Say Something Now or Wait

[Hunni Bee]

So they new school year started and one of my kids is very difficult already. I thought yesterday it was because everything was new, but today he was worse. Didnt follow a single direction given, ran around screaming, tantrums, CANNOT share or wait his turn. He's 4.5 and not new to school or daycare at all.

I really can't tell if tthis is just spoiled or there really is a problem. I tend to at least wait til the week is out before I start sharing my concerns with parents but he's really gotten off to a rough start and i see it getting the worse.

Would you talk to the parents or wait?

[Blackcat31]

I am in the same situation right now.

I just mentioned to both DCM and DCD (one picks up and other drops off) that the DCK is taking a bit longer than most to pick up on the rules and seems to be pushing boundaries a bit more than other age-mates but we will keep working on it and keep you posted on how they adjust.

That way I felt like I was leaving the door open...kwim?

I don't want to come back later and go "Oh, they just don't listen and I don't want them in care"....I figured, setting the stage for the hard talk later would be easiest...

That's my two cents.

[MissAnn]

So they new school year started and one of my kids is very difficult already. I thought yesterday it was because everything was new, but today he was worse. Didnt follow a single direction given, ran around screaming, tantrums, CANNOT share or wait his turn. He's 4.5 and not new to school or daycare at all.

I really can't tell if tthis is just spoiled or there really is a problem. I tend to at least wait til the week is out before I start sharing my concerns with parents but he's really gotten off to a rough start and i see it getting the worse.

Would you talk to the parents or wait?

I would call his previous provider and find out why he left and if they experienced the same thing.

[Hunni Bee]

I'm in a center/preschool and we're not allowed to contact the previous provider.

BC, thanks, I think I'll do that.

[Rockgirl]

I am in the same situation right now.

I just mentioned to both DCM and DCD (one picks up and other drops off) that the DCK is taking a bit longer than most to pick up on the rules and seems to be pushing boundaries a bit more than other age-mates but we will keep working on it and keep you posted on how they adjust.

That way I felt like I was leaving the door open...kwim?

I don't want to come back later and go "Oh, they just don't listen and I don't want them in care"....I figured, setting the stage for the hard talk later would be easiest...

That's my two cents.

Yes, I'm big on laying the foundation early on. That way, if it gets to the point of talking about terming, you don't have a parent saying, "What? WHY? I didn't know there was a problem!" And if he does get better, you can say, "Wow--he's improved so much since he first started here."