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I feel like I've had to use my firm voice almost constantly lately because I've had so many behavior issues. I really hate that. I want to be the fun daycare lady, but every time I try to join in play or just relax and enjoy the kids a particular 2 cause all sorts of chaos so it's back to a firm "get yourself in line," kwim? I didn't notice how true that is until we had a four day weekend. I honestly didn't realize what was so different at first, but I kept commenting to DH that I just felt so relaxed compared to normal. It's like I could actually breathe and enjoy my own child for the first time in forever. I was firm when I needed to be, but mostly I spoke to him in a cheerful voice, we played at the park and had fun, a lot of play and fun activities, and I felt good. Within 10 minutes of 2 particular dcks coming in today, I was shaky, heart pounding, felt my chest tighten up, and back to having to use a firm voice all.morning.long again. And of course my 3 y.o. who behaves pretty well when dcks are not here acts just like them when they are. Sometimes I feel so defeated.
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YES!! The last two summers I felt as though I were "yelling" all summer. I realized in my case I had a couple of kids who just were too big to be here. I've been making some big changes and already there is a HUGE difference this year. Yes, I have less kids for the summer, but I'm okay with that. It certainly beats me feeling like a big meanie
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I think I scared someone walking by today, when I used a stern voice to say "STOP THAT!" to one of my kids who was about to push the other off the picnic bench.
Pretty sure it was an adult (couldn't tell through the fence) and pretty sure they jumped
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Yes, this was me yesterday. I know what you are saying about being more laid back when it is just your own kids. I had such a lovely and long weekend with just my family, that I guess deep down I really wasn't looking forward to being back at work, back to kids messing up my house, and back to having to remind everyone of their manners and rules since they seem to have forgotten them. Ds was acting up in rare form yesterday as well, and I thought about how nice it would be if we could financially afford for me to only take care of my own kids...oh it is nice to dream.Comment
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That's an effective stern voice :
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Several years ago one of my dcb went to bite another child on their FACE
because I was right there I was able to intervene before he got a hold of him and I said so firmly "NO BITING! BITING HURTS!" That I scared myself::
We've never had a biting issue here before, and we haven't since
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Oh heck yay I feel like the grouchy day care lady all day sometimes, and that's usually when I come here! Lol!
Reading everybody's similar struggles, talks me down.
I know it's not always doable, but less kids or less trouble makers helps me too. Right now, my pampered baby dictates our days. Today he's telling me.....it's another grouchy day care lady day.
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I feel grouchy a lot too
Like today I had the morning off to go workout which felt amazing. Then I get to the preschool and as soon as I walk in the door I have to say things like "Billy, don't put that toy in your mouth." or "Sarah, don't take toys from your friends".......and it was non-stop the first 15 minutes I was here. They weren't being super bad, but I was having to continually comment about things to get them to behave. And of course none of them wanted to nap yesterday or today which if they were laying down quietly I wouldn't care but they talk to themselves or move around a lot and it disrupts the ones that need to sleep, which drives me crazy.
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I admit my tolerance is low for a particular child in my daycare also. Everyone was getting ready to go outside so I ran in to use the bathroom real quick. While I was in there, I could hear 2 kids yelling at A### to stop that, don't do that....several times. So I came right out and looked him in the eye and said Go Sit Down. He gives me a rolling the eyes type look and mocks me. I ignore it because he sits. We wait a couple minutes, then I say you can get up now, let's go outside. 'I don't want to.' I repeat what I said. He repeats 'I don't want to.' I said 'WE ARE GOING OUT AND YOU JUST LOST WATER PLAY.' Not yelling really but he knew I meant business.
I detest disrespect from a 6 yo. And it constantly comes from him.Comment
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Thanks everyone. It makes me feel better just knowing I'm not the only one. Sometimes I feel so bad for my kids, but then I think if I worked a job away from home they would still be dealing with the same issues in someone else's home or daycare. At least I get to be with them. I guess sometimes we have to take the bad with the good.Comment
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I admit I have one here who is hard to tolerate also. He hasn't been here for half of last week or isn't going to be here all this week and it's made such a difference! He's only 2.5 (will be 3 in Sept.) and I keep hoping it's a phase, but he's been like this since he came here at 18 mo. My other dck's or my ds isn't like that, I can't even walk away for a min without someone yelling at the challenging dcb because he has done something. I feel like I'm always being stern and I don't like it either.Comment
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I think I have Oscar's DNA......Comment
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Ugh, the dcb I mentioned in my reply yesterday, he had one helluva day yesterday. I hope he's better today. So YES I was super grouchy because of him, most of the day. Plus I kept thinking 'It's ONLY TUESDAY'.Comment
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