For Ten Year Plus Veterans.... Can I Ask?

[nannyde]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

Now the same question of the last five-years.

Now the same questions of the last year.

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

[Annalee]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

Now the same question of the last five-years.

Now the same questions of the last year.

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

Been in business 22 years.....the first 10 years went awesome! kids follow directions, do as told and respected the consequences of their behavior as did the parents of these kids by offering full support to my assistant and I. The last 10 years, it has gradually turned into something totally opposite....while I still have control, it takes much more effort and sometimes more than I want to give.

[nannyde]

Been in business 22 years.....the first 10 years went awesome! kids follow directions, do as told and respected the consequences of their behavior as did the parents of these kids by offering full support to my assistant and I. The last 10 years, it has gradually turned into something totally opposite....while I still have control, it takes much more effort and sometimes more than I want to give.

Can you estimate percentages please? I am wanting input for an article I'm working on.

[Unregistered]

I've been in business for 10 years.
First 5 years I would say 90%,the past few years I would guess around 50%.It's hard to say because I technically have 100% well behaved children with great parents but it takes me a lot longer to interview.I've taken kids in the past year that I would have never taken in 10 years ago,they are getting harder to find.

[nannyde]

I've been in business for 10 years.
First 5 years I would say 90%,the past few years I would guess around 50%.It's hard to say because I technically have 100% well behaved children with great parents but it takes me a lot longer to interview.I've taken kids in the past year that I would have never taken in 10 years ago,they are getting harder to find.

Thank you

[Annalee]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well? 40% comes naturally with the qualities you listed, but the other kids take work, some more work than others

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.the whole 40%

Now the same question of the last five-years. 20% come with the qualities you listed because the parents have the same qualities, expectations

Now the same questions of the last year. still 20 % in my opinion

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

I don't think I have had any parents that I would consider to be top quality with kids that acted badly consistently

[Angelsj]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well? I am going to say about 18%. Out of a group of around 40 kids in that time period, I would say 7 came to me that way. Now, if I have a child for more than a year, that goes up quickly. Of those 40, I would say 30 LEFT my care being all those things.

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.
Of those 7, 5 fit this category. The other two, the mom talks about those things, but honestly does not accomplish them.

Now the same question of the last five-years.
All of this has been in the last five years. Prior to that I had some pretty low income, difficult kids, mostly due to area and my own choices of providing care.

Now the same questions of the last year.
My kids have been quite stable over the last year, so no changes really. (Added three I spoke of above, and a baby sibling.)


Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?
Early in my career (30 plus years ago) I often had pretty rough parents, and kids who either were golden children because of it, or had horrific behavior issues. More recently, I have one set of pretty darn good parents (and one set of amazing parents) who have children with behavior issues. I think both sets of kids will eventually be ok, but only because their parents are so willing to work with me, their doctor, and behavioral therapists to ensure the best possible outcome for their kids. So, two kids of the 40 fit your category, a sad 0.5%.

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[permanentvacation]

I don't know percentages, but what I do know is that I have been a licensed home daycare provider for 25 years and every daycare provider I know has made comments that as each year goes by, the parents and kids get worse and worse. The kids are not as educated at home and are less able to retain the information we are teaching them at daycare. The children's attitudes, behavior, mannerisms, etc. are worse and worse each year. The parents become less and less interested in spending time with their children at home and less and less interested in their child's activities at daycare each year.

[daycare]

going on year 12

I am going to try to answer the best I can understand.


Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?

In the start I would say about 85%, that lasted for about 3 years, it dropped after year 3 and has continued to drop which I would say now is about 35- 40%




Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

12 years ago, again about 85%

Now the same question of the last five-years. %60

Now the same questions of the last year. 35%

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids? 5%

[Heidi]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?
I may throw your numbers off slightly, because I took a long break. Did dc 10 years, out for 10 years, back in for 3. In the first 10 years, I only ever termed 2 children due to behavior issues out of probably 50. One was a 3 year old and one was a 4 month old, so that was not so much behavior as not ready for group care (wouldn't take a bottle, screamed 95 % of the day)

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

100% would have claimed they did I'd say 95% did. Those 2 I termed would be 1 who tried (the 3 yo), and one who just didn't "get" it. Sweet family, but very AP and that created a group-care issue

Now the same question of the last five-years.

12 children so far, 5 termed for child's behavior. 4 from the same family at once. So, roughly 40% didn't make it.

Now the same questions of the last year.

1/5 in the group termed for aggression and general malaise'

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

none-the last one really tried though. Heart in the right place, but lots of crud in the diet and not enough follow-through (like making kiddo stay in bed or carseat).

[Blackcat31]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Ok, I'm going to give this a shot.

It's Friday BEFORE a vacation, I do not have many brain cells left and I totally **** at math; specifically percentages... LOL!

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?

I'd have to say atleast 75% of the kids I've had in the last 10 years are most of those things.

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

Out of that 75%, I believe that 90% of those kids' parents were/are great parents that really care about their child's health and well being and had good parenting at home.

Now the same question of the last five-years.

In the last 5 years, I'd say that 90% of my kids are well behaved, good eaters and good sleepers and overall very good kids.

Now the same questions of the last year.

Still 90%. There is always going to be a bit of gray.

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

Honestly...I think that would be less than 5%.
Only 5% of the kids with great parents were tough or hard to manage children.

There is a DIRECT correlation between quality parenting and well behaved children.

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The answers would vary GREATLY had you asked about the FIRST 10 years I was in this business but the percentages NOW verses then is not due to parental changes (societal or personal) but more about how I interview and who I accept into care.

I am much more picky now and I will easily pass on a parent/family/child that I feel does not share the same parenting and discipline philosophies as I do.

THAT ^^^ makes those percentages shift alot.

HTH

If not, just call me if you need further explanation....

[nanglgrl]

For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?
i would say about 60% are great right away, another 10% took a couple of weeks with me to change their ways.
Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.
Crazily enough I haven't seen a correlation for the most part. Out of the 60% that started off here as great kids I'd say only about 30% had parents that were doing their job. These kids were well mannered quiet, ate healthy food here even though they didn't at home, did as told but also had no imagination, no idea how to play, were often left at daycare as much as possible and it was often apparent that the child spent a good deal of time at home in front of the television.

Now the same question of the last five-years.
My answer is probably going to be different than others. In the last 5 years the children I've accepted have actually been better behaved and had good parents but only because I raised my rates, set up a good program and stopped accepting families just to fill a spot. Now I make sure the family is a good fit. I'd rather be broke than have people come into my home daily that I don't like.

Now the same questions of the last year.
see above

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?

Of the kids I've had with top quality parents I'd have to say all of the children were also as awesome. I think their involvement and good parenting has made for good children. The majority of those children were also bright and inventive, and what I would consider smart for their age. As for the children with bad parents that still behaved well I'd say only a small percentage of them (maybe 1%) are what I would consider smart and the majority of them I would consider to be behind on their skills. I don't mean ABC smart and I don't know how to explain what I do mean. Lol. They don't know how to play and often have an empty look. They often just do what the other kids tell them to. They are behind on personal skills such as putting shoes on etc. they can't follow simple directions not because of naughtiness but because they really just can't understand.

[Annalee]

Ok, I'm going to give this a shot.

It's Friday BEFORE a vacation, I do not have many brain cells left and I totally **** at math; specifically percentages... LOL!



I'd have to say atleast 75% of the kids I've had in the last 10 years are most of those things.



Out of that 75%, I believe that 90% of those kids' parents were/are great parents that really care about their child's health and well being and had good parenting at home.



In the last 5 years, I'd say that 90% of my kids are well behaved, good eaters and good sleepers and overall very good kids.



Still 90%. There is always going to be a bit of gray.



Honestly...I think that would be less than 5%.
Only 5% of the kids with great parents were tough or hard to manage children.

There is a DIRECT correlation between quality parenting and well behaved children.

*********************************************************************

The answers would vary GREATLY had you asked about the FIRST 10 years I was in this business but the percentages NOW verses then is not due to parental changes (societal or personal) but more about how I interview and who I accept into care.

I am much more picky now and I will easily pass on a parent/family/child that I feel does not share the same parenting and discipline philosophies as I do.

THAT ^^^ makes those percentages shift alot.

HTH

If not, just call me if you need further explanation....

The bolded comment is so true but not always that easy depending on the area you live in and the availability of clients....Environmental changes in the home are the difference maker I think in the home today!

[daycare]

The bolded comment is so true but not always that easy depending on the area you live in and the availability of clients....Environmental changes in the home are the difference maker I think in the home today!

much more wiser now too and can say the same thing.......Oh and thanks to all you lovely ladies after 12 years I finally have a backbone..............

[Sugar Magnolia]

[QUOTE=nannyde;474141]For ladies who have done ten years or more of IN HOME child care, may I ask your opinion

Of the last ten years of experience can you tell me the percentage of kids in your child care who are well behaved, respectful, calm, kind, good eaters, and sleep well?

85 percent

Out of that percentage can you tell me what percent of their parents do you believe were doing a good job as parents? Meaning they disciplined fairly, had expectations of good behavior, fed healthy food, kept kids clean in well fitted clothing, expected reasonable sleep... rest schedules, expected manners.. and spent a good amount of awake time with their kids.

90 percent

Now the same question of the last five-years.

Same

Now the same questions of the last year.

Same

Last question. In your entire experience of ten years plus... what percentage of kids have you had where the parents were what you would consider top quality parents but had kids with poor behavior over the years you had the kids?[

5 percent

/QUOTE]

Even though you said"IN HOME"., I went ahead and answered anyways.

ETA oops, I tried to make my answers red but it didn't take!

Also, just wanted to add, I feel like my percentages didn't change too much over time because I think I got better at finding families that were a good fit.