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I have a new DCB, 16 months- both parents are teachers so he was home all summer with both. Before that he was with a family friend who had 1 boy herself (she just had a new son and wanted to stop watching DCB).
He is not having daycare
He doesn't want me to look at or talk to him (he cries or gives me a dirty look and looks away every time), and he cries all day. If he starts to play and someone comes near him he starts crying again. The only thing I've found he enjoys is sitting in the booster chair at the table. He was there an extended time today (I had a delay in breakfast due to someone running over our mailbox and then the police coming over about it) and was perfectly content. In fact, if I tried to pick him up to let him down, he'd cry. At his age, I don't have any desire to keep in any "separate" play areas like I do my non-walking infants, but that seems to be where he is content. (My youngest is 14 months so I took down all baby gated areas and have just one, open play area at this time.)
When someone comes to the door he starts crying (I believe he thinks it's DCM or DCD each time, he always cries when DCM comes to PU). DCD drops off and makes it worse- when I say hi and put my arms out to take him, DCD just hugs him close and won't give him to me- today he walked into the playroom and set him down and tried to play with him instead of handing off to me. When I mentioned it was typical and that it's easier to make goodbyes quick he did leave- I think he is just really upset at leaving DCB!
Anyways, I know it's a transition period and it's only been a week and a half- but any ideas to help? If he doesn't want me to hold/comfort him, and he is unhappy with my DDs and my DCG who is his age trying to play with him, what should I do? I've never had a DCK who wouldn't at least let me try to comfort them.
He is not having daycare
He doesn't want me to look at or talk to him (he cries or gives me a dirty look and looks away every time), and he cries all day. If he starts to play and someone comes near him he starts crying again. The only thing I've found he enjoys is sitting in the booster chair at the table. He was there an extended time today (I had a delay in breakfast due to someone running over our mailbox and then the police coming over about it) and was perfectly content. In fact, if I tried to pick him up to let him down, he'd cry. At his age, I don't have any desire to keep in any "separate" play areas like I do my non-walking infants, but that seems to be where he is content. (My youngest is 14 months so I took down all baby gated areas and have just one, open play area at this time.)When someone comes to the door he starts crying (I believe he thinks it's DCM or DCD each time, he always cries when DCM comes to PU). DCD drops off and makes it worse- when I say hi and put my arms out to take him, DCD just hugs him close and won't give him to me- today he walked into the playroom and set him down and tried to play with him instead of handing off to me. When I mentioned it was typical and that it's easier to make goodbyes quick he did leave- I think he is just really upset at leaving DCB!
Anyways, I know it's a transition period and it's only been a week and a half- but any ideas to help? If he doesn't want me to hold/comfort him, and he is unhappy with my DDs and my DCG who is his age trying to play with him, what should I do? I've never had a DCK who wouldn't at least let me try to comfort them.
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