Does Potty Training Drive You Crazy?

[Unregistered]

Seriously a daycare mom tells be she I going to put underwear on dcb 2 over the weekend before she brings him here in underwear :O Um it's going to take more than a weekend to get him trained.

Yesterday she puts him on the potty here and he screams and cries and the other kids were getting scared so I went in and said don't make him cry and she slams the bathroom door in my face.

If that's how she's potty training at home no wonder he's scared to go. Poor kid.

I'm not sure what to do he is just not ready yet.

[melilley]

Do you have written policies? If not it's a good idea to have them, that way parents know what to expect and you are backed up.

My policy is that they have to be totally dry for 2 weeks before attempting to wear underwear here. It's not my responsibility nor do I have the time to clean up messes and not to mention it's unsanitary. I will work with the parents on going to the potty, but like I said, underwear needs to wait until they are ready.

I can't believe she slammed the door in your face, how rude! I think I would have had to say something.

[CraftyMom]

No potty training does not make me crazy because it is the parents job

The parents wanting to do it too soon make me crazy, but I am strict with that policy, so it isn't TOO MUCH of an issue. Still an issue, but not too much

[Kimskiddos]

Like above, the potty training doesn't bother me, it's how the parents respond that drives me batty.

I have a 2.5yo dcb who was showing all the signs and even asking to go potty about 2 months ago. He will totally do it for me. I now have him using the potty at transition times like all of the trained kids and when he asks (which he still does).

He now refuses to even consider using the potty at home. I know the parents tease/threaten him with having to use the bathroom!! (Dcm let it slip about the teasing while telling me a funny story about dcb.) At this rate he may never train. Of course I guess I shouldn't be surprised, I weaned him completely off the pacifier at 16m but he still gets it at home.

It is very frustrating because I truly believe this kid could have been trained by now but I am NOT going to do all the work for them.

[Mom2TLE]

Yes, the parents anyways. DCM of dcb who will be 4 in three months asks me to put him on to go at drop off and throughout the day, he has some issue that makes him drink like he is dehydrated and pees massive amounts. (He's still in diapers). So i feel he will be harder to train. This morning mom comes in and mentions putting him on the potty. So I ask how the weekend went I was off Fri and Monday. Blank stare then "oh I was exhausted all weekend so we didn't really work on it." Ok Dcm, Dcb will probably be in diapers at 5 yes old at this rate.

[Shell]

Yep, every parent creates a new issue that I haven't seen before, and it always perplexes me. Some want to train too early, some wait a ridiculously long time when their child is clearly ready.
The one common theme is that once the parent has decided the child is trained (even if they really aren't), they all want underwear at daycare (like Nan says it's probably because of the cost of diapers).
I think every single dc parent has come to me at one time or another holding a pair of underwear that they couldn't get their child to put on, but they swear the child can go accident free :: or the best is when the child wore underwear on the way over, parents forget to mention it, and the child pees on my floor They always need a reminder about what is ok at home is NOT sanitary at daycare!

[cheerfuldom]

you need a potty training policy in writing. one of my big rules is that I do not assist in training if a child is resistant. I will NOT take a child screaming and kicking to the potty nor will I stand over them and force them to stay if they really dont want too. I wouldnt allow a parent to do that in my home either. not to mention slamming the door in my face......no way.

[Unregistered]

I pretty much potty trained dcg age 3.5 & for 6 weeks she would pee in her pants all day long on Monday & Tuesday & then not a single accident the rest of the week. She would come back on Monday & we'd have accidents all day again. By Wednesday I would have her going w/o accidents again. I was doing all the work while mom did very little. Here we are 6 months later & mom still gets frustrated b/c I put her in a pull up when if she has an accident. You just never know how her day will go. Funny thing is when I recently saw her out w/ mom she was spinning in a dress & guess what I saw underneath: a pull up. Lol Now mom keeps making comments about really needing to get her brother age 2 trained b/c the diapers are too expensive. I refuse to do it. When he is trained at home I will be happy to assist here. Until then, if he asks to go potty that's fine. Otherwise, forget it. So frustrating. I feel your pain.

[CraftyMom]

Yesterday I texted mom to say "yay, dcg went pee pee on the potty!" For the 2nd time here. Dcg JUST turned 2.

Mom answers back "yay! so I'll send some panties for her so she can wear them there"

After only 2 times going potty! :: I honestly laughed out loud then told her "Dcg has a long way to go before panties, but she is making great progress. Try panties at home, but remember 2 FULL weeks with no accidents here, pee and poop before panties "

I think mom is just a bit excited