I am SOOOOOOOOOOOO Livid Right Now!!!

[marniewon]

I really have no worries about this with the parents. None at all. Not to sound naive. They are neighbors to my parents, I have known them for years, before the kids. The dad picked up and hugged me and told me I was wonderful and that she is just hard and that they have nothing but the ut-most confidence in me. And a few minutes ago, mom dropped by with a bottle of my favorite wine, and told me that they loved me and appreciate me. I cried. They really are sweet, and we really are on the same page!!

So what did you decide about getting the girl from preschool? Will you still be doing that or will the parents find someone else to do that?

[nannyde]

http://cgi.ebay.com/Safety-1st-Tot-A-Long-Toddler-Harness-Travel-/300502084863?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item45f751ecff

I have used these for about ten years.

I never allow free walking. My kids would comply to my voice commands 999 times in 1000 but that one time out of a thousand they didn't would be the end of my career. I can attach tot a longs to all five walking kids and attach the other end of it to the front, back, and middle of the stroller on each side.

http://www.nanshouse.com/apps/photos/album?albumid=7213977

If you look at this album you can see stroller pictures of how I attach the kids to the tot a long and the tot a long to the stroller.

[melskids]

oh yeah, she would definetly be leashed to the stroller for THE REST OF THE YEAR. let her watch the others who still get to frolick through the field. that should teach her.

[DancingQueen]

this is why I posted a while back that I have to stop my park trips. I can't run in 3 directions at the same time and for an instant I felt completely unsure of myself

I feel so bad for you because I know that feeling.

[sahm2three]

Well, I won't be walking with them until/unless I get the tether thing like nan linked. Parents agreed. She can't be trusted! So I guess I will just be driving her. The parents are so great that I can't inconvienience them like that, so yes, I will still be taking her, but she will be strapped in to a car seat!!!

[QualiTcare]

there are only a few things that warrant a spanking IMO - this is one of them (not that u can do that, but like u said...if she were yours)!

i used to argue with my profs. about it and say "a spanking hurts a lot less than being ran over by a car."

i would do what laundrymom suggested with the backpack until you can do what nan suggested. i'd probably stick a brick in there too just bc i'm nice.

[Bizzymom1111]

I really have no worries about this with the parents. None at all. Not to sound naive. They are neighbors to my parents, I have known them for years, before the kids. The dad picked up and hugged me and told me I was wonderful and that she is just hard and that they have nothing but the ut-most confidence in me. And a few minutes ago, mom dropped by with a bottle of my favorite wine, and told me that they loved me and appreciate me. I cried. They really are sweet, and we really are on the same page!!

First off-omg, I'm so sorry this whole situation happened: ( Second, what wonderful dcps to have!! I smiled when I read what they did for you! That gives me hope that there are great dcps out there! (just wish they'd enroll at my daycare!!)::

[SilverSabre25]

First--how scary!! I'm glad it turned out okay.

Second--what great parents!

Third--Based on what you have said about her behavior, I am wondering if there's some ADHD, ASD (high-functioning, Aspergers or PDD-NOS or something), or something more serious going on--the kinds of things that kids can't help and parents can't help and usually can't be detected until the child gets older. Since she does have such great, supportive parents who seem to really, truly trust you, I would consider bringing it up--document some of the things you've mentioned here, and ask them to schedule a kid-free conference, and ask them if they've noticed any of the same things and if they are at all concerned. Let them know that you are really, truly concerned and want to see that she gets the help she needs, if she needs any.

I understand your wanting the parents to come to that conclusion, but honestly, we as daycare providers see many, many children and we sometimes have a better idea of "normal" than parents have--and your saying something might be the confirmation they've been looking for. I see it on a parenting message board all the time--parents saying that they wish with all their heart that the teacher/child care provider/whoever would have said something sooner, would have mentioned the concerns, would have pointed out the problem.

[misol]

http://cgi.ebay.com/Safety-1st-Tot-A...item45f751ecff

I have used these for about ten years.

I never allow free walking. My kids would comply to my voice commands 999 times in 1000 but that one time out of a thousand they didn't would be the end of my career. I can attach tot a longs to all five walking kids and attach the other end of it to the front, back, and middle of the stroller on each side.

http://www.nanshouse.com/apps/photos/album?albumid=7213977

If you look at this album you can see stroller pictures of how I attach the kids to the tot a long and the tot a long to the stroller.

This is exactly what we have/do. The babies go in the double stroller and the older ones have their own strap with one end tethered to the stroller. Everyone is allowed voluntarily hold on to the other end but if someone let's go or decides they won't follow the rules then they get the priviledge of having their end "secured" to their wrist.

[nannyde]

This is exactly what we have/do. The babies go in the double stroller and the older ones have their own strap with one end tethered to the stroller. Everyone is allowed voluntarily hold on to the other end but if someone let's go or decides they won't follow the rules then they get the priviledge of having their end "secured" to their wrist.

We don't allow that. They are on their wrists in the summer and on their coat sleeve in the winter. We don't allow them to touch the hardware of the clasp or to unvelcro the half inch velcro that goes over the wrist.

We don't allow them to put them on or take them off. The ends of them are OFF limits. They try around two to finger the tips of the velcro but it's loud and you not so easy to do so we can correct that root behavior BEFORE it gets to them actually pulling the velcro up and away.

By the time they are four they could easily get it off but we don't allow them to do it even when it would be actually easier for us when we are back from the walk and unloading everyone and returning to the play room. We NEVER want them to have the idea that they can mess with the wrists. Adults only.

The wrist closures are a "leave it" in my house. By us doing it they can only move away from the stroller when WE say. That keeps their mind waiting for when it's their turn to be unhooked instead of when they are going to bolt off into another direction cuz they see Tinkerbell's bright light in the dog house.