Really? (Rant Alert)

[Hunni Bee]

Do parents really think their kids yelling at them, telling them no, hitting them etc is normal and acceptable behavior??

The child I posted about earlier, I was telling his Mom about some of the issues he's been having and she's standing there, head ****ed to the side inquisitively with a blank stare, while her son is grabbing toys from other kids, yelling at her, throwing things...

Really lady?! Did you think I was going put up with this all day and it not be a problem?

Sheesh.

[Cradle2crayons]

oh but you know people like her see her special snowflakes through jaded sunglasses LOL

[Bookworm]

She never heard a word you said. She only wants DCK to be happy. The hitting and yelling, etc are the prompts for her to accommodate him.

[Thriftylady]

Sounds like reason enough to term if needed. You aren't getting any help from her and I wouldn't expect that to change.

[NightOwl]

I interviewed with 19m twins last weekend and their parents, BOTH of them, sat there like everything was fine and normal. All the while, the twins were throwing my toys. Like, holding things over their heads and smashing them down onto the floor. Neither parent uttered a single word to stop them.

[Blackcat31]

Do parents really think their kids yelling at them, telling them no, hitting them etc is normal and acceptable behavior??

The child I posted about earlier, I was telling his Mom about some of the issues he's been having and she's standing there, head ****ed to the side inquisitively with a blank stare, while her son is grabbing toys from other kids, yelling at her, throwing things...

Really lady?! Did you think I was going put up with this all day and it not be a problem?

Sheesh.

Well, I guess when/if he does get termed then, mom shouldn't be surprised.

At least you don't; have to talk with her about it now...he just showed mom an example.

:hug: Hunni

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I am always surprised when parents don't respond. At this point, it shouldn't surprise me but it still does.

I have one currently who will tell mom no, yell, and kick and thrash everywhere when she goes to get him to leave and she'll never say no or to stop. He is 2.5.

[SSWonders]

I interviewed with 19m twins last weekend and their parents, BOTH of them, sat there like everything was fine and normal. All the while, the twins were throwing my toys. Like, holding things over their heads and smashing them down onto the floor. Neither parent uttered a single word to stop them.

Just curious if you ended up enrolling them.

[SSWonders]

I too am amazed at what parents will put up with. But, I think part of the problem is that they don't want to appear harsh in front of us. However, I have no problem correcting a child in this situation, in front of the parents.

[KiddieCahoots]

Just curious if you ended up enrolling them.

I too am amazed at what parents will put up with. But, I think part of the problem is that they don't want to appear harsh in front of us. However, I have no problem correcting a child in this situation, in front of the parents.

Ditto to both!

I've finally grown the back bone to set limits with the children in front of anybody. Licensor, food police, parents....::... Especially by the end of the day, having spent all day with them

Had a dcm who would always come back at me with, (snarkishly smiling) "wellllll......it is age appropriate behavior". My response...."that does not mean it is acceptable".

[NightOwl]

Nooooo I did not. I feel very confident that I could've had it under control fairly quickly. But when the parents won't back me up at home, or even in my OWN home, it wouldn't end well. I think it would've been a struggle for me to keep it under control here when it's allowed at home.

[KiddieCahoots]

Nooooo I did not. I feel very confident that I could've had it under control fairly quickly. But when the parents won't back me up at home, or even in my OWN home, it wouldn't end well. I think it would've been a struggle for me to keep it under control here when it's allowed at home.

Good thinking.
Especially with the added challenge of siblings.

[MsLisa]

Ditto to both!

I've finally grown the back bone to set limits with the children in front of anybody. Licensor, food police, parents....::... Especially by the end of the day, having spent all day with them

Had a dcm who would always come back at me with, (snarkishly smiling) "wellllll......it is age appropriate behavior". My response...."that does not mean it is acceptable".

I HATE that excuse!!! My MIL uses it all the time.
"He/She is only ___"....
Doesn't mean they can act like hooligans!

[nannyde]

I too am amazed at what parents will put up with. But, I think part of the problem is that they don't want to appear harsh in front of us. However, I have no problem correcting a child in this situation, in front of the parents.

I don't think they are worried about offending us. I think they think the behavior is normal.