Dcb Spilled The Beans About Dcm's Employment.

[melilley]

I have a former dcb who left here last fall to go to preschool and came in as a drop in today, he is now 4. I have his brother full time. Well today I was talking to him and asking him if he was excited to go back to preschool and he said yes he's ready to go to his old school and that his mom will be a teacher there, but not in his class. I told him that no, she works in a preschool, but not the one he is going to. He proceeded to tell me that no, she is a teacher at his school now and that she got fired from her other job by Ms. K.

Well all summer she has told me that she was only working at her school for 2-3 days a week. She just told me on Monday that she is going back this week full time and never mentioned changing schools. It makes me wonder if former dcb has his stories mixed up or if dcm really did get fired and hasn't told me (this dcm has lied to me before, I have only caught her in a couple and the rest I cannot confirm as lies).

Now I have to ask her or her dh if what dcb said is true. How awkward!
Funny how truthful kids can be!

[NightOwl]

Yes and 4 year olds have no concept of things like being fired unless it's brought up at home. So I'm betting it's true!

[Meeko]

Bring it up to the mom. I would tell her that her son told you she was working somewhere else and that you will need the address and phone etc. for your records. Then watch her reaction.

[TwinKristi]

Bring it up to the mom. I would tell her that her son told you she was working somewhere else and that you will need the address and phone etc. for your records. Then watch her reaction.

Yeah just act like no big deal, just need to update contact info if that's the case.

[Mister Sir Husband]

Or.. call the contact info you have on her now " just to check that it's valid" (nys has us doing these things anyways for emergency contacts) . If your told she no longer works there.. busted.

Personally I wouldn't care either way if she was fired, changed jobs, quit.. lied about it, whatever. As long as her checks don't bounce

[AmyKidsCo]

Personally I wouldn't care either way if she was fired, changed jobs, quit.. lied about it, whatever. As long as her checks don't bounce

Ditto. As long as the checks don't bounce and I have accurate emergency info. Otherwise it's not my business.

[daycare]

I might just say...

Oh DCB told me you got a new job. Please don't forget to give me your new employment information for billies file. Thanks for helping me keep his file updated, I appreciate it.

I require all families to give me updates to their files every quarter . They need to report any changes, of address, phone, employment, and etc.

I personally don't care if they got fired, quit or what happend just give me updated information so that I can contact you when necessary.

[midaycare]

He's a drop in, right? As long as I have a cell for her, I wouldn't care or being it up. I might give her a new information sheet and just tell her "I'm updating my files. State requirement."

[melilley]

Or.. call the contact info you have on her now " just to check that it's valid" (nys has us doing these things anyways for emergency contacts) . If your told she no longer works there.. busted.

Personally I wouldn't care either way if she was fired, changed jobs, quit.. lied about it, whatever. As long as her checks don't bounce

I know, I don't really care, it's just interesting that they didn't say anything. She works or worked at a preschool so she knows that contact info. needs to be updated.

I thought about calling, but won't. I'm going to ask dcd, dcm rarely picks up.

Oh, and one check has bounced in the past. This family seems to struggle with money, prob because dcm has had several jobs in the past 1.5 years that I have had dcb. But then again, they are always going camping or buying $5 lemonades at garage sales.

[melilley]

He's a drop in, right? As long as I have a cell for her, I wouldn't care or being it up. I might give her a new information sheet and just tell her "I'm updating my files. State requirement."

He is a drop in, but I have his brother f/t.
I'm going to ask tonight, I thought about just giving out new info. cards and going that route, but this family takes forever to return stuff.

[melilley]

Yes and 4 year olds have no concept of things like being fired unless it's brought up at home. So I'm betting it's true!

I agree, it probably is true. I just think it's funny when the kids spill the beans!

[KiddieCahoots]

I might just say...

Oh DCB told me you got a new job. Please don't forget to give me your new employment information for billies file. Thanks for helping me keep his file updated, I appreciate it.

I require all families to give me updates to their files every quarter . They need to report any changes, of address, phone, employment, and etc.

I personally don't care if they got fired, quit or what happend just give me updated information so that I can contact you when necessary.

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The nature of this business is so tricky with that fine line..... where the parent is suppose to have full trust and faith in us with their child, but then....some...parents don't reciprocate
And in all honesty, we are putting full trust and faith in them with the business portion of the deal....payments, sick policies, blah...blah...blah...
It is clearly a two way street in this business. I find that the one way streeter's as clients, are usually not the good ones, and over time will lead to some sort of trouble.

[lovemykidstoo]

If you've ever been fired (and I have) it's humiliating. I don't blame her one bit for not telling you she was fired. Who would want to tell someone that. Just say to her that dcb said you were working at XYZ company now so can you please fill out a new info card. Leave it at that. I really don't consider it lieing at all.

[SquirrellyMama]

If you've ever been fired (and I have) it's humiliating. I don't blame her one bit for not telling you she was fired. Who would want to tell someone that. Just say to her that dcb said you were working at XYZ company now so can you please fill out a new info card. Leave it at that. I really don't consider it lieing at all.

I agree.

[KiddieCahoots]

If you've ever been fired (and I have) it's humiliating. I don't blame her one bit for not telling you she was fired. Who would want to tell someone that. Just say to her that dcb said you were working at XYZ company now so can you please fill out a new info card. Leave it at that. I really don't consider it lieing at all.

I totally understand where you're coming from.
It still does not mean we should change the rules for one. By licensing regulations, we need multiple emergency contacts, specifically where the parent is currently employed.
Being compassionate as care givers is what we do, and do well, for the children and the parents.
If given the opportunity with their full trust, I'm sure melilley would've handled it with the greatest finesse.