Apparently My Dining Room Is A Luncheonette

[crazydaycarelady]

Remember lunchtime mom and dad, who were meeting here at my house to BF the baby? They are not doing that anymore but today dcm came with a friend, no heads up what-so-ever. They both sat at the dining room table and then the friend asked to use my bathroom.

This isn't the lunch counter at Kmart!

[NightOwl]

Oh that's tough. I'm sure you want to encourage her to bf, but it shouldn't be made into a social situation in your home. I don't know what state you're in, but aren't there some regs that state you can't have visitors that aren't parents or, at least there for a valid reason?

[MotherNature]

Ugh. I'd definitely tell her inviting people you don't know into your house is not cool, & it's not going to happen again. She should be embarrassed, whether there's regulations from licensing or not. That's just rude!

[MarinaVanessa]

Oh that's tough. I'm sure you want to encourage her to bf, but it shouldn't be made into a social situation in your home. I don't know what state you're in, but aren't there some regs that state you can't have visitors that aren't parents or, at least there for a valid reason?

Yes this! I'd be taken back by this but I'd def say something.

"Susan, I encourage that you BF baby Bobby but I think sometimes people can forget that not only is this daycare but it's also my home. My private home (3 second pause to let it sink in). I don't mind one parent coming by or anything, but I don't want it turning into a social hour. Friends are definitely a no-no here, they can wait in the car outside. You may know them but to me your friends are strangers so I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't bring other people with you when you come by. Thanks for understanding."

You wouldn't take an uninvited stranger to a gathering that you were invited to so why would you take a friend to someone else's house without asking :confused:

[Blackcat31]

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[hope]

There just seems to be certain people That can't seem to do anything by themselves. They need someone to talk to as they do everything. This woman seems to have this issue. She should be using her time to bf to bond with her child. It seems that she thinks bringing someone with her is completely normal. I would tell her that you need to be notified when she is coming and she can not bring any one with her. Explain that it can be disruptive and against regulation and insurance. I would be honest and let her know that you want to encourage and support bf but you are not comfortable with how she is doing it.

[Baby lady]

You might even tell her that licensing doesn't allow anyone (adult) who is not on the license to be in your home when kids are present. They sure don't allow it here!

[Indoorvoice]

No advice. Just wanted to say how ridiculous this is that you should even have to tell someone that. What the heck??

[midaycare]

That woman is off her rocker. Who does that?

[nannyde]

I'm not surprised at all. As states start forcing providers to have onsite breast feeding you will see ANOTHER layer of parents misbehaving and taking advantage of the provider.

[Unregistered]

That woman is off her rocker. Who does that?

People who see your daycare HOME as a public facility?

[cheerfuldom]

I have had several provider friends have this same issue. I don't allow BFing moms to come nurse at my home, not because I am anti-breastfeeding, but because this service comes with a lot of drama and nonsense. Moms can provide pumped milk. If they need somewhere to sit every day during lunchtime, at drop off and pickup, this is not the place for them.

[crazydaycarelady]

I know we talk about how kids have really changed over the years but I think the parents have also. I have been coming across situations recently that I have never encountered before and I have been doing this a long time! I am tired of babysitting the grown-ups and teaching them what is acceptable behavior. Its no wonder the kids are the way they are!

[Blackcat31]

I know we talk about how kids have really changed over the years but I think the parents have also. I have been coming across situations recently that I have never encountered before and I have been doing this a long time! I am tired of babysitting the grown-ups and teaching them what is acceptable behavior. Its no wonder the kids are the way they are!

This is when your handbook goes from 3 or 4 pages to 20. ::

[crazydaycarelady]

I know! Its about 16 pages already and has been that way for several years. But now recently I have had to start adding things again!