DCM Not Comfortable Applying Sunblock Before Drop Off?????

[Blackcat31]

Yes, my contract says I can term immediately due to breach of contract or disrespect, but I don't have anything about not refunding money in the event of immediate termination. This family pays monthly and I'm holding a 2 week deposit that I would rather not have to refund.

I have since update my contract for incoming families addressing this issue and was going to have this family sign the new contract with the updated policies when they hit a year in September.

In that case, I would probably give them the term notice but still be available to provide services for the last two weeks. BUT include the clause you mentioned about that if there are any more incidences of hostility or disrespect they wil be termed immediately and forfeit any remaining funds.

[snowball]

So what happened at pick up?

[aDCProvider]

Update

So what happened at pick up?

Not good! DCM went off about her kid being sent home sick and that it was ridiculous and how I'm so rigid (definitely not, since I've never enforced a single policy with this family) and about how she's so worried DCD would forget to put on sunblock and her baby would get burned and that she just didn't feel comfortable with it. At one point when I told her I have to follow regulations, she almost yelled at me "don't talk to me about regulations!" Then later on said she understood why I sent her kid home :confused:. I said I was just trying to clear the air and fix the personal relationship we had, she said "I don't know what more you want from me, we will see how it goes". I had other kids there and didn't want her to get more volatile so I let it go. She said she'd see me next week (they don't come Fridays).

I'm done! My husband wants them gone, maybe more than I do because he personally has known the DCD for 15+ years and is royally pissed at how they've treated me!

I'm trying to fill the spot, if things are quiet next week I will wait until I have someone lined up, but if I get one ounce of rudeness, or disrespect from either of them they are getting their walking papers. I will give them 4 weeks notice but I doubt they'd stay for it.

What a nightmare this situation turned out! I know things will be said about me to our friends...what am I legally allowed to disclose when I undoubtedly have to defend my self?

[hope]

4 weeks notice? Is that what you have in your contract? That is a lot of time with a disgruntled family.

[daycare]

Not good! DCM went off about her kid being sent home sick and that it was ridiculous and how I'm so rigid (definitely not, since I've never enforced a single policy with this family) and about how she's so worried DCD would forget to put on sunblock and her baby would get burned and that she just didn't feel comfortable with it. At one point when I told her I have to follow regulations, she almost yelled at me "don't talk to me about regulations!" Then later on said she understood why I sent her kid home :confused:. I said I was just trying to clear the air and fix the personal relationship we had, she said "I don't know what more you want from me, we will see how it goes". I had other kids there and didn't want her to get more volatile so I let it go. She said she'd see me next week (they don't come Fridays).

I'm done! My husband wants them gone, maybe more than I do because he personally has known the DCD for 15+ years and is royally pissed at how they've treated me!

I'm trying to fill the spot, if things are quiet next week I will wait until I have someone lined up, but if I get one ounce of rudeness, or disrespect from either of them they are getting their walking papers. I will give them 4 weeks notice but I doubt they'd stay for it.

What a nightmare this situation turned out! I know things will be said about me to our friends...what am I legally allowed to disclose when I undoubtedly have to defend my self?

Oh lordly that stinks...

I would have termed on the spot....that is just disrespectful. I am sure they signed your contract correct?
Don't feel bad about doing your job. Kid is sick they go home, kid does not have sun block on at arrival parent needs to put it on right then and there.

I would email term papers, then send cert mail.

As for your friends, I would not say a word. Let her try to say things, she will look like an a$$ all on her own. If she tries to damage your company you can sue her. I am sure there are others on here with experience with that.

I would not tolerate one more day of disrespect or give them one more chance to disrespect me, my family or my DCKs.

[snowball]

Not good! DCM went off about her kid being sent home sick and that it was ridiculous and how I'm so rigid (definitely not, since I've never enforced a single policy with this family) and about how she's so worried DCD would forget to put on sunblock and her baby would get burned and that she just didn't feel comfortable with it. At one point when I told her I have to follow regulations, she almost yelled at me "don't talk to me about regulations!" Then later on said she understood why I sent her kid home :confused:. I said I was just trying to clear the air and fix the personal relationship we had, she said "I don't know what more you want from me, we will see how it goes". I had other kids there and didn't want her to get more volatile so I let it go. She said she'd see me next week (they don't come Fridays).

I'm done! My husband wants them gone, maybe more than I do because he personally has known the DCD for 15+ years and is royally pissed at how they've treated me!

I'm trying to fill the spot, if things are quiet next week I will wait until I have someone lined up, but if I get one ounce of rudeness, or disrespect from either of them they are getting their walking papers. I will give them 4 weeks notice but I doubt they'd stay for it.

What a nightmare this situation turned out! I know things will be said about me to our friends...what am I legally allowed to disclose when I undoubtedly have to defend my self?

Honestly, if there is any way you can I would term now. I'd be willing to bet money that they are looking for other care.

And how she responded was rude. They have been disrespectful at least 3 times. For me, enough would be enough.

Just my 2 cent of course

[Meeko]

Oh boy! My blood is boiling just reading this!

TERM THEM NOW!!!!!

I am sure they are looking for another provider that they feel they can walk all over and will then "fire" you.

THEY are the ones in the wrong and should be told to take hike.

[craftymissbeth]

I agree with the others that they're just waiting until the find some poor provider who bends over backwards to please clients. Then it'll be buh bye, see ya later! I'd term immediately. I'm a single parent so I know all about needing income, but there's no way I'd chance another adult tantrum happening in my home by these people.

I'd want the upper hand in knowing WHEN they're leaving, so I'd be the one to term.

Sorry these idiots are being so disrespectful to you.

[KidGrind]

Is it me or did she tell you her husband is too stupid to apply sunscreen and she doesn’t trust him with their child?


TERM! TERM! TERM!

[aDCProvider]

Update

They posted an ad for a nanny on Care.com right after I sent their child home sick. Term papers are going to be emailed over the weekend!

[aDCProvider]

My paid vacation falls on the last week of their 4 week notice period. I was going to write something like the 4 week notice period ends 7/17/14, but as you know I will be on vacation that week, therefore the last day I am able to proved childcare services is 7/10/14. Is this ok? They've been here for 9 months so I have accrued and deserve this paid vacation. Whether I term them now or later, they would have still had to pay for this vacation.

[Play Care]

My paid vacation falls on the last week of their 4 week notice period. I was going to write something like the 4 week notice period ends 7/17/14, but as you know I will be on vacation that week, therefore the last day I am able to proved childcare services is 7/10/14. Is this ok? They've been here for 9 months so I have accrued and deserve this paid vacation. Whether I term them now or later, they would have still had to pay for this vacation.

I would forgo the paid vacation to get rid of them, but that's just me.


It's also why rather than have them pay me the week I am off, I pad regular tuition by $4 a week, and bank it for vacations. Then I don't have to worry if they bail before a vacation as it's already paid

[DaisyMamma]

My paid vacation falls on the last week of their 4 week notice period. I was going to write something like the 4 week notice period ends 7/17/14, but as you know I will be on vacation that week, therefore the last day I am able to proved childcare services is 7/10/14. Is this ok? They've been here for 9 months so I have accrued and deserve this paid vacation. Whether I term them now or later, they would have still had to pay for this vacation.

I wouldnt expect another penny, especially for a vacation. Or do you get the four weeks paid up front?
Im willing to bet that you wont see them again.
Keep us posted.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I wouldnt expect another penny, especially for a vacation. Or do you get the four weeks paid up front?
Im willing to bet that you wont see them again.
Keep us posted.

I think so, too.

[Blackcat31]

I would rob my kids' piggy bank, give them back whatever money they have paid up front and be done now.

There is no amount of money in this world that could convince me to keep clients that treat me like dirt. NOPE.

My sanity, self-respect and self-worth are FAR MORE important to me.

If they bad mouth you to friends... let them. People who talk smack about others never fail to realize that they are saying FAR more about their own character than yours when they talk behind your back.

If any of your mutual friends asks you, just give a brief but neutral statement such as "Group care is not right for everyone. I wish them the best" and leave it at that.


Maintain your professionalism above all else and it will pay off in the end.