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I am hoping someone can help me...I have a child who I have had since 12 weeks old. She is now 6. Over the past 3 years she has become more and more introverted. At this point, 4 out of 5 days she will go several hours without talking or playing. Every time i try to help her to do anything, she stares blankly at me or cries for an hr. The last two weeks, the situation has completely spiraled to a level that I am considering that my daycare is no longer the best place for her. I have discussed the issues with their parents and they told me to let her be and ignore her. I am besides myself with guilt doing this. It is not right. The parents claim it is because it is summer vacation and I have different kids on different days (some I watch and others are my childrens' friends coming over to play) and that their child doesn't handle any changes to her routine well. They told me she feels extra pressure to talk and to play and she doesn't know how to handle the extra pressure so she shuts down. During the past school year, I told the parents she will not speak to me at all about her day if asked an open ended question (will only answer yes or no). I was again told to leave her alone as she needs to "decompress" after 2.5 hours of school. I went to far as to ask my own kids' pediatrician what else i can do to help this little girl cope with her thoughts and feelings. Unfortunately without a complete evaluation, my peds dr could offer very little more than to keep trying to include her and make sure she is always a part of the other kids' activities even if just staring at them. IDK if her kindergarten teacher ever mentioned any behavioral issues to her parents. Meanwhile, if we go to my parents house, more often then not, she will play there, but still not converse much with the kids. And then every once in a while, it's like a switch is turned on and she is a happy, talkative child running around and playing with all the other kids. Any advice? I keep telling myself to just get through the summer and perhaps her first grade teacher will be able to help her more than I am able to. It just breaks my heart to watch her not have fun here and my husband is tired of me blaming myself....
I am hoping someone can help me...I have a child who I have had since 12 weeks old. She is now 6. Over the past 3 years she has become more and more introverted. At this point, 4 out of 5 days she will go several hours without talking or playing. Every time i try to help her to do anything, she stares blankly at me or cries for an hr. The last two weeks, the situation has completely spiraled to a level that I am considering that my daycare is no longer the best place for her. I have discussed the issues with their parents and they told me to let her be and ignore her. I am besides myself with guilt doing this. It is not right. The parents claim it is because it is summer vacation and I have different kids on different days (some I watch and others are my childrens' friends coming over to play) and that their child doesn't handle any changes to her routine well. They told me she feels extra pressure to talk and to play and she doesn't know how to handle the extra pressure so she shuts down. During the past school year, I told the parents she will not speak to me at all about her day if asked an open ended question (will only answer yes or no). I was again told to leave her alone as she needs to "decompress" after 2.5 hours of school. I went to far as to ask my own kids' pediatrician what else i can do to help this little girl cope with her thoughts and feelings. Unfortunately without a complete evaluation, my peds dr could offer very little more than to keep trying to include her and make sure she is always a part of the other kids' activities even if just staring at them. IDK if her kindergarten teacher ever mentioned any behavioral issues to her parents. Meanwhile, if we go to my parents house, more often then not, she will play there, but still not converse much with the kids. And then every once in a while, it's like a switch is turned on and she is a happy, talkative child running around and playing with all the other kids. Any advice? I keep telling myself to just get through the summer and perhaps her first grade teacher will be able to help her more than I am able to. It just breaks my heart to watch her not have fun here and my husband is tired of me blaming myself....
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