people because their lies bug me.

No lie (haha) this happens to my son and dh. They get horrible cramps and diarrhea when nervous. Dh was LATE to our wedding because he couldn't get off the toilet and ds had an accident on his way to his first ever alone birthday party (at 8 years old!).

Normal everyday routines? Never.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

No lie (haha) this happens to my son and dh. They get horrible cramps and diarrhea when nervous. Dh was LATE to our wedding because he couldn't get off the toilet and ds had an accident on his way to his first ever alone birthday party (at 8 years old!).

Normal everyday routines? Never.

First time this was ever mentioned to me by this parent and kid had been in several "stressful situations" before and never had diarrhea.

[taylorw1210]

Just bring the conversation back around to WHY you are excluding. If the parent continues to give excuses, just say "I am not a doctor so I don't diagnose, I only exclude when required." and smile FIRMLY but friendly.

I have finally learned to do this. It's taken me some time, but I can do it now. And I still get the ridiculous excuses and the parents seem to always try to get that jab in the next time they drop off. "Oh, Suzie didn't have a fever when we got home." or "Johnny acted just fine when we got home, he must have been faking it!" I am with your kids 50+ hours a week - I think I know when he/she is feeling under the weather.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have finally learned to do this. It's taken me some time, but I can do it now. And I still get the ridiculous excuses and the parents seem to always try to get that jab in the next time they drop off. "Oh, Suzie didn't have a fever when we got home." or "Johnny acted just fine when we got home, he must have been faking it!" I am with your kids 50+ hours a week - I think I know when he/she is feeling under the weather.

My response is exactly the same every single time they do this (and I agree...with your kid so many hours a week I think I have a grip on how they're doing overall...):
"That's crazy!" *Goes back to doing what I was doing*

Mmm, and on that note I usually have the child tell me later that day, "Ms. ___, I threw up on the table and myself at breakfast yesterday at home and had to change my clothes!" or something similar to which I then text Mom and say, "If Junior throws up again, like he did at breakfast yesterday morning, I will let ya know! Have a nice day!"

[coolconfidentme]

I had a little girl throw up pink that smelled like Pepto-Bismol & the DCD was quick to say it was strawberry milk. My response was, "I don't care if it was happy juice. Policy says I must exclude." I smiled with arms crossed.

[Sugar Magnolia]

They think we're stupid.....or they just don't care if you are buying it or not. They have to go to work and will say ANYTHING to make it happen. I'm totally sick of it.

[Blackcat31]

.... parents seem to always try to get that jab in the next time they drop off. "Oh, Suzie didn't have a fever when we got home." or "Johnny acted just fine when we got home, he must have been faking it!"

"Well I am glad Suzie acted fine when you got home. Whenever I was sick as a child, all I needed was to be with my mom too so I'm glad Suzie is the same way!"

or

"Well Johnny must have really missed you then! I sure hope you are able to get him to stop being such a faker then as it will get pretty hard to have to keep coming to pick him up every time he fakes it when he is here."



......just keep turning it back onto them.

You WILL get really really good at it after while. I promise.

[coolconfidentme]

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......just keep turning it back onto them.

You WILL get really really good at it after while. I promise.

So. True.

[KiddieCahoots]

Just the thread title of this one has me LOL in a hysterical, crazy lady kinda way.

Ohhhhh..... the never ending excuses.

Like BC mentioned, all we can do is get good at the game of sending the ball back into their court.

Thank goodness for signed contracts! ::........

[taylorw1210]

"Well I am glad Suzie acted fine when you got home. Whenever I was sick as a child, all I needed was to be with my mom too so I'm glad Suzie is the same way!"

or

"Well Johnny must have really missed you then! I sure hope you are able to get him to stop being such a faker then as it will get pretty hard to have to keep coming to pick him up every time he fakes it when he is here."



......just keep turning it back onto them.

You WILL get really really good at it after while. I promise.

I sure hope so! I'm still in that stage where I am allowing the parents to somehow make me doubt my ability to correctly observe that their child is ill. Self doubt ****s! But now that I'm in my 2nd year it's lessening.