Wowza! New Little Guy...

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

I have a new dcb 19mo. He is the baby in a family of 5 kids. It is obvious to me that everyone appeases the little man, and he is a spoiled little tyke! There was zero honeymoon phase with this one!

He first went to daycare on mom's worksite as an infant, then mom changed jobs. He lasted 4 weeks at the in-home daycare before me. Dcm and dcd said it was because the dcp's dh had passed away recently, and she was overwhelmed and scaling back her dc. Yeah, by only one kiddo, I'm thinking now.

This guy is a holy terror! He (tries) to tear up the room like no other, and totally freaks when he gets redirected. I'm talking full-on tantrum, complete with screeching and kicking! He does self-soothe (after far too long of a fit), but it is in such a disgusting manner: he ****s his too middle digits and sticks the pointer up his nose. To top it off, he's one of those kids who seems to develop an awful lot of snot. Just. So. Gross.

It's only day 3, so I still have hopes of turning things around. I realize another new daycare - with structure - is a lot for a lo his age to absorb. It's going to have to work out. I'm finally full again, and when I'm not I quickly become greatly dissatisfied with my job. Keep your fingers crossed for me!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Try telling yourself...just two more weeks. Hopefully in two weeks he will be better adjusted and calmed down!

[Blackcat31]

Try telling yourself...just two more weeks. Hopefully in two weeks he will be better adjusted and calmed down!

I agree.....set some sort of "measure" so that you can see of he is or isn't getting better.

Having some way to SEE results (or lack of them) is crucial in this business.

Good luck! I hope he improves for you! happyface

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Update

Well, things have gotten much better each day. They are not perfect, but I am 100% certain that new guy will mesh with my group and my way of doing things based on the progress this week.

He clearly is used to running the show, and does not like me so much for bringing him down off the pedestal. Whenever I picked him up (granted it has been mostly for a gentle redirection), he would buck and twist and scream as though he hated me more than any one person on the planet. That's okay, I'm not going to take it personally. I know to be consistent and not react to a fit. Well, this morning he willing came to me from Gma and we had a nice snuggle till the next drop-off came in. Yeah! It seems I will win him over yet!

My only real issue is the "moisture" problem he has. He ****s those fingers almost constantly, with one up a nostril. He is like a snail, leaving a slime trail on EVERYTHING he touches. It is so gross. The older kids seem to be avoiding him some, and I don't blame them. I, of course, am wiping his face so often (using a burp cloth so he doesn't get chapped), and even bulbed him twice, but it doesn't seem to help, if at all. I try to encourage him to not put his fingers in his mouth, but I'm sure you can guess how that just sends him into a tizzy. Does anyone have any suggestions? He is an immature 19mo, and I am state licensed.

[CraftyMom]

Well, things have gotten much better each day. They are not perfect, but I am 100% certain that new guy will mesh with my group and my way of doing things based on the progress this week.

He clearly is used to running the show, and does not like me so much for bringing him down off the pedestal. Whenever I picked him up (granted it has been mostly for a gentle redirection), he would buck and twist and scream as though he hated me more than any one person on the planet. That's okay, I'm not going to take it personally. I know to be consistent and not react to a fit. Well, this morning he willing came to me from Gma and we had a nice snuggle till the next drop-off came in. Yeah! It seems I will win him over yet!

My only real issue is the "moisture" problem he has. He ****s those fingers almost constantly, with one up a nostril. He is like a snail, leaving a slime trail on EVERYTHING he touches. It is so gross. The older kids seem to be avoiding him some, and I don't blame them. I, of course, am wiping his face so often (using a burp cloth so he doesn't get chapped), and even bulbed him twice, but it doesn't seem to help, if at all. I try to encourage him to not put his fingers in his mouth, but I'm sure you can guess how that just sends him into a tizzy. Does anyone have any suggestions? He is an immature 19mo, and I am state licensed.

I have a new dcb 2.5 just like this! This is his first week, m, w, f only. Never been to daycare, baby of the family, never around little kids, rocked to nap with a bottle, 2 blankies and a pacifier the whole time he naps. Doesn't know how to share or even be around other kids.

Tantrums all day long, has no concept of boundaries or rules

I'm ready to throw in the towel. On tues and Thurs he's with grandma who created this whole mess, spoils him rotten, I fear he will never adjust.

My once happy daycare now has such a negative vibe! The others are picking up on it and have been fighting with each other when they usually don't. My infants are crying from it...omg!

And he ****s on practically his whole arm, always dripping with slime, produces a ton of snot from crying ugh!

And he puts all toys in his mouth...2.5, should not be mouthing toys

If I am BY HIS SIDE ALL DAY LONG he will be fine. I walk away and the screaming starts. I've been down this road and it didn't last

I miss my happy daycare!

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Thanks, CraftyMom! Misery truly loves company, and I feel better knowing I'm not the only one!

Yours sounds a little hopeless, I'm afraid, especially when they are part-timers. Hang in there!

[CraftyMom]

Thanks, CraftyMom! Misery truly loves company, and I feel better knowing I'm not the only one!

Yours sounds a little hopeless, I'm afraid, especially when they are part-timers. Hang in there!

I am finding out more each day just how spoiled he is

Mom told me at the interview how grandma spoils him, so I was prepared. I emphasized my 2 week trial and said we'll see how it goes. That's why he's here, mom wants him away from grandma. They would like to be full time but I don't have the availability right now.

You have some hope though! Yours is younger and there full time so it will be "easier" to get him used to your rules

[Kimskiddos]

I realize he is a bit young, but what I do with a kiddo that is a thumb or finger ****er is once they are around 2yo they need to sit in the quiet spot to **** and I direct them there every time. They usually get bored of sitting out and stop ****ing all day. But there is still a place for them to go if they need to.

Good luck with all the rest of the spoiled behavior, know it can be a challenge.