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  • daycare
    Advanced Daycare.com *********
    • Feb 2011
    • 16259

    Last 30 Days Feels Like 10,000

    Some of you may recall my DCM that was complaining about my 1.5 mile move. Trying to claim it was taking her 20+minutes to get to my house now, so she needed more flexibility in her drop off and pick up schedule.

    Other things went down that got us to where we are now. I gave her notice 2 weeks ago and this month is their last month here.

    Every single day since me giving notice has been pure you know what. EVERYDAY it's something else, doing little things to just get under me skin...

    I am not a big drinker, but this woman is going to drive me to drink, heck she might even get me to eat chocolate.

    This morning she arrives 20minutes before her start time, first one here. Normally I do have another child that starts earlier, but they are out of town for the week.

    I saw her arrive, but carried on with my ways in the back of my house like normal. I was still getting dressed too, so I was not going to go answer the door in my current state.

    Finally, 15 minutes later sick of hearing her knocking, I open the door saying wow you guys are super early today.

    DCM says in a surprised tone, oh are we earlier. I give her the look.

    When I moved into this house, I covered my doorbell with a note that says DO NOT RING. I did this for my sanity.

    DCM tells me you need to reconsider implementing the bell for adults only. I bite my lip and walk away. DCM leaves.

    I go out to sweep the porch and DCM took off my doorbell cover/sign.

    I am soooo mad. She has been pulling little annoying stuff like this every day since I gave notice.

    She's not breaking any policies, but she is doing little things here and there to just really be a pain in the back side.

    You ladies are so clever and witty....what would you do if this were happening to you?
  • Kabob
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jun 2013
    • 1106

    #2
    Put a new cover on the doorbell with a new sign "No touch. This means you dcm."

    No really, tell dcm that her behavior is rude and you have that cover there for both children and adults. If she feels the need to continue being rude by showing before her scheduled time, touching objects she knows she isn't supposed to touch, then maybe she needs to schedule care elsewhere effective immediately or start paying you to take care of another child (an adult sized one).

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    • KSDC
      Daycare.com Member
      • Apr 2013
      • 382

      #3
      If I could afford it, I would term immediately. Not worth the hassle and stress.

      If I needed the money too badly to do an immediate term, then I would just grin and bear. Enforce ALL my policies, to the letter. And continually remind myself only 30 more days...

      :hug:

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      • hope
        Daycare.com Member
        • Feb 2013
        • 1513

        #4
        I would term immediately for taking the sign down. That is over the top. I would confront her about it to make sure she did and it wasn't the wind.

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        • MOM OF 4
          Jack of All Trades
          • Jul 2014
          • 306

          #5
          Originally posted by KSDC
          If I could afford it, I would term immediately. Not worth the hassle and stress.

          If I needed the money too badly to do an immediate term, then I would just grin and bear. Enforce ALL my policies, to the letter. And continually remind myself only 30 more days...

          :hug:
          THIS!!!! Her arriving earlier than scheduled time IS breaking your rules.

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          • daycare
            Advanced Daycare.com *********
            • Feb 2011
            • 16259

            #6
            Originally posted by Kabob
            Put a new cover on the doorbell with a new sign "No touch. This means you dcm."

            No really, tell dcm that her behavior is rude and you have that cover there for both children and adults. If she feels the need to continue being rude by showing before her scheduled time, touching objects she knows she isn't supposed to touch, then maybe she needs to schedule care elsewhere effective immediately or start paying you to take care of another child (an adult sized one).
            Thats what my DH said.

            I am 100% certain it was her. The sign is just about glued on and there is currently almost zero wind.

            Yesterday, she had her sister drop off DCK but this time only 10 minutes earlier and was not the first arrival. She also dropped DCK off with a crumbling donut that went all over my floor right when they walked in. OH BOY was I ever mad. I asked them to step back out so that they did not step in it and bring it further into my house. The sister and DCM are like twins....

            I can afford to term, I am just trying to make this as civil as possible.

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            • Kabob
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2013
              • 1106

              #7
              Originally posted by daycare
              Thats what my DH said.

              I am 100% certain it was her. The sign is just about glued on and there is currently almost zero wind.

              Yesterday, she had her sister drop off DCK but this time only 10 minutes earlier and was not the first arrival. She also dropped DCK off with a crumbling donut that went all over my floor right when they walked in. OH BOY was I ever mad. I asked them to step back out so that they did not step in it and bring it further into my house. The sister and DCM are like twins....

              I can afford to term, I am just trying to make this as civil as possible.
              Obviously she wants you to term her immediately so that she can get her money back and get out sooner. I say her wish is your command....give her the remaining balance back and smile big and say "I noticed that you no longer seem to feel that my services are a good fit for your scheduling needs. Here's a refund of your remaining payment. Have a great day! We will miss dck dearly!"

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              • daycare
                Advanced Daycare.com *********
                • Feb 2011
                • 16259

                #8
                Originally posted by Kabob
                Obviously she wants you to term her immediately so that she can get her money back and get out sooner. I say her wish is your command....give her the remaining balance back and smile big and say "I noticed that you no longer seem to feel that my services are a good fit for your scheduling needs. Here's a refund of your remaining payment. Have a great day! We will miss dck dearly!"
                oh i like the turn of the tables......... yes I am going to do this today at pick up. I am so over this.

                Not a joke when I say that every day it is something else. Yes, she is trying to get out earlier. After I deduct all the early fees and late fees, I will refund.

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                • MOM OF 4
                  Jack of All Trades
                  • Jul 2014
                  • 306

                  #9
                  Originally posted by daycare
                  oh i like the turn of the tables......... yes I am going to do this today at pick up. I am so over this.

                  Not a joke when I say that every day it is something else. Yes, she is trying to get out earlier. After I deduct all the early fees and late fees, I will refund.
                  I wouldn't do anything of the sort with refunding her. She is DELIBERATELY breaking your policies, dropping off early, picking up late, it's habitual. I'd let her know what the PP said but add there are no refunds as per your contract. Unless your contract doesn't have a clause, then you may have to refund something. But get rid of this crazy woman! She's being DRAMATIC and messing with you. That in it of itself, is DISRESPECT, which is an automatic non-refundable reason to term!

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                  • daycare
                    Advanced Daycare.com *********
                    • Feb 2011
                    • 16259

                    #10
                    my DH just said,

                    tomorrow since her kid will be first drop off again, hang a note on the door that says.....Daycare closed down, death by doorbell. Then don't answer..




                    I do have in my contract that if I have to term you for disrespectful behavior, I will keep your deposit and any other fees already paid.

                    So I could do that, which I know will cause more issues.

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                    • Kabob
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Jun 2013
                      • 1106

                      #11
                      Originally posted by daycare
                      my DH just said,

                      tomorrow since her kid will be first drop off again, hang a note on the door that says.....Daycare closed down, death by doorbell. Then don't answer..




                      I do have in my contract that if I have to term you for disrespectful behavior, I will keep your deposit and any other fees already paid.

                      So I could do that, which I know will cause more issues.
                      I have a clause saying no refunds as well but paying them to leave is worth it when dealing with such childish behavior.

                      If she decides to complain to licensing, friends, etc about being kicked out, she'll look like an idiot when she is forced to admit that she got a refund despite her petty behavior...

                      If I could pay other annoying people in my life to leave me alone, I'd be a broke but happy woman.

                      I mean...why keep someone who clearly doesn't want to be there when you can find someone who does want to be there and treat you with respect sooner?

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                      • daycare
                        Advanced Daycare.com *********
                        • Feb 2011
                        • 16259

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Kabob
                        I have a clause saying no refunds as well but paying them to leave is worth it when dealing with such childish behavior.

                        If she decides to complain to licensing, friends, etc about being kicked out, she'll look like an idiot when she is forced to admit that she got a refund despite her petty behavior...

                        If I could pay other annoying people in my life to leave me alone, I'd be a broke but happy woman.

                        I mean...why keep someone who clearly doesn't want to be there when you can find someone who does want to be there and treat you with respect sooner?
                        I already have their replacement signed up and ready to go.

                        And putting it that way, you are right. I should just make them go... I will miss DCK, but DCM behavior won't be missed at all.

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                        • TwinKristi
                          Family Childcare Provider
                          • Aug 2013
                          • 2390

                          #13
                          Originally posted by daycare
                          my DH just said,

                          tomorrow since her kid will be first drop off again, hang a note on the door that says.....Daycare closed down, death by doorbell. Then don't answer..




                          I do have in my contract that if I have to term you for disrespectful behavior, I will keep your deposit and any other fees already paid.

                          So I could do that, which I know will cause more issues.
                          If you're protected by your contract I would ABSOLUTELY term immediately and keep every penny and say you're lucky I didn't charge you more for your early drop offs and cleaning bill for your son's crumbly donut!

                          Also- as for the note in the doorbell I would put one that's even bigger like a full sheet in big bold letters "please, out of respect for my home and business, do not use the doorbell"

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                          • Luna
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Oct 2010
                            • 790

                            #14
                            That doorbell thing would have done me in. You shouldn't have to cover and put a note on your doorbell to tell adults not to behave like babies. Good grief. I think I'd be done with her.

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                            • taylorw1210
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2014
                              • 487

                              #15
                              Some people have a lot of nerve, and no class!

                              You'll have to let us know how things go, if you decide to term immediately.

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