Am I Wrong?

[Naptime yet?]

Geesh, I feel like I can't win....

So my SAer went on vacation over the weekend with her dad; long story short, they arrive home around midnight tonight. So I receive a call from DCM, wanting to know if SAer can stay home from school with me tomorrow because she's going to be exhausted....

I said, no, this was poor planning on your part (she totally threw dcd under the bus, said the trip was HIS idea, SHE was against it, etc etc.). I feel that, if SAer is too exhausted to go to school, then her parents need to stay home with her, I'm not grandmom (besides, as I told dcm, she won't really be resting here because she won't be left alone).

Am I wrong? Why is it MY fault that THEY planned this poorly???

I told DCM, if SAer comes here, I WILL be taking her to school at some point. And if she is sooooo exhausted at school, they can call DCD to come pick up. Because, as DCM said, this was HIS idea...

I guess this is more of a vent? I'm just tired of feeling like I'm being taken advantage of by this family...

[NeedaVaca]

No way would I let her come! You are right, they planned this poorly and it's not your problem. If dad planned this then he should have set another day aside to stay home with her...

[Blackcat31]

Nope. NOT wrong.

I don't take SA'ers anymore but when I did it was written in my handbook that ANY time a child misses school when school is normally in session I will NOT provide care to them.

That's on the parents not me.

I think you did the right thing.

[Play Care]

Nope, not wrong. I do take SA kids but my contract states clearly that if the child isn't able to attend school then they can't come here.

[NightOwl]

Nope, not wrong. I do take SA kids but my contract states clearly that if the child isn't able to attend school then they can't come here.

This. If they can't attend school for whatever reason, they can't come here either.

[Baby Beluga]

Nope, not wrong at all.

Two things I have learned from the wonderful ladies here (I forget who's quotes these are)

1) Parents will do what is best for themselves. Not the kids, themselves.

2) Your lack of planning does not make it my emergency.

[Thriftylady]

Stick to your guns. The parents made the choices, they get to deal with the outcome.

[Meeko]

Too tired for school = too tired for daycare.

[KidGrind]

Too tired for school = too tired for daycare.

[DaveA]

Nope, not wrong at all.


2) Your lack of planning does not make it my emergency.

+1 Your screw up is not my problem. If the child can't do school, they won't like it here either.

[Second Home]

I would not keep her either .

[finsup]

I don't have SA'ers but I def. would not be taking her either! I actually just had to address this issue with parents. I do not have the space or ability to let children "rest." My house is busy, active, and loud (all boys except for my 4 month old girl), rest does happen, but it's at nap time. The rest of the time...yeah, not so much . I kept getting comments like "oh can you just let him rest for the day?" "can you just keep him away from other kids and keep him quiet?" "Can you just let him watch TV until he feels better?" No, no and no. Like you said, we are not Grandma's.
In the past I might have felt bad for saying no. After getting taken advantage of one too many times, I no longer do