Are You Kidding Me

[nikia]

So mom that owes me from last week Thursday just sent me a text that said I can write you a check but you can please not cash it for a few days because then I will bounce another check.

Wh-h-h-hat. I have not responded yet because I just dont know what to say. Any suggestions what I can say to her. I think my harsh letter that I'm still typing may not be harsh enough

[Blackcat31]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would almost be tempted to take the check and go directly to her bank, cash it and say "too bad!" about the other check! I honestly think you should just outright ask her why she feels it is ok to put her childcare services at the bottom of her priority list! I would tell her to go ahead and write the check but to include the late fee for every single day she expects you to wait to cash it. I also would not allow her to get anymore services until she has paid you IN FULL (after check clears) and then tell her that because of her bad payment history she will now be required to have atleast a one week deposit paid before any more services will be given so that this situation does not happen again. WOW! Some parents!! As a last resort if you could afford to term her, I would as soon as she pays or check clears.....I am sorry this is happening to you especially right before the holidays. Makes you wanna say things in front of her like "I'm sorry (your child) we can't have a nice Christmas because (DCM) doesn't pay her bills or value the wonderful service I provide to her child!" GRRR!

[laundrymom]

boy do I know what you are meaning here,.....

they want you to stand up and say SURE go ahead,.. make me work for free!!! I only do this because I love children!!!! when the truth is you want to say,.. well,.. No,.. Im sorry but no. I cant accept partial pay, I did not provide partial care....

I have no advice for you but to say,.. ugh,....

maybe say,.. well is there any way you could drop me 1/2 in cash tonight, but not between 6 and 645, I have an interview for an opening I have coming up soon,.... and see what she says?? (( big evil grin))

So mom that owes me from last week Thursday just sent me a text that said I can write you a check but you can please not cash it for a few days because then I will bounce another check.

Wh-h-h-hat. I have not responded yet because I just dont know what to say. Any suggestions what I can say to her. I think my harsh letter that I'm still typing may not be harsh enough

[Live and Learn]

Please tell me that you aren't providing her anymore childcare until she pays this off in full with late fees.
this client needs to pay cash before stay and play.

[nikia]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would almost be tempted to take the check and go directly to her bank, cash it and say "too bad!" about the other check! I honestly think you should just outright ask her why she feels it is ok to put her childcare services at the bottom of her priority list! I would tell her to go ahead and write the check but to include the late fee for every single day she expects you to wait to cash it. I also would not allow her to get anymore services until she has paid you IN FULL (after check clears) and then tell her that because of her bad payment history she will now be required to have atleast a one week deposit paid before any more services will be given so that this situation does not happen again. WOW! Some parents!! As a last resort if you could afford to term her, I would as soon as she pays or check clears.....I am sorry this is happening to you especially right before the holidays. Makes you wanna say things in front of her like "I'm sorry (your child) we can't have a nice Christmas because (DCM) doesn't pay her bills or value the wonderful service I provide to her child!" GRRR!

I feel the same way. I think I am going to tell her she can write the check and then term them. I cant really afford to but at the same point does it really make a difference if she isnt paying me? The other thing is that she just got paid today and she is supposed to pay me for this week on Friday, if she cant afford last weeks pay I know that I will not get paid for this week either. So terming I think is the best thing. Thank you for the advice.

[marniewon]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would almost be tempted to take the check and go directly to her bank, cash it and say "too bad!" about the other check! I honestly think you should just outright ask her why she feels it is ok to put her childcare services at the bottom of her priority list! I would tell her to go ahead and write the check but to include the late fee for every single day she expects you to wait to cash it. I also would not allow her to get anymore services until she has paid you IN FULL (after check clears) and then tell her that because of her bad payment history she will now be required to have atleast a one week deposit paid before any more services will be given so that this situation does not happen again. WOW! Some parents!! As a last resort if you could afford to term her, I would as soon as she pays or check clears.....I am sorry this is happening to you especially right before the holidays. Makes you wanna say things in front of her like "I'm sorry (your child) we can't have a nice Christmas because (DCM) doesn't pay her bills or value the wonderful service I provide to her child!" GRRR!

This! Exactly! I don't know as I would do the deposit thing, as she clearly has no money, or at least no money she wants to spend on daycare, but I would switch her to pay ahead and enforce the no pay, no stay rule! Wow, this whole situation would almost be comical, if it wasn't actually happening! I think you need to hurry up and send that harsh letter!

[laundrymom]

did you already GET the check?>????
like in hand???

I feel the same way. I think I am going to tell her she can write the check and then term them. I cant really afford to but at the same point does it really make a difference if she isnt paying me? The other thing is that she just got paid today and she is supposed to pay me for this week on Friday, if she cant afford last weeks pay I know that I will not get paid for this week either. So terming I think is the best thing. Thank you for the advice.

[nikia]

did you already GET the check?>????
like in hand???

No I haven't. So I am thinking of writing a term letter and then telling her face to face that she is done. Backbone growing would be great

[nikia]

This! Exactly! I don't know as I would do the deposit thing, as she clearly has no money, or at least no money she wants to spend on daycare, but I would switch her to pay ahead and enforce the no pay, no stay rule! Wow, this whole situation would almost be comical, if it wasn't actually happening! I think you need to hurry up and send that harsh letter!

Isnt it crazy since my other thread was a letter to her that I was typing up today. Oh I think a glass of wine is in order at 6 tonight and I rarely drink ::

[laundrymom]

No I haven't. So I am thinking of writing a term letter and then telling her face to face that she is done. Backbone growing would be great

~~~~~~~ sending the backbone,... I was going to say if you had the check to call bank and cash if you can,... let HER deal with the pieces. (been there, done that) then text her and tell her sorry, already cashed it.

since not I give you loads of backbone,.. are you terming today??

[Crystal]

Get the check, go to the her bank and ash it THEN give her her termination. Otherwise, she'll stop payment on the check.

[Blackcat31]

This! Exactly! I don't know as I would do the deposit thing, as she clearly has no money, or at least no money she wants to spend on daycare, but I would switch her to pay ahead and enforce the no pay, no stay rule! Wow, this whole situation would almost be comical, if it wasn't actually happening! I think you need to hurry up and send that harsh letter!

Oh, I think she has money, I just think she doesnt think she should have to pay daycare......at least not on anyone's schedule but hers! I have definitely found that out the hard way that most parents who are horrible payers are usually just horrible budgeters and have the money, they just don't prioritze very well! They seem to be the ones that have the nicest cell phones, newest clothes and are always running....
I also agree with PP about using the interviewing another family tactic!
YES!! HURRY AND SEND THE HARSH LETTER!!

[nikia]

~~~~~~~ sending the backbone,... I was going to say if you had the check to call bank and cash if you can,... let HER deal with the pieces. (been there, done that) then text her and tell her sorry, already cashed it.

since not I give you loads of backbone,.. are you terming today??

Thank you

Get the check, go to the her bank and ash it THEN give her her termination. Otherwise, she'll stop payment on the check.

I think that is what I will do cash the check and then term tomorrow. You would think since she has to see me face to face she would be more embarressed and just let the other check bounce??? I dont know I know I would do that ::

[Blackcat31]

Wonder where she wrote the other check? If it is her house payment I understand...NOT RIGHT, but I get it, but if it was to McDonald's or something I'd be sooooooo pissed!!!

[nikia]

Oh, I think she has money, I just think she doesnt think she should have to pay daycare......at least not on anyone's schedule but hers! I have definitely found that out the hard way that most parents who are horrible payers are usually just horrible budgeters and have the money, they just don't prioritze very well! They seem to be the ones that have the nicest cell phones, newest clothes and are always running....
I also agree with PP about using the interviewing another family tactic!
YES!! HURRY AND SEND THE HARSH LETTER!!

I think she has the money too. So I am finishing up my harsh letter and a term letter ::