help me create a behavior plan

[jenboo]

Going along with my baby jail post, I really need some help. I need to figure out a behavior plan to go over with dcb's parents. Dcb is 2.5 yrs old. He makes the day so stressful for everyone and something needs to change.
Here is what I need help with.
1. He totally regressed in potty training. He laughs about peeping and pooping his pants. He is definitely going back into diapers here. I need some good articles about regression and power struggles to give to dcp. I also need a way to tell them that him being in diapers is not the problem.
2. DCB wants to be in charge of everything. He tells me no, he yells at the other kids and bosses them around. He makes naughty choices and laughs and smiles while doing it. I'm out of ideas on how to stop this. I have tried giving him give amounts of praise and positive attention but it doesn't do anything.
3. All the other kids feed off of him. They get so out of control running and screaming around that it's hard to get control of them again.
4. I feel like my whole day is crowd control. We rarely ever get to do any activities because DCB gets everyone so crazy that by the time I get them ssettled, we are out of time

I have been a lead teacher in a 2.5 yr old room with 24 kids and a lead teacher in a 4yr old room as well as assisting in other rooms... I have never seen a child like this one before. He is so smart and can be so helpful but chooses to be so naughty instead!! His parents know exactly how he acts. We have open communication. They are doing everything they can think of to help but nothing is working. I really want to have a meeting with them before I think about terming.
Please help me!!!!

[Heidi]

sound like him?

• Splashing in mud, seeking dirty types of play
• Dumping toy bins rummaging through them aimlessly
• Chewing on inedible objects or shirt collar
• Rubbing against walls or furniture and bumping into people
• Loves spinning in circles, amusement rides, and is constantly moving
• Fidgets, has difficulty sitting still and takes bold risks
• Frequently wants bear hugs and vigorous playground activities
• Seeks visually stimulating screens, shiny objects, strobe lights, or sunlight – may want to watch endless TV or constantly play video games
• Loves loud noises, TV or music volume, crowds and places with lots of action
• Problems sleeping
• Enjoys strong odors, even unattractive ones
• May lick or taste inedible objects and prefers spicy or hot foods
• Frequently attempt to engage in rough play, such as wrestling

http://www.child-behavior-guide.com/sensory-seeking.html

[Heidi]

Found this, too. Maybe some ideas you can use?


Incorporating Sensory Input into Daily Activities

Bath time: Scrub with washcloth or bath brush, try a variety of soaps and lotions for bathing, play on the wall with shaving cream or bathing foam, rub body with lotion after bath time (deep massage), sprinkle powder onto body and brush or rub into skin.
Meal preparation or baking: Let your child mix ingredients, especially the thick ones that will really work those muscles. Let child mix and roll dough and push flat. Allow child to help you carry pots and pans, bowls of water or ingredients (with supervision, of course). Let your child tenderize meat with the meat mallet.
Grocery shopping: Have your child push the heavy cart (as long as the weight is within their capability). Let your child help carry heavy groceries and help put them away.
Mealtime: Encourage eating of chewy foods and drinking out of a straw. Try having your child sit on an air cushion to allow some movement. A weighted lap blanket may be helpful as well.
Household chores: Allow the child to help with the vacuuming or moving the furniture. Let the child help carry the laundry basket or the detergent. Let the child help with digging for gardening or landscaping.
Play time: Reading books in a rocking chair or bean-bag chair may be beneficial. You can help your child make up obstacle courses in the house or yard using crawling, jumping, hopping, skipping, rolling, etc. Listen to soft music. Play the sandwich game (child lies in between two pillows and pretends to be the sandwich, while you provide pressure to the top pillow to the child’s desired amount). Ask them "harder or softer?" as you push on the pillow. Some children will like much more pressure than you would expect. You can also go for a neighborhood walk with a wagon and have your child pull it (make it semi-heavy by loading it with something the child would like to pull around). You can do the same with a baby-doll carriage. Swimming in a pool is a wonderful activity if you have that available, as are horseback riding and bowling. Mini or full-size trampolines are excellent for providing sensory input as well. Make sure the child is using them safely. Sandboxes, or big containers of beans or popcorn kernels can be fun play-boxes. too, if you add small cars, shovels, cups, etc.
Errands and appointments: Before visiting the dentist or hairdresser try deep massage to the head or scalp (if tolerated), or try having your child wear a weighted hat. Try chewy foods or vibration to the mouth with an electric toothbrush. Let your child wear a heavy backpack (weighted to their liking with books and with the straps padded as needed). Be sure to give the child ample warning before any changes in routine or any unscheduled trips or errands. Many children with SPD need predictability.

[jenboo]

sound like him?

• Splashing in mud, seeking dirty types of play
• Dumping toy bins rummaging through them aimlessly
• Chewing on inedible objects or shirt collar
• Rubbing against walls or furniture and bumping into people
• Loves spinning in circles, amusement rides, and is constantly moving
• Fidgets, has difficulty sitting still and takes bold risks
• Frequently wants bear hugs and vigorous playground activities
• Seeks visually stimulating screens, shiny objects, strobe lights, or sunlight – may want to watch endless TV or constantly play video games
• Loves loud noises, TV or music volume, crowds and places with lots of action
• Problems sleeping
• Enjoys strong odors, even unattractive ones
• May lick or taste inedible objects and prefers spicy or hot foods
• Frequently attempt to engage in rough play, such as wrestling


http://www.child-behavior-guide.com/...y-seeking.html

Doesn't sound like him at all. He doesn't like to be dirty. He doesn't chew on things. He doesn't dump bins. He doesn't spin in circles. I haven't noticed him being drawn to shiny things. Not sure about loud sounds. He is a fabulous sleeper! He does like to wrestle though.

He has a fabulous vocabulary and likes pretend play.
He seems to be drawn to negative attention and loves the attention he gets from the other kids when they copy him. He thinks it's funny when he makes bad choices and I can't get him to stop. I have tried using so much praise and it did nothing. I'm at a loss. He can be best helper but he can also make me want to bash my head with a shovel.
Everyday is a power struggle with him.

[daycare]

the diapers would not concern me at all. sorry you have an accident it's back in diapers you go. I would not waste one more second on PT.........let the parents deal with that. If they don't like that you are going back in diapers well then they have the option to leave. You have to explain it is for the health and safety of the other children.


I love being in charge, thats why I run my own business. I would give two options that are reasonable and let him choose, wow you are making good choices.

If a child tell me no, I would get down at eye level and say, I am the boss, you don't tell me no. If they did it again, I would say it again. next time, children who are disrespectful can go read books in the gated off area.

IF he is acting crazy, turn some music on and make him dance until he can't dance any more. Or buy one of those balls you still on and bounce. I have a spotted rug with large circles. I make the hyper ones play jump to the circles until they beg to stop. That will get them wasted tired for a good 20min. Be proactive. Talk to dcb when he is not going crazy.

tell him wow donny you are a really good block builder, can you show me how you can build a tower. then talk and talk telling him how wonderful he is doing. If he acts up and goes crazy, time to dance again. Or bounce on the ball.

If you hurt, tell me no, or yell at anyone, you go back in the penalty box...

it does sound like this child just may not be the right fit for your environment or program.

Do you think that he could possibly be overly tired?

[Heidi]

Doesn't sound like him at all. He doesn't like to be dirty. He doesn't chew on things. He doesn't dump bins. He doesn't spin in circles. I haven't noticed him being drawn to shiny things. Not sure about loud sounds. He is a fabulous sleeper! He does like to wrestle though.

He has a fabulous vocabulary and likes pretend play.
He seems to be drawn to negative attention and loves the attention he gets from the other kids when they copy him. He thinks it's funny when he makes bad choices and I can't get him to stop. I have tried using so much praise and it did nothing. I'm at a loss. He can be best helper but he can also make me want to bash my head with a shovel.
Everyday is a power struggle with him.

worth a try...sorry!

[jenboo]

worth a try...sorry!

Thanks for trying!

[jenboo]

the diapers would not concern me at all. sorry you have an accident it's back in diapers you go. I would not waste one more second on PT.........let the parents deal with that. If they don't like that you are going back in diapers well then they have the option to leave. You have to explain it is for the health and safety of the other children.


I love being in charge, thats why I run my own business. I would give two options that are reasonable and let him choose, wow you are making good choices.

If a child tell me no, I would get down at eye level and say, I am the boss, you don't tell me no. If they did it again, I would say it again. next time, children who are disrespectful can go read books in the gated off area.

IF he is acting crazy, turn some music on and make him dance until he can't dance any more. Or buy one of those balls you still on and bounce. I have a spotted rug with large circles. I make the hyper ones play jump to the circles until they beg to stop. That will get them wasted tired for a good 20min. Be proactive. Talk to dcb when he is not going crazy.

tell him wow donny you are a really good block builder, can you show me how you can build a tower. then talk and talk telling him how wonderful he is doing. If he acts up and goes crazy, time to dance again. Or bounce on the ball.

If you hurt, tell me no, or yell at anyone, you go back in the penalty box...

it does sound like this child just may not be the right fit for your environment or program.

Do you think that he could possibly be overly tired?

Ugh I just typed a long response on my phone and then it didn't post. I'll do it again later when I'm on the computer

[Laurel]

I'm wondering if he is watching some t.v. show, cartoons, movies that are are too old for him. Or maybe is copying some behavior from older siblings, cousins, neighborhood kids, etc.

Just a thought...

As someone else said he also could be overtired.

Laurel

[jenboo]

I'm wondering if he is watching some t.v. show, cartoons, movies that are are too old for him. Or maybe is copying some behavior from older siblings, cousins, neighborhood kids, etc.

Just a thought...

As someone else said he also could be overtired.

Laurel

I'll post more later when I'm on the laptop.
Not over tired. He gets good sleep.
He has older cousins that I can ask about. No siblings yet. His parents are pretty strict with TV. He only watches age appropriate stuff.

[Laurel]

I'll post more later when I'm on the laptop.
Not over tired. He gets good sleep.
He has older cousins that I can ask about. No siblings yet. His parents are pretty strict with TV. He only watches age appropriate stuff.

If you feel the parents are being lax rather than it being some developmental problem with the child, then you might just want to tell the parents that his behavior is unacceptable and you've tried everything you know but it doesn't improve. If you don't see at least some improvement in the next two weeks (or however long you want) you won't be able to watch him anymore.

I did that once and it worked wonders. The parents were just being lazy. When they faced the possibility of finding other care they shaped right up. Wonders never cease, .

Laurel

[jenboo]

If you feel the parents are being lax rather than it being some developmental problem with the child, then you might just want to tell the parents that his behavior is unacceptable and you've tried everything you know but it doesn't improve. If you don't see at least some improvement in the next two weeks (or however long you want) you won't be able to watch him anymore.

I did that once and it worked wonders. The parents were just being lazy. When they faced the possibility of finding other care they shaped right up. Wonders never cease, .

Laurel

This is what makes it so challenging. His parents are amazing! He doesn't get away with anything. They spend time with him. They know how to acts at daycare. Their whole family knows how he behaves and they work together to stop it. They are a "it takes a village to raise a kid" family.

I talked to mom yesterday and set up a meeting. We are both going to look into power struggles and negative attention. Then we are going to bring our ideas to the table to try to change how we are handling things because it's obviously not working.