Father not respecting personal time

[SilverSabre25]

My policy for all families is pretty simple. I text (I'm sooooo in love with texting...) both parents the message. They take it from there. Whichever parent can respond, does.

Now, in the event of a true, honest to god MEDICAL EMERGENCY I'd be calling the easiest to reach parent first ad leave the rest up to them. In an emergency I have to take care of the child first, the other children second, and don't have time to be calling 2 different people AND my own back ups if needed AND 911 if needed...etc. Obviously if I don't get a hold of one parent I keep calling until I DO get someone.

Happened to me recently. child fell off the bench in the kitchen and struck his head on a shelf behind him. Blood everywhere. I was at his side in about half a second with pressure on the head. decided what needed done (ER/urgent care) and phone was in my hand by 10 ten seconds after the incident. my back up was here ten minutes after that and away we went. The time in between was spent getting the bleeding stopped, and getting the other kids squared away, as well as monitoring and observing for concussion symptoms. It happened to be my child, but I don't think my response would have been any different no matter whose child it was. I do NOT want a parent to think that I am going to CALL under those sorts of circumstances, unless he is the first one/best one to reach, kwim?

[itlw8]

welllll actually he is right. I had a dcm report me she said lack of supervision and I did not notify her. Well it was minor and I told dad..

I was cleared of everything but they told me that if a parent complains we are wrong unless we let them know immediately about any injury. They said to get it in writing the parent does not want to be called over every little cut or bump.
He said text is best. so jr falls and scratch arm send dcd a text. It will get old BUT you need him to respond so you know he got it. OR you can call him at work for every bump.