What Would You Do......Opinions Please!

[Solandia]

I, too, have termed due to a fibber (technically, it was the mom's response), and did NOT term a fibber, even though that was actually a "worse" lie.

The one I termed was a little guy, 3.5yo, who insisted that there was a fire in my kitchen while he was here. Keep in mind, we JUST took a field trip to the fire department the week before...the kids had been playing "fireman" for days. Mom asked me every.single.day for a week "are you sure you didn't a a kitchen fire, even just burnt food". Can't really hide a fire, nor can you get rid of burnt food smell within hours. Anyway, I gave them 2 weeks and was just done...again...if you truly believe you child never, ever lies...I risk it.

The other kid was a 6yo who told his mom I locked him in the closet after school every day. Mom came to me & told me what he said, and asked me "what the heck are we going to do with him?! I know you didn't do this, but I don't know if I should punish, figure out WHY he is saying, or ignore?" In the end, he had to apologize, and had a serious "talking to" on the seriousness, and that if he lied again Miss Sola wouldn't let him come to her house anymore and they would put him in aftercare(which he hates). It worked out beautifully, that was just the start of a bunch of random "naughty" behaviors that resolved in a couple of months. We figured out early with the behaviors, that it was due to starting Kindie (all day), and not getting enough time with me as mom picked up about 15min after he got home from school....he was extremely attached to me and was very jealous that his toddler brother got to play at my house all day, and all he got was a snack & virtually no time to play. He went from being with here 7 hours a day to 15 minutes, it was a big struggle for him. Mom and I knew he loved my house, but didn't realize exactly how attached he was until then.

Good Luck, OP, I think you did the right thing...especially contacting your licensor about it.

[Shell]

So surprised this thread is on here, after one dcm dropped off this morning!

DCG 20mo has been here only about a month. This morning, dcm asks me about a mark on her side. It is not small, and it is really weird looking - almost like a lash mark or something??

Well, it most definitely did not happen here, and it was not on her yesterday. It is low enough and large enough that I would have seen it at diaper changes.

I told dcm that, and decided to send her this e-mail today:

I wanted to inform you of the procedure that I follow regarding any accidents or incidents that occur in my childcare. Any time any child receives any injury, no matter how minor, while in my care, an incident report (created by the Nebraska Department of Health and Human Services) is filled out immediately following any first aid is administered. One copy I keep on file here, and one copy is sent home that same day. I have never, in 12 years plus, sent a child home with an unexplained boo-boo.

Now that you know my procedure, I do hope that you can trust that DCG will never have an unexplained mark on her that occurred at my house. Voicing doubt about how or whether an injury occurred with me potentially places my program in serious jeopardy. In order to protect myself, our conversation this morning has been documented. I will also have to look DCG's body over at drop-off and pick-up every day, in you or DCD's presence, noting the location and description of any marks on her body, until I feel that mutual trust has been achieved.


I used a few lines from this thread (thank you, poster!). Would you change anything?

this is great.

[Shell]

OP, you did the right thing. You have to protect yourself and your business. Dcm got a much needed wake up call.

[hsdcmama]

I am the original poster,so I need opinions if I am doing the right thing,
I will be terming this family as of tomorrow. I will be writing a letter today informing them my last day will be tomorrow. I am just to uncomfortable with this,none of what this kid said is true, but I don't trust this dcb anymore and what he will say to whom and if they don't know me and believe what he says. I'm not willing to put my reputation or my husbands on the line for a 4 yr old that makes up things as he obviously is not happy here. Am I doing the right thing or should I keep him and hope he doesn't make up things again?

This right here is reason enough to term. It seems very obvious that the child doesn't want to be at your house for whatever reason, and is trying to make you the middle-man/scapegoat so he can get his way with his mother.