Am I Just Being A Jerk

[DaisyMamma]

Actually I know I am.

Dcm that was so kind as to let me know on mother's day that her two children were dropping out without notice and never picked up her kids stuff.

Her mom has been visiting and watching her kids. So I'm willing to bet that grandma is leaving and that's why dcm needs to stop by tomorrow to get the kids things(including 2 epipens). So likely they are starting a new daycare on Monday and need them.

I'm not planning on responding right now, or today. And realisticlly their stuff should have been discarded by now. I just haven't cleaned the cabinet out yet. Maybe by Tuesday I will have the time to respond.

[Meeko]

I have a policy that any items left here after quitting/termination are considered abandoned and will be discarded or donated to charity. They sign that in my contract. Otherwise, you get parents using you as a free storage facility until they feel like collecting.

[Blackcat31]

"DCM, you may stop by WITH a check for the FULL amount of the two week notice and retrieve your children's belongings at the same time. I am available to accept payment on xxx days between 2 PM and 4 PM. Thank you for settling this matter now thus avoiding additional collection procedures and court costs"

[DaisyMamma]

"DCM, you may stop by WITH a check for the FULL amount of the two week notice and retrieve your children's belongings at the same time. I am available to accept payment on xxx days between 2 PM and 4 PM. Thank you for settling this matter now thus avoiding additional collection procedures and court costs"

I got the two week deposit upon enrollment. I still find it rude to leave without notice. Also my policies state that items are discarded after abandoned X amount of days.

[Blackcat31]

I got the two week deposit upon enrollment. I still find it rude to leave without notice. Also my policies state that items are discarded after abandoned X amount of days.

Well in that case, I would not reply at all.

....and good for you for getting paid up front (deposit)!

[DaisyMamma]

Well in that case, I would not reply at all.

....and good for you for getting paid up front (deposit)!

Ok. ::
But I don't want her to show up at my door!

[TheGoodLife]

I got the two week deposit upon enrollment. I still find it rude to leave without notice. Also my policies state that items are discarded after abandoned X amount of days.

Has it been over the X amount of days? If so, I'd ignore or respond that sorry, per contract they were donated after X amount of days.

[MarinaVanessa]

Well since they don't owe you anything ...

- Wish you would have contacted me sooner. I kept everything for 30 days and then donated the items last week.

EDIT: Ok this was mean and I realized I was being vindictive as soon as I posted .

I think really I would just text her back and say ...
- This is a busy week for me. I'll gather up their things sometime next week and let you know when they are ready for pickup.

[e.j.]

Personally, I'd have her things ready to go tomorrow just to get them out of my way. If I had to wait until Tuesday, I know I'd be thinking about the way she chose to end things all weekend. I'd want her out of my head by then so I could be done with her and actually enjoy the weekend.

[sahm1225]

Personally, I'd have her things ready to go tomorrow just to get them out of my way. If I had to wait until Tuesday, I know I'd be thinking about it the way she chose to end things all weekend. I'd want her out of my head by then so I could be done with her and actually enjoy the weekend.

This. Why let this mom take up anymore of your thoughts?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Personally, I'd have her things ready to go tomorrow just to get them out of my way. If I had to wait until Tuesday, I know I'd be thinking about it the way she chose to end things all weekend. I'd want her out of my head by then so I could be done with her and actually enjoy the weekend.

I would do this AND I would require that she ring the bell/knock to get the items. I would smile at her, stare, and hand over the belongings. Make it a little awkward for her but still give her back her belongings. ::

[AmyKidsCo]

I totally understand how you feel, and why. Been there, done that, and after grouching to my hubby I mailed the items along with a super-nice note about thanks for letting me care for their child, how I enjoyed getting to know them, etc. I decided I didn't want things to end on a sour note from MY end - just in case anything came up in the future. The postage is tax-deductible.

[NightOwl]

Well since they don't owe you anything ...

- Wish you would have contacted me sooner. I kept everything for 30 days and then donated the items last week.

EDIT: Ok this was mean and I realized I was being vindictive as soon as I posted .

I think really I would just text her back and say ...
- This is a busy week for me. I'll gather up their things sometime next week and let you know when they are ready for pickup.

Call me vindictive then!! Lol. She ruined op's mother's day so I would have nooooo problem sending your first message!! Childish? Maybe. Would I care or feel bad? Nope.

[lovemykidstoo]

Yea as much as I'd like to screw with her, I would send her a message that the items were ready anytime and If I wasn't home I'd leave them on my porch. Get it over with. Now if she had stiffed you on payment, then that would be another thing.

[craftymissbeth]

Yea as much as I'd like to screw with her, I would send her a message that the items were ready anytime and If I wasn't home I'd leave them on my porch. Get it over with. Now if she had stiffed you on payment, then that would be another thing.

I've learned NEVER to leave items on my porch for parents to pick up. I did that once and watched through my window as they picked the stuff up... just for them to turn to Facebook the next day saying not to ever come to me because I refused to give them their belongings!

I now require a signature saying they've received everything.