Is This Appropriate?

[Indoorvoice]

Here's what I did: I decided to give dcb3, who came in very nicely after dcg arrived a certificate for coming in so nicely (my kids are big on "happy notes" they can show mom and dad). I made a huge deal about what a great job he did and how quiet his voice was. Of course dcg asked for one and I had to say, "oh man! I wish I could, but you were so loud when you came in today! Maybe you can try tomorrow." Cue dcg pouty face. We'll see how my plan works tomorrow...

[TheGoodLife]

Here's what I did: I decided to give dcb3, who came in very nicely after dcg arrived a certificate for coming in so nicely (my kids are big on "happy notes" they can show mom and dad). I made a huge deal about what a great job he did and how quiet his voice was. Of course dcg asked for one and I had to say, "oh man! I wish I could, but you were so loud when you came in today! Maybe you can try tomorrow." Cue dcg pouty face. We'll see how my plan works tomorrow...

Awesome! Keep us posted on how it goes tomorrow, hope it works for her!!

[Play Care]

Here's what I did: I decided to give dcb3, who came in very nicely after dcg arrived a certificate for coming in so nicely (my kids are big on "happy notes" they can show mom and dad). I made a huge deal about what a great job he did and how quiet his voice was. Of course dcg asked for one and I had to say, "oh man! I wish I could, but you were so loud when you came in today! Maybe you can try tomorrow." Cue dcg pouty face. We'll see how my plan works tomorrow...

Great idea! I might even remind the child as they were leaving about your expectations for the morning and what happens if they do a great job coming in ("hey buddy, remember to come in quietly and cheerfully and you can get an award too! Have a great night" then quickly shut the door:: )

I would NOT ignore a child coming in screaming and wailing each morning. They need to know that behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. This is a business but it is also my home/ neighborhood. Right in my contract there is a blurb about the behavior expectations of children coming and going to day care - staying with parents, being considerate of my family and my neighbors, etc. so a child coming in every day screaming - especially a PRESCHOOLER, could risk being terminated from my day care for that behavior. This isn't tattling (ignore) or slight whining (ignore) it's a potentially term-able offense. Frankly I'd be saying something to the PARENTS if it was happening frequently.

[CedarCreek]

I had a 4 year old once that pulled this CONSTANTLY. Why? because if he did, Mom would take him with her to go run errands and leave his 2 year old brother with me (who always came in happy and smiley, he was a doll)

I did bye- bye outside with him for a while and eventually had a talk with him about it similar to yours. It got better with consistency.

Really, Mom was the problem. That's why bye-bye outside is so great. It didn't give her time to hang around the door and make things worse.

[rebekki78]

She cries cause it works with DCD. She stops cause it doesn't work with you.

I have found this to be SO true.

[rebekki78]

Yeppers...."Sorry, hun but painting with tempura paints is for the big kids. You can paint with water colors if you'd like."

The way I do it, allows for everyone to get the same opportunities but with different levels of "big-ness" kwim?

Everyone gets art time but not everyone gets to use tempura paint.
Everyone gets to play Legos but not everyone gets to use the little Lego sets.

Everyone gets to go outside but only the big kids get to go into an area of the yard that has the fun "big kid" toys.

Etc etc. etc...

lovethis Yep. Going to be trying this one!

[daycare]

I have this kid and he is 4. Has been with me since age 18 months. I tried BCs tacit, it has worked on all of the kids but this one.

So, I told the DCP that they need to settle their child before they are even getting out of the car.

In my child's case, they were screaming because they could not have a cookie, or daddy would not go to the park, let them play ipad and etc. It was NOT because daddy was leaving or mommy.

I put it back on the parent, sorry you need to calm your child and only drop when they are calm.

When he screams he goes straight to the crying spot and does not get any privileges. Big kids here get to play ABC mouse.com, but big kids don't come in screaming like babies. So nothing for privilege.