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The most common gift that I receive from parents now, is a framed picture of their child.
Usually it is a picture that I took.
Usually it is a picture that I took.
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I love my dcks but I'm not putting a framed picture of them up on my mantel. Haha!!!! I have parents send me holiday picture cards and ask if I received them by they don't see them hanging up. Yeah...not going on my fridge.
I would however put their artwork up in my dc space.Comment
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Exactly
I do that all the time. At Christmas, my parents give me ornaments with pictures of their child on it. I will hang it in the window of my child care playroom, but I am not putting it on my personal tree. I mean, I love them, I do. I dunno, sometimes it seems like my "service" means I am supposed to give all, including my heart, but in return I get ... I can't even explain how it feels. Anyone? :
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Mostly I don't let it bother me anymore. Suffice it to say that the way parents do things has changed x 100 in the last ten years.Comment
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SO, SO True! I totally agree with you on the way parents do things today and how it has changed.Exactly I do that all the time. At Christmas, my parents give me ornaments with pictures of their child on it. I will hang it in the window of my child care playroom, but I am not putting it on my personal tree. I mean, I love them, I do. I dunno, sometimes it seems like my "service" means I am supposed to give all, including my heart, but in return I get ... I can't even explain how it feels. Anyone? ::
Mostly I don't let it bother me anymore. Suffice it to say that the way parents do things has changed x 100 in the last ten years.Comment
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In a way, I understand where the o.p. is coming from. I adore the kids I teach and care for. But I love when I get hugs and thank you from them. The parents in our center are amazing, they remind the little ones to thank me at the end of the day. That is so sweet, and the kids are now doing it without being prompted. Children live what they learn .Comment
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It is because they pay you to watch their kid while they work. Simple as that. They do not see you in a co-parenting role at all. It is not personal, it is a business.
Parents will not see you as a co-parent because you are not one, you are a service provider. Service providers are shown appreciation by prompt payment in full, nothing more expected.
You will have to change your mind set or you will continue to be hurt by this issue.
If you feel you are giving something up to care for other peoples kids in exchange for money, you need to address that. Raise your rates, change your hours, follow your own contract... fix whatever it is that makes you feel cheated. Resentment builds to burnout faster than you'd ever expect.
Chin up, you are stronger than you think. :hug:- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Can I ask you (and everyone who commented or posted too)....
Do you give the family a card or a thank you for being long term clients?
Did you do or say anything to them to express your gratitude towards them for purchasing the services you offer and for being loyal to you the time they were with you?
Parents can't work with out some type of child care services and child care providers don't have work unless parents sign on and purchase these services.
Gratitude and thankfulness go BOTH ways.
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1. Yes. I give them a photo album (DVD) from day 1 to the very last week, a beautiful hard cover childrens book with all the kids handprints in it and a personal letter to the parents from the heart.Can I ask you (and everyone who commented or posted too)....
1. Do you give the family a card or a thank you for being long term clients?
2. Did you do or say anything to them to express your gratitude towards them for purchasing the services you offer and for being loyal to you the time they were with you?
Gratitude and thankfulness go BOTH ways.
2. Yes. I give them their last two weeks free of charge. Do they know that prior to my giving it? Nope... they all go out with a "secret" to keep from current and future clients.
I give them because I want to, though. It makes me feel good.
**That said, the jerks leave with a bag of their kids belongings, the handprint book above for their kid and a receipt for payment in full. **- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.Comment
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lovethis lovethis1. Yes. I give them a photo album (DVD) from day 1 to the very last week, a beautiful hard cover childrens book with all the kids handprints in it and a personal letter to the parents from the heart.
2. Yes. I give them their last two weeks free of charge. Do they know that prior to my giving it? Nope... they all go out with a "secret" to keep from current and future clients.
I give them because I want to, though. It makes me feel good.
**That said, the jerks leave with a bag of their kids belongings, the handprint book above for their kid and a receipt for payment in full. **
Ding~ding~ding!! We have a winner!!
That's the ONLY reason we should really do anything above and beyond.
...besides the old standard "it's for the kids".
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I Have a Winter open house party each December for all families who have used care AND I give each a small gift
I also give each family a free date night as a thank you for using services.
It's rare when I even get a Thank you, much less a card when a child leaves care, however I have gotten a few from the parents I was closest tooComment
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I have daycare family events, provider parents night out and tell the parents thank you.Can I ask you (and everyone who commented or posted too)....
Do you give the family a card or a thank you for being long term clients?
Did you do or say anything to them to express your gratitude towards them for purchasing the services you offer and for being loyal to you the time they were with you?
Parents can't work with out some type of child care services and child care providers don't have work unless parents sign on and purchase these services.
Gratitude and thankfulness go BOTH ways.
I show them I am thankful and tell them often.Comment
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I offer 2 parent meetings a year, one with kids/one without! Both meetings come with meals for families and an appreciation gift for coming (candy jar, scented candle, etc.). I even give a $25 gift card for door prize. Then when the child leaves for kindy, I give them a "ready for school bag".
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This is a great thread
I tried to explain this to another provider,which is my friend of 18 yrs. She stopped and said she was tired of raising other people children and bringing the child everyday and ect. not feeling appreciated. I have been a provider much longer than her, like 20 yrs. The thank you and hugs I get are enough,some come back and visit after being gone for yrs, refer me to other people. I don't expect anything, I love giving the kids going away gifts. I will say times have changed and I have seen some sorry parents, I just shake my head and realize they don't know any better. just pay me on time and keep your sick child home, I must say most of my parents I had were great.Comment
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I know this is an old thread, but missed it, and would like to add......
I feel some parents feel guilty with the knowledge that we are doing the majority of raising their children, and would rather stay in denial about it than ever admit to it with a simple, "thank you".Comment
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It honestly bothers me more when they don't say "I'm Sorry".... you know when it's 25 minutes after your close and they walk in like it's any other day. Even when you nicely acknowledge how late they are they don't even apologize they just turn around and shrink out the door.... That just burns me.Comment
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