I Feel Like My Family Is Walking All Over Me

[Tdhmom]

Eh mom will pick it up, Heidi will get it.

I'm pretty sure this is what goes through my husband and kid's head every single day. I feel like they walk all over me. My house is never clean! When I do finally get a whopping 10 min of being uninterrupted something else needs cleaned. It's. Never. Ending.

The other night my husband made a cheeseburger after everyone had went to sleep....his entire mess was left out. The buns left open, ketchup still sitting on the counter and skillet and spatula still flung all over the stove. Seriously?! Why would you think this was ok?!

My kids basically have given up on cleaning up after themselves unless I say something about it 20 times...right now I'm still staring at their bedding from having a slumber party in the living room last night. I'm exhausted. I have zero energy at the end of the day to clean anymore...and I don't feel like I should have to!

I think it's time for a family meeting...we've never had one but now may be the time ::

[Naptime yet?]

I can totally emphasize with you. And what's worse, I can't even say "I'll keep the daycare part cleaned & picked up" because it's still the majority of the house! So I end up doing everything anyway.

[jenboo]

Eh mom will pick it up, Heidi will get it.

I'm pretty sure this is what goes through my husband and kid's head every single day. I feel like they walk all over me. My house is never clean! When I do finally get a whopping 10 min of being uninterrupted something else needs cleaned. It's. Never. Ending.

The other night my husband made a cheeseburger after everyone had went to sleep....his entire mess was left out. The buns left open, ketchup still sitting on the counter and skillet and spatula still flung all over the stove. Seriously?! Why would you think this was ok?!

My kids basically have given up on cleaning up after themselves unless I say something about it 20 times...right now I'm still staring at their bedding from having a slumber party in the living room last night. I'm exhausted. I have zero energy at the end of the day to clean anymore...and I don't feel like I should have to!

I think it's time for a family meeting...we've never had one but now may be the time ::

Do what MV did to her DH and start hiding their things ::::::

When i lived in a sorority house with 17 other girls, my position was House Manager. I had a treasure box. Anything that was left out in common areas was put into the box. The owner had to pay $1 per item to get it out. At the end of the month there was one last chance to buy their things back then they were donated.
A previous House Manager would put dirty dishes on the person's bed when they would leave them on the counter

There is also the good ol trash bag. Ask them to clean up once, when they dont then it all goes in the trash. Happened to my cousins once. They learned real fast.

[DaisyMamma]

This is me. I've started doing this. If something gets left out then I ask my kids to pick it up. If they don't then I throw it out. Two days ago they refused to clean their room. I threw out two full trash bags of crap.

But The only way to get them to do it, is to stop doing it for them. Period.

I have two adults in the house. Last night I made dinner. Then I had two kids who needed to stay late, so I took them out for a swim. I got home after 7pm.The table wasn't wiped and the leftovers weren't even put away. Dishes? of course not. The entire kitchen was a frigging pigsty. WTF? And since it is in view of daycare morning drop offs I had to clean it all up.

[CraftyMom]

Ugh I hear you! I have 3 kids, 4 counting my husband! Same story over here too! until I yell, then suddenly it's like "geez mom, you don't have to yell!"

[rosieteddy]

I have the same problem.We are over a barrel though because we need to work here and parents(clients expect a clean house).My husband and son both eat a second dinner after 11pm and hardly ever clean up.If you find a way to stop this let me know.

[Tdhmom]

Ugh I hear you! I have 3 kids, 4 counting my husband! Same story over here too! until I yell, then suddenly it's like "geez mom, you don't have to yell!"

yep!!! Or the look like you just squeezed their ears out of their head. Ugh

[Tdhmom]

I have the same problem.We are over a barrel though because we need to work here and parents(clients expect a clean house).My husband and son both eat a second dinner after 11pm and hardly ever clean up.If you find a way to stop this let me know.

I usually find cereal bowls in the living room from his second dinner (if you could call it that...maybe early breakfast?) but this hamburger debacle has me peeved!

[Tdhmom]

Omg I just figured out the multi quote

Do what MV did to her DH and start hiding their things ::::::

When i lived in a sorority house with 17 other girls, my position was House Manager. I had a treasure box. Anything that was left out in common areas was put into the box. The owner had to pay $1 per item to get it out. At the end of the month there was one last chance to buy their things back then they were donated.
A previous House Manager would put dirty dishes on the person's bed when they would leave them on the counter

There is also the good ol trash bag. Ask them to clean up once, when they dont then it all goes in the trash. Happened to my cousins once. They learned real fast.

The hiding things is hilarious! I'm definitely doing the paying for everything that isn't put up...there will be a ton of baseball card binders in my possession today!

This is me. I've started doing this. If something gets left out then I ask my kids to pick it up. If they don't then I throw it out. Two days ago they refused to clean their room. I threw out two full trash bags of crap.

But The only way to get them to do it, is to stop doing it for them. Period.

I have two adults in the house. Last night I made dinner. Then I had two kids who needed to stay late, so I took them out for a swim. I got home after 7pm.The table wasn't wiped and the leftovers weren't even put away. Dishes? of course not. The entire kitchen was a frigging pigsty. WTF? And since it is in view of daycare morning drop offs I had to clean it all up.

I've tried the not caring what things look like approach, then it feels like the walls start caving in on me and I'll end up cleaning it! Dcp's only see my front entrance so I can somewhat get away with it but then I start feeling trashy and no one else seems to care so it back fires on me :confused:

[daycarediva]

TRASH BAGS. Toss it in the garage. When their stuff starts to go missing, they'll start picking up.

I would have a serious convo with hubby though, he is being blatantly disrespectful and it's rubbing off on your children. NOT COOL.

[Tdhmom]

TRASH BAGS. Toss it in the garage. When their stuff starts to go missing, they'll start picking up.

I would have a serious convo with hubby though, he is being blatantly disrespectful and it's rubbing off on your children. NOT COOL.

That's why I'm so pissed off about it. He's usually not like that but it seems like every week he'll do something that I'm not used to him doing, this week it was the hamburger mess. I've stopped putting away his clothes...hasn't bothered him yet :: last week he complained about not having socks...I told him then he can do a load of laundry, I'm down to doing all laundry on Sunday and putting it all away on Monday. I'm sick of doing that everyday.

[KiddieCahoots]

Ugh I hear you! I have 3 kids, 4 counting my husband! Same story over here too! until I yell, then suddenly it's like "geez mom, you don't have to yell!"

Ditto!

Sometimes.......We are so unappreciated ladies!

That's usually when I go shopping for fun, then show hubby the bill, while explaining.....this is me rebelling, with a smile.

That works for me

[KiddieCahoots]

Omg I just figured out the multi quote

How do you do this?
I still can't figure it out !

[hope]

I was excited to go into labor with my 2nd child for this very reason. I thought the hospital stay would be a vacation from the cooking and cleaning and laundry. Two whole days of not having to services everyone else's needs.

I would hide the remote controls and wifi password morning and they can only get once chores are done.

[Tdhmom]

How do you do this?
I still can't figure it out !

the button right next to the quote one...click that on each one you want to do and then hit post comment

I was excited to go into labor with my 2nd child for this very reason. I thought the hospital stay would be a vacation from the cooking and cleaning and laundry. Two whole days of not having to services everyone else's needs.

I would hide the remote controls and wifi password morning and they can only get once chores are done.

Mine aren't old enough to care about the wifi password and husband would just use his data plan so that wouldn't work on him either, unfortunately because it's a good one! And the remote control he looses all by himself so he doesn't need my help on that one ::