"I Am 21 Years Old. I Can't Be Bothered With This"

[permanentvacation]

Quoted by my 17 month old's mother this morning when I asked why her cousin pays for the baby to go to daycare all day from 9am - 4pm even though the mother is at home all day and only works 5pm - midnight. I know she's tight on money and suggested that she save money by not having the baby in daycare.

The 'this' she couldn't be bothered with is her baby!

My reaction in my mind; WOW!! Poor baby! SAD!! So sad!! I feel so bad for this baby! When I was 20 years old, I had opened my own daycare for the sole purpose of being able to spend the entire day with my baby because I loved her so much that I couldn't bare the thought of not seeing her blink her eyes once without me seeing it! My baby was my WORLD! How sad that you don't want to spend any time with this beautiful little girl!

Of course I didn't say anything like that to her, I just said, "Oh, okay, I just thought it would help you financially to not have to pay for daycare." She said " No, my parents told me the same thing. I just can't be bothered with this all day." So I again said okay, then told her to have a good day.

[Shell]

horrible parenting! Good thing you are here for the baby.

[kathiemarie]

I just had a young mom kinda like that. Would bring baby @ 8am not go to work until 2pm. Had her mom pick baby up when I closed, even though the baby's dad wanted to but she wouldn't "let" him because she NEVER go to see the baby because she had to work until 6:30 or 7. I ended up telling her that I would only watch the baby when she was working and had to tell me the Friday before what her schedule was. She ended up terming. Child is still in care 50 hrs. a week when she works 20.

[NightOwl]

There should be a test.....

[CedarCreek]

That makes me so sad. That poor baby deserves better than a mother that "cant be bothered" with her.

Ugh.

[daycare]

is it possible she suffers from postpartum? I did very badly with my first until she was 2.

[jokalima]

It's not only young parents. Lateley, I have been blessed to have families that care for their children. But I have one family that just won't keep the child one day. They can be home, both of them but child will still come and they will pick up at regular time, my closing time. Not a minute earlier. I can't understand this kind of parenting. :confused:

[Blackcat31]

Well, it's a good thing the baby has a safe, inviting and welcoming place to be all day.

[Little Buttons]

My heart aches reading that :-\ I am glad the baby has you to love and care for him! As far as not taking the kids on days off i don't get it either. My DCB mom has 4 weeks off this summer and as she said "thats me time i cannot get anything done or go out with friends with him atound"...so he'll be here open to close every day i am quite sure!

[permanentvacation]

I don't know if it's postpartum or not. I really don't know anything about postpartum but the child is 17 months old. I would think that she should have pulled herself out of it by now if it was postpartum.

Whether it's postpartum or not, it's really sad that she only sees her child for an hour in the morning while they are getting up and dressed for the day and a half an hour in the afternoon when she picks her up from daycare, takes her to her cousin's house and gets dressed to go to work for the night. It's just sad.

[permanentvacation]

I have had parents also that take vacation days or a week vacation and bring their children here all day too. It's just sad to me. I've also had people that I don't know that call looking for daycare that would watch their child for an entire weekend - all day, overnight, all weekend - so the parents can go on a vacation out of the area without their child. I do not watch children 24/7, and told them that. But I just can't believe they were even calling daycare providers looking for that type of care.

[Meeko]

Honestly...the future is scary with parents like this so plentiful nowadays.

Why on earth did this "mother" (and I use the term lightly) not give the child up for adoption...as she obviously doesn't want the poor little "thing"? There are many couples out there aching to have a little one to love.

[permanentvacation]

Yeah, I don't understand parents like that. I just hope that someone takes this little girl and others like her under their wings as they grow up if their parents continue not showing an interest in being their parents throughout their lives.

I raised about half of my neighborhood a few years ago because I found out that so many of the kids' parents were drug addicts and/or drug dealers. They didn't have food at their home, their parents didn't take them school shopping, clothes shopping, anything. At any given day, I could have up to 20 teenagers in my home. Many of them spent the night different nights. I felt so bad that their parents obviously didn't care to be involved in their lives.

I recently had one of those kids, one of the girls, over my house and she told her girlfriend how much I helped her and influenced her. She said that without me, she doesn't know how she would have ended up. That just made me feel so appreciated and proud of having helped the kids in my neighborhood. When I think of my little kids whose parents don't want to be in their lives, I just hope someone else will be there for them.

[nannyde]

Honestly I would rather have someone come right out and say it then pretend they like being around their kid awake when they don't. Maybe the next wave of parenting will be the in your face "not going to parent because I don't lie it" will become popular.

We should be so lucky. That way we can screen them and not have to find out the hard way.

[melilley]

That's so sad, especially her choice of words about her own daughter and to even say that about her when she doesn't even spend that much time with her. I don't get it.

I have a dcb who is here every day, in fact, today dcm dropped off and said that she "was" going to keep dcb home today since she, dcd and the 3 yo. bro. are going to be home today, but dcb is "too busy" and she has things to do. There's 2 of them home! At Christmas time, the whole family was at grandmas making cookies while dcb was here. Dcm also always tells me she needs a time out from her kids so they have a time out away from her. I understand the need for a break every once in a while, but every day that they have off!? Sad.

I agree with nan, parents should just be blunt on how they feel about their kids at interviews, that way we can weed out the not so great parents.