Another "Organic/Healthy Only" DCM

[MissAnn]

It might have been a gluten free cupcake. They look and (pretty much) taste the same (at least to me). :: I sometimes bring GF treats to a party for everyone so I am not the only one there not celebrating with the foods.

No it wasn't. I had spies. LOL.

[laloolee]

No it wasn't. I had spies. LOL.

Oooh... Busted!

[laloolee]

I kinda have the opposite problem! I insist on feeding DCB a gluten-free diet because I know he functions much better on it but his family isn't really on the same page at home. When he starts having blowouts I call for pickup and that usually gets them back on track! But Tuesday he had one for the first time in months and I know he ate gluten over the long weekend and told mom it ****s that I pay the extra money and take the extra time for GF foods but they don't seem to do the same. I even offered to shop with mom so she can buy the foods I buy and serve because she claims he won't eat stuff at home. I even took a video of him eating broccoli for her to see! She couldn't believe it!
He hasn't been diagnosed but has major blowouts and chronic diarrhea when he eats gluten. He doesn't have insurance so his mom hasn't been able to take him in for testing (very pricey) so we just did a food diary and eliminated gluten which helped tremendously with his bowels, his bruising, speech, etc. I just substitute normal component of meals with a GF option for him or just serve it to everyone.

What a shame that the parents can't get with the program after all of your hard work to conduct a mystery diagnosis and make accomodations. These symptoms can knock a grown person down and can worsen over time so to subject a child to unnecessary illness is unconscionable. He is lucky to have someone like you to look out for him.

[renodeb]

I think parents who want the all organic start out all gunho and then soon find out how hard it is to keep up the lifestyle. Or they want to keep up the appearance. Luckily I haven't had very many parents like this. I buy some organic but it gets to be expensive.
My sister in law is one of those all natural &organic types. They have a 6 year old. When we get to see them it is usually on vacation and all he wants is junk food because all he gets at home is the natural /organic stuff. No that I'm knocking those choices but she even brought organic coffee/sugar but I just couldn't bring myself to use it. It even looked strange to me. I don't even think my nephew even likes those foods but she's a nut about it! She's a bit of a hypocrite to though. One time it was my bil's bday, she got him this huge cake, refused a piece but later that night I saw her have a big piece. Whatever!

[TwinKristi]

What a shame that the parents can't get with the program after all of your hard work to conduct a mystery diagnosis and make accomodations. These symptoms can knock a grown person down and can worsen over time so to subject a child to unnecessary illness is unconscionable. He is lucky to have someone like you to look out for him.

Thank you

Sadly mom is single and often relies on her mom and cousin to help on weekends and other days and they're more the problem than mom is. I think sometimes she gives him stuff here and there but the cousin's kids supposedly gave him something Monday and Gma admitted to giving him things just being lazy or not watching him well enough. Mom has brought GF cupcakes for him, GF frozen pizza, etc. She is much better than the family members BUT she still isn't 100% on board which is frustrating at times. But really, that's the least of their worries with this guy. It's a sad situation.

[hsdcmama]

That is similar to what mine did too. Opted out of the FP, and then I asked her to supply the most expensive/hard to find special items. I basically supplied fruits and veggies (though supposedly he couldn't have many of those either). But week after week, she dropped items from his allergy list so that I could buy them instead of her.
She wanted her child to be "special" in many other ways too, and after two years I decided not to renew our contract. She took that badly, unfortunately.
And then my most recent fiasco family hooked up with her family for playdates, right before fiasco family terminated me. But they say I terminated them ::

I hope they're happy together I really do. But their poor children are hot messes, because their parents are. I could worry for my reputation/record (and do, a bit) especially since one is a neighbor. The other is neighbors with other former families (who loved it here).

Prior to these unhappy souls, I have terminated one (1) family in thirty plus years, and that was thirty years ago. And no one has ever terminated me before.

At the time, I took it personally. But now I don't

Oh man, so I'm not the only one who had a neighbor go nuts on them! I worry a little about my reputation, but it ****s more that former dcd is hunting buddies w/ my husband so he's over here all the time. Awkward...

[Unregistered]

all organic

While I agree with this lifestyle and wish I could 100 percent cover the cost for everyone to eat these foods, it is not possible.

I spend more on food every week because of eating mostly fruits and vegetables that are fresh. Then you add the packaged all organic types of food, grass fed items, alternative nutbutters and it is just not within my small childcare budget.

I am thinking of possibly having my parent either get a diet statement or supplying the meals.

When said her daughter was allergic to peanut butter and daughter has been eating it forever and this was not diagnosed by a doctor or an allergen. I am just at a loss because every time her kids get something the food has something to do with it.

Let alone the alternative milks................

[Soccermom]

Why do all the parents suddenly want their kids to be "special" and require special diets all the time?!! It drives me crazy!

Children want to conform to the norm and be like everyone else.

Why do they insist their child eat cardboard or crap while everyone else is enjoying healthy but not weird food!?

I am all about nutrition, especially when it comes to kids and agree that organic is best when it is available and not going to cost a small fortune but some of these parents are getting REALLY weird about the whole thing!!

My DCPs provide all food for their kids in the form of a lunchbox and last year I had a sibling set that only ate homemade, all natural, organic foods....which would have been okay if the DCM would have been a decent cook. Watching these poor kids look at everyone else's snacks while trying to force down dry, gross looking, sugar free pumpkin and date bread made me so sad. She would also send them just plain homemade yogurt....gross!! The 4 year old would cry when she saw that in her lunch. What is wrong with adding a bit of honey or homemade jam!!?

Some days I think that since parents no longer spank their children, they torture them with food and special diets for no good reason instead.

[Dilley Beans]

If a parent insists on a special diet, why don't you make them pack the kids lunch? You don't miss out on that much money from the food program by not providing for this child. If they aren't eating what I am serving, then the parents have to provide for them. If it isn't really that important to the parents, then it won't be an issue after that.

Also, someone said something about providing a better quality formula than they use at home. A baby should not have different formulas it should be the exact same thing every time or they might have tummy troubles. Diapers are different, but you should always insist that the formula be identical, so far as to insist they provide it.

Speaking of the diapers though, if a brand causes leaking or blow outs, you should be able to insist they bring a different kid, this is a health issue as bodily fluids are not being contained safely.

[lynne]

I have a DCM that is vegan and insists that no dairy or meat be fed to her child...I don't have much problem with it but this child is 22 months old and is still drinking 8-9 full bottles of soy milk a day...She has gotten where she wont eat the food I make.. veg chilli, stirfrys that sort of thing... she's tiny and thin. I'm getting frustrated with mom.. the bottles are giving this little one a feeling of fullness and she's not eating food. Today when she was dropped off I took all the bottles away and wouldn't give them to her, she still wont eat and cried for her baabaa. I'm so done with this, I have 2 DCB's that have just been weaned from the bottle and when she has one in her mouth they zero in on her. I've told DCM not to send bottles anymore but she still does.I can see this little one is not getting the nutri that she needs.. I just don't know what to do..Sorry to highjack..

[LysesKids]

I have a DCM that is vegan and insists that no dairy or meat be fed to her child...I don't have much problem with it but this child is 22 months old and is still drinking 8-9 full bottles of soy milk a day...She has gotten where she wont eat the food I make.. veg chilli, stirfrys that sort of thing... she's tiny and thin. I'm getting frustrated with mom.. the bottles are giving this little one a feeling of fullness and she's not eating food. Today when she was dropped off I took all the bottles away and wouldn't give them to her, she still wont eat and cried for her baabaa. I'm so done with this, I have 2 DCB's that have just been weaned from the bottle and when she has one in her mouth they zero in on her. I've told DCM not to send bottles anymore but she still does.I can see this little one is not getting the nutri that she needs.. I just don't know what to do..Sorry to highjack..

I would be terminating this kid, but then again as an Organic daycare, I wouldn't have put up with a kid that gets 8-9 full bottles of soy formula a day, especially at 22 months. I have no problem doing a Vegan diet (I have Vegan family members), however, there is a limit on what is right and what is insane... My kids learn to not take a bottle at by 12-13 months.