Worth Explaining or Let It Go?

[Controlled Chaos]

A dcp invited me and my kids to her son's bday party last Saturday. I do generally go to the parties as my kids are between 10m and 4yo and friends with the dcks and 2 of the families are close friends. This party last Saturday was announced 2 days before and set for 2pm - in the middle of nap time :confused: All 3 of mine nap during that time and so does the birthday boy So I feel bad because the dcm told me this morning at drop off that no one came to the party. She invited the other dcks too but I am sure they didn't come for the same reason. I told her I was sorry we couldn't make it and left it at that, but I don't want her to think no one likes her or her kid. That would be so sad to have no one come to a LOs party but I also don't want her to feel like I am chastising her for not knowing her kids schedule if I tell her why. :confused: What do you think? Should I go out of my way to explain why no one was (probably) there or just let it go?

I feel especially bad because I will be at a dcb bday party this sat, but its not during nap ...sacred nap how I love thee...

[AmyKidsCo]

I would've said that we couldn't attend because it was in the middle of nap time, but I wouldn't make excuses for the other families. Maybe your saying it will be enough for the light to go on.

[Controlled Chaos]

Yea, I should have texted her back that when she sent the invite oringally, but I was worried she would think I was asking her to change the time for us...I always over think things

[MarinaVanessa]

I would have told her that I couldn't go because it's during my children's nap times (if I hadn't already told her before the party) but if the conversation already took place then I wouldn't bring it up again. Personally for me it would be strange to have talked about it because she brought it up and then I bring it up again after the fact. I also wouldn't make excuses for others, if she wanted to know why they didn't go then she could bring that up to them

[Controlled Chaos]

I would have told her that I couldn't go because it's during my children's nap times (if I hadn't already told her before the party) but if the conversation already took place then I wouldn't bring it up again. Personally for me it would be strange to have talked about it because she brought it up and then I bring it up again after the fact. I also wouldn't make excuses for others, if she wanted to know why they didn't go then she could bring that up to them

Unfortunately when she first brought it up, she sort of tossed her kid at me and left. I usually like it when drop offs are that quick but this time it was kinda awkward.

[cheerfuldom]

last minute notice for a party during nap time? She should not be surprised no one came. I would just leave it or offer one small comment about why we couldn't go but dont feel that you have to apologize profusely or anything.

[originalkat]

Besides it being naptime, when you give someone 2 days notice about a party being held on Labor Day weekend, I would expect she could figure that out on her own.
I wouldnt bring it up again.

[racemom]

I would probably just say sorry we couldn't make it Saturday, my kids were napping. I think she is probably hurt no one showed up, so I would say something.

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

At this point I would let sleeping dogs lie. She was probably hurt, but surely by now she has figured it out, and bringing it up again would just rub it in.

I don't like to go to DCK's parties. I used to go to all of them when my own kids were little, because those were their friends and it was fun for them, but now I don't want to spend my off-time for daycare commitments. Also, it is really awkward when DCK's lunge for me and snub Grandma and Auntie. And I have to say I like it better wondering what their homes are like rather than knowing.

[sharlan]

As long as you let her know beforehand (RSVP'd) that you weren't able to attend, you have nothing to apologize for. You are not responsible for other's actions.

As the child grows, Mom will figure out how to do parties.

[KayB]

Or if you want give him a present and say Again, I am so sorry for not being able to make it to the party. With it being a long weekend and in the middle of our nap time I know my kids would have been unbearable!