What's Wrong With Parents Of Today And Saying A Thank-You!

[AmyKidsCo]

Maybe I'm cynical, but my thoughts are:

1. Teaching as a profession isn't valued or respected, and that lack of value and respect trickles down to us - magnified because we work with younger children. (Childhood isn't valued or respected either, but that's another soap box)

2. There are so many "babysitters" out there that we get lumped in with, no matter how much we try to show that we're more than just babysitters.

3. When push comes to shove, parents do what's best for them. We're living in a ME society where people are encouraged to put themselves first and not worry about others. When we're no longer needed they're already thinking about the next thing.

Just my 2c...

[Soccermom]

I think they just assume that we should be thanking them because they have allowed us to be a part of their precious and perfect child's existence. Not to mention the fact that they gave us a good part of their pay every week just for some simple child minding. All we do, after all, is change a few diapers and put their dear children down for a long nap every day.



It is frustrating. I had one DCF that would make a comment almost every time I would buy something new. If I got a new chair - "Wow, someone must be raking in the cash to buy such a nice new chair"....OR maybe I had to buy a new one because my old one has been pooped on, peed on and puked on so many times. If I would decorate the yard nice for Halloween - " Well it must be nice to have so much time to dedicate to decorating the yard..I wish I was a Stay at home parent too." What!? I wish I was a SAHM too!! Did you forget that your child has been here since 6am along with about 5 other kids, not to mention my own 3!?

Sigh.

They honestly just don't know how hard we actually work so they likely don't feel the need to do anything special for us when they leave. I think that deep down, a lot of them also resent us for having spent so much time with their child while they were away working.

[craftymissbeth]

I agree with both Cats

I feel appreciated when I'm paid on time. When I receive their child's needed supplies without a second reminder. When dcks are picked up on time. When my symptom exclusion policy is followed without me having to say a word.

I get it. We get close to our dcks... but that's the dcks not the parents. The parents just pay us. The dcks are the ones we develop relationships with.

On a slightly OT note, this made me realize that I don't go out of my way to do anything special for my ds's teachers. I do pretty much exactly what your dcp's did... a quick thank you over my shoulder as we leave. I don't feel bad. I am grateful that he has had wonderful teachers, but I just realize I'm not the one with the relationship with them... It's my ds.

[Shell]

I think they just assume that we should be thanking them because they have allowed us to be a part of their precious and perfect child's existence. Not to mention the fact that they gave us a good part of their pay every week just for some simple child minding. All we do, after all, is change a few diapers and put their dear children down for a long nap every day.



It is frustrating. I had one DCF that would make a comment almost every time I would buy something new. If I got a new chair - "Wow, someone must be raking in the cash to buy such a nice new chair"....OR maybe I had to buy a new one because my old one has been pooped on, peed on and puked on so many times. If I would decorate the yard nice for Halloween - " Well it must be nice to have so much time to dedicate to decorating the yard..I wish I was a Stay at home parent too." What!? I wish I was a SAHM too!! Did you forget that your child has been here since 6am along with about 5 other kids, not to mention my own 3!?

Sigh.

They honestly just don't know how hard we actually work so they likely don't feel the need to do anything special for us when they leave. I think that deep down, a lot of them also resent us for having spent so much time with their child while they were away working.