UPDATE/DOG SITUATION w/ CRAZY Neighbor

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  • Mom of 4

    UPDATE/DOG SITUATION w/ CRAZY Neighbor

    So, we had a feeling after the neighbor falsely reported ( I believe I updated that in prior thread) our animal bothering her, that she was “watching” us but could not prove it.


    So the other day, my kids are outside playing in our front yard and over hear her saying to (someone) how much she hates us (this is around noon) and that she is “going to do something to our cat and the dog when they are gone” and so my daughter comes in crying and upset saying how she heard the neighbor say that. So I tell them to go play out back instead. They go to the back, and apparently, the neighbor is on the phone talking to that said someone. She tells the neighbor she will do anything she can to get us into court. I open the window to my daughter’s room and start to listen. She tells whoever “Well I don’t care what they say, I’ll tell them that her dog is dangerous cuz of that stupid (blank) fence and that we fear for our kids’ safety” and the other person said something to make her mad and she goes “I don’t care, I really don’t. I don’t like them and I’ll say that the dog DID bite one of my kids and that’s why I want to take care of things” IDK what all that meant , “take care of things?” And she yells again at the person, “Just forget it” Hangs up. A couple hours later, the kids are back outside playing chalk, neighbor was inside. She comes OUTSIDE with her husband. She goes up to my kids and asks them exactly how to pronounce our last name, and my kids come and tell me. All I hear is the husband saying “LEAVE them alone, do NOT talk to those kids!’ To which the neighbor responds ‘I wasn’t, I’m talking to YOU” The husband gets upset with her and tells her to just stop. They get into their argument, and we leave the area completely. So far, I’ve completely ignored her, and told my kids to do the same.

    FF to that night. We had to go to my dd’s dance lessons and then to a VBS so that was from 3:30PM-8:30PM we are gone. Dog is kenneled inside.

    We pull in the driveway JUST after my husband gets home from work. We both go in, set down our stuff and then my kids AND the dog go outside (We took advice from the forum and our local Animal Control not to allow the pets out by themselves) My older son RUNS in, screaming “MOM MOM, SHE iS VIDEOTAPING US ON HER SMART PHONE!” Mind you, there was not a PEEP out of the dog OR the kid when outside. So we re-crate the dog and my husband walks outside telling the kids “get inside” . She’s STILL videotaping and my husband tells her to STOP videotaping our children. She starts crying about how we are bothering HER. Husband says “STOP taping the kids NOW” She stops and says “YOU ARE HARASSING ME” I said “ (NAME) WE leave YOU alone. YOU are the one VIDEOTAPING us, just knock it off!”

    Her hubby is outside with her and tells my hubby he’d like to talk in the driveway out front instead, and hubby says “OK, without your wife” We both leave the back yard, go to the front, all parties on OWN properties. NO one, including the neighbors stepped foot off the properties. The husband asks what is going on. He knows the wife and us have a little issue, but apparently wasn’t enlightened. So we tell him everything, as politely as we can. He acknowledges the fact his wife is a little nuts! A LITTLE?! Lol

    We tell him her continued false reporting is not ok nor is addressing our KIDS in whatever problems she has with us, though we don’t even TALK to her. He denies she false-reported us. Concurrently, she’s inside FALSELY telling the 911 dispatcher that we are harassing and threatening them! WTFFFF!? So she screams (hubby’s name) “COME INSIDE” and he says “I’m talking with the neighbors, what!” She tells him she’s called 911. He’s telling her, “ARE YOU SERIOUS!?” and they argue a minute.

    Hubby comes back and says “Well, the PD was called, and I guess that’s not a great way to resolve our differences, is it? I told her that was a BAD idea” We all stood there waiting for the cops, who pull in thinking there was an ASSAULT! Of course, thankfully, the hubby throws her under the bus and tells the PD that the wife “Likes to call on these things” it “wasn’t me or them” and said “nothing is going on” and we agreed. They get all our licenses and check something, not sure. Said to wait so the female cop can go in and tt the complaintant.

    Female partner goes in and tt neighbor, who probably was raving like crazy, stating all kinds of nonsense, the female comes out ROLLS her eyes, and says’ Ya’ll are OK, we’re OUT”

    WHAT a frikin’ nut! She LIED, making a false complaint, hubby was EMBARRASSED by her and he put his foot in his mouth stating she wouldn’t do that, as she was DOING just that! She wasted resources, taxpayer money etc. We were so ticked. She is STILL watchful and creepy! Thankfully she moves in May next year! It can’t get here soon enough.

    ALL of the above started happening after I told her “NO thanks” on babysitting my kids….I think she’s butt hurt
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    #2
    You need to get some cameras on her now! Have your cell with you and charged incase you have to tape her as well. Keep a folder and document everything. That way you are prepared when (not if) you have another interaction with the police. Make sure to get all names of the police / animal control you talk to as well.

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    • NightOwl
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Mar 2014
      • 2722

      #3
      Agreed!! I can seriously see this escalating. Get a security camera and point it straight at her house/property line, preferably without her knowledge. They make some that are triggered to start recording when it detects motion. You have GOT to be proactive in protecting yourself. Don't wait for the next incident. Be READY for it!!

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      • midaycare
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jan 2014
        • 5658

        #4
        Wow! Someone needs to tell your neighbor that her crazy is showing and it needs to be tucked back in.

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        • Josiegirl
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jun 2013
          • 10834

          #5
          Where do all these nuts come from? Between your neighbor and Mrsnj's divorce drama mama, they seriously need their own island somewhere.

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          • TwinKristi
            Family Childcare Provider
            • Aug 2013
            • 2390

            #6
            I would get a restraining (no-contact) order and have her served ASAP. This is crazy! There is nothing stopping her from doing this again and again until MAY!! 11 long months! What if she does something more crazy or dramatic and if effects your daycare??

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            • Mom of 4

              #7
              So,
              Do you think a restraining order would stop her from calling cops on us? We've done nothing wrong.

              Thankfully, I do not run a child care any more. SHE does, though and wanted me to let her watch my kids and I said no and since then, she's been a real......(((((()))))). Hers is unregistered, and she is only supposed to take one family, but said she had a few b/a school kiddos and it'd be fine to take mine too since I was next door. Another lady, same street, runs a licensed child care and it's less than 500 feet, and I am PRETTY sure regulations prohibit 2 licensed providers on same street which is why the crazy neighbor runs it illegally. She told me cash only and that she would cut me a deal 25 seconds after I met her and she saw I had kids. Her deal was more than my LICENSED and reputable daycare provider charges, so even if she were awesome, why would I leave one awesome provider for another when the new one would cost me MORE? Except that I wasn't moving their schools/DCP anyway....AND, after some things I had seen within weeks of being there, I personally would NEVER let my kids go to her home for child care even for free! She's crazy # 1 and #2 she's not that dependable and I'm sure that there are other great reasons I haven't uncovered!


              The other big issue with her, is she thinks she knows...Everything. She is the all-sayer in laws, contracts, neighborhood business, medical advice, surveying land, landscaping, raising chickens and other farming activities, decking, building...she's just a jack of all trades know-it-all (she doesn't work outside the home or anything, so is home ALL.THE.TIME. can't escape her). We keep to ourselves and she solicited us with unwanted advice and offers. We were nice, too. Maybe that was the first mistake?

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              • midaycare
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jan 2014
                • 5658

                #8
                I second the no contact order. Immediately. She's becoming unhinged.

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                • Laurel
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Mar 2013
                  • 3218

                  #9
                  A restraining/no contact order isn't that easy to get. My daughter got one from her nutty ex but most of the people in court at the same time got denied. At least in Florida you would need some pretty compelling reason. I'm not saying that this isn't serious enough but just saying it isn't as simple as just going asking for one. Proof would be good to have.

                  I know she was asked if she feared for her life.

                  Laurel

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                  • midaycare
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Jan 2014
                    • 5658

                    #10
                    Originally posted by Laurel
                    A restraining/no contact order isn't that easy to get. My daughter got one from her nutty ex but most of the people in court at the same time got denied. At least in Florida you would need some pretty compelling reason. I'm not saying that this isn't serious enough but just saying it isn't as simple as just going asking for one. Proof would be good to have.

                    I know she was asked if she feared for her life.

                    Laurel
                    I had to get one, and someone I know did, too. I think because crazy neighbor lady is involving the kids and threatening harm to her animals, it will pass. Not to mention the police phone call just because she felt like it.

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                    • TwinKristi
                      Family Childcare Provider
                      • Aug 2013
                      • 2390

                      #11
                      If she continually repeated you to the police for false reasons, yes. If the police are contacting you on her behalf due to a false complaint I would tell them right then and there you have a no-contact order and she's harassing you. She or her husband wouldn't be able to talk to you or communicate in any way. Perhaps her dh could talk to your dh if there was a real neighborly need but otherwise no. And I would also call CPS on her if she has children in her care licensed or not. She's a freakin lunatic obviously and her dh said it as well. Blah! Scary!!

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                      • Laurel
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Mar 2013
                        • 3218

                        #12
                        Originally posted by midaycare
                        I had to get one, and someone I know did, too. I think because crazy neighbor lady is involving the kids and threatening harm to her animals, it will pass. Not to mention the police phone call just because she felt like it.
                        Probably, it is strange that she is a provider herself and thinks it is okay to involve children, wow.

                        Laurel

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                        • grandmom
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2010
                          • 766

                          #13
                          GET A COPY OF THAT POLICE REPORT. Sorry to yell at you.

                          Get a restraining order. She threatened your animals in front of the children. They are fearful.

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                          • coolconfidentme
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Oct 2012
                            • 1541

                            #14
                            I would keep a paper trail on her activities. Log the activities as they happen & note the time. If the police were called, log it & along with the officers names. They have to write reports & shift logs btw. If something became of her conversation, her cell phone records would later determine who she was talking to. These things are hard to remember later & admissible in court. Send her a formal cease & desist order to stop harassing you & your family. Check your local harassment laws, she maybe in violation, idk. Do not engage in conversation with her, if you over here her engage in conversation within ear shot you have a right to record it. I would also place a video surveillance where she is likely to come near your property. I use to be a police officer, these things get ugly sometimes, just be prepared if they do. Good luck...

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                            • SunshineMama
                              Advanced Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2012
                              • 1575

                              #15
                              Get a camera. Document time date and place (email it to yourself for a date stamp). Call the police and file a harassment report. Get a restraining order. Lastly-this lady watches kids???

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