Interesting....

[mrsnj]

Now, keep in mind my previous DYFS divorce momma drama when you read this and the so called 20 kids I had here running the neighborhood (among other things she said).........

I have a school ager who comes for the summer. Tech too old for here but hes been coming for 10 yrs and is friends with my DD. They are like family and close. So I take him as a playmate for DD.

Anyway. We are eating lunch and he asks if there is a limit on how many kids I can take. I of course ask him why he would ask that. He says his mom was looking it up on the internet and asking him. :confused: I asked him why his mom would be concerned and he said he didn't know. Just was a conversation they had and then he ran off to play.

How ODD after ten years she would question such a thing! And in the same week DYFS was here. The child was not here during all that BTW. He was not interviewed nor was his info given to them for contact. Now I know my daughter could have said something to him and he went home and said something to his mom. But she has been here long enough and considered part of the family enough that I would think that had he come home saying DYFS came cause someone said I had 20 kids, she would have laughed it off and known better. On the other hand, she must be curious enough to have to look it up.

I am wondering if the divorce momma drama is being busy behind the scenes and making calls or sending out info. It was SO out of the blue and odd he would ask such a thing. It just fit right into all the issues with this mom. The families and moms are not friends but that doesn't mean divorce momma isn't doing her rounds. I can't help but feel a red flag.

Now I am not worried about this mom. She had known me long enough and if she had a concern I am sure she would say something. But still......So my question is would you ask the mom about the conversation? Or let it go?

[e.j.]

I would ask her, especially since you are close enough to consider her to be part of your family. If it were me, I'd also ask my dd if she had said anything to him about the visit from DYFS.

[Shell]

I would ask her, especially since you are close enough to consider her to be part of your family. If it were me, I'd also ask my dd if she had said anything to him about the visit from DYFS.

I would be too curious to just let it go.

[hope]

I would bring it up. Dcm may have heard through the grape vine that there is something going on and I would think it would be better to hear it from you rather than gossip. I usually advise to keep most information to yourself unless it concerns their child but in this case the rumor mill or crazy divorce mom may be on a destructive path to ruin your business.

[mrsnj]

Well see I am too. But I don't want my curiosity to over rule either.

I don't think it was from my DD talking to the child and him going back cause when I asked him why his mom was talking to him about it he said he didn't know. That it was in conversation. Now if it was him talking to his mom he would have said that "Oh I told my mom...." . He didn't know why she was asking. This mom has been here for 10 years. I would think if there was an issue she would say something.

I am seriously wondering if this divorce mom is having chats. No other parents came up to me to tell me that though. Most already know the issue. I am sure if she was contacting others they would have come and told me. Most don't like the drama momma. BUT all mass emails and contacts and texts would have been with this older child along with her oldest. They did trips and things together. So its possible that she pulled info from a mass text/email for the older kids. Would explain why the younger ones aren't saying anything.

My husband will FLIP! He is already gearing up to contact his lawyer when I get the case papers. He will add slander to the list if this is what is happening.

I am taking the older child to my VBS tonight. So you all think I should ask her then?

[TheGoodLife]

I would definitely just bring it up casually/conversationally! Ugh, that stinks- I hope it was a misunderstanding with the DCB and not initiated by the former DCM. Or maybe she is thinking of doing daycare (or something similar) and was just finding out info? Hmm, keeps us posted!

[KidGrind]

Now, keep in mind my previous DYFS divorce momma drama when you read this and the so called 20 kids I had here running the neighborhood (among other things she said).........

I have a school ager who comes for the summer. Tech too old for here but hes been coming for 10 yrs and is friends with my DD. They are like family and close. So I take him as a playmate for DD.

Anyway. We are eating lunch and he asks if there is a limit on how many kids I can take. I of course ask him why he would ask that. He says his mom was looking it up on the internet and asking him. :confused: I asked him why his mom would be concerned and he said he didn't know. Just was a conversation they had and then he ran off to play.

How ODD after ten years she would question such a thing! And in the same week DYFS was here. The child was not here during all that BTW. He was not interviewed nor was his info given to them for contact. Now I know my daughter could have said something to him and he went home and said something to his mom. But she has been here long enough and considered part of the family enough that I would think that had he come home saying DYFS came cause someone said I had 20 kids, she would have laughed it off and known better. On the other hand, she must be curious enough to have to look it up.

I am wondering if the divorce momma drama is being busy behind the scenes and making calls or sending out info. It was SO out of the blue and odd he would ask such a thing. It just fit right into all the issues with this mom. The families and moms are not friends but that doesn't mean divorce momma isn't doing her rounds. I can't help but feel a red flag.

Now I am not worried about this mom. She had known me long enough and if she had a concern I am sure she would say something. But still......So my question is would you ask the mom about the conversation? Or let it go?

You seemed to handle it with the person who inquired; I’d let it go. So what if divorce mom is making her rounds. The truth will always come to light.