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I enrolled a 3m old DCK about a month ago, he's very fussy in the mornings, and fussier on Mondays. He arrives an hour before and leaves an hour after everyone else. A fussy infant for 10 hours a day gets pretty exhausting. I asked the mom about this, and they said they hold him all the time. They are a nice family, but honestly I think he'd fit in better with a smaller program. We have 6-8 kids of differing ages, so I just can't hold him all the time. Plus the crying is upsetting the other children and resulting in short naps for every one. Do I try to work with him to self soothe, or give them references to other programs?
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I would talk to the parents and explain to them what you just said here. 1 of 2 things will happen. 1-they will work on not holding him all the time and he will adjust and it will get better, or 2- They will continue to hold him and it won't. I have a 8 month old that I have had for 5 months. Parents hold her ALL the time but say they don't. Well she still cry's but now that she can crawl its not as bad as it was which is why I have stuck it out. But like I said its been 5 months and She still cry's most of the time. I however can't afford to term because I have her and her sister. If they can't help you then its best to term now before making yourself crazy. -
Agreed. It's a partnership and they have to hold up their end of the bargain. They must work on holding him less at home and realizing that the crying is not because he's in pain/lonely/sad, it's because he just wants to be held. And they need to understand that the holding at home makes your day much harder.Comment
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I have a little guy who is much older (12 months) and he was constantly held also. It was, and still is, an issue. It has improved a LOT, but since he is older, I'm thinking it's a tougher habit to break. A 3 month old might get over it more quickly. (?)Comment
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Honestly, I would wear him, gradually getting him used to tummy time, and time in the crib. At 3 months, he may just be a high needs infant who needs touched and held. Short bouts of crying are easier to handle (for everyone) than long periods. Letting a 3 month old cry for long periods bothers me.
If you aren't willing or can't wear him, I would suggest they find that smaller program or a nanny.Comment
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I was going to suggest a sling or other baby carrier while he's so little. And maybe a swing too. I rarely use a swing, but some children just need it.Comment
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