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Hi everyone! Im new to the forum and I need some advice about a daycare parent. DCM has a very flexible job that she is able to come and go to as she pleases, which means that she drops off her kiddo pretty much whenever. At first it wasn't such a big deal because it wasn't much later than the rest of the kids but now its random times all over the place and its really getting hard to plan all of my activities not knowing when she will be here. Its even more difficult now because I've started transporting preschool kiddos back and forth and there have been a few times that she has tried to drop off while we were gone. Ive tried talking to her and explaining that I need to have a schedule of when dcg will be dropped off and picked up so that I can plan accordingly but she just isnt getting it. Then she gets mad when Im not here when she tries to drop her off. I have given her our daily schedule of times when we will be gone but she keeps "forgetting". She will also tell me her kid wont be there on a certain day and then randomly decide to bring her without telling me the change in plans. I then have to rearrange our activities to accomodate her arrival. She has also said that it shouldn't matter when she drops her by because since I'm a home daycare I should be at home and not go anywhere. I just dont know what to do. Am I wrong for wanting her to give me an eta? How would you all handle this? Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer.
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what is she paying for? Does she own the week? If so then she feels entitled to do what she wants. I explain to parents that the children thrive on schedules.If she is dropped off after snack story or art time she will miss it.If I want to go out I am not able to accept her at that time.I tell parents child needs to be dropped off at or before 9:00 am .On rare occasions a Dr appointment or something they need to be here by 10:15.They need to have had a snack and if they miss projects no makeup. I would give parent 2 weeks to fix schedule,then term if it doesn't work. Its not fair to you or the child. If a parent tells me they are not coming they cannot change it at the last minute.Twentyfour hours ahead they can add not day of. Good Luck -
no,you are not being unreasonable.
"DCM, I care for a group of children, and therefore need to plan for the needs of the group, not one family or child."
I've termed over this. It was a 6 mo old baby, and the poor guy didn't know which way was up because mom was soooo disorganized. He was miserable, I was miserable!Comment
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I would have termed over her comments...but that's just me.
This is YOUR business and YOU get to set the rules...not her. I would tell her that you MUST have a written schedule if care is to continue. No arguments.Comment
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This ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ And when she comes after her scheduled time, decline to accept her child that day.Comment
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I had a mom term ME because of my rules.
She knew when she signed up I closed at 5:30, she wanted til 7, I declined. She then bounced a check. I charged a fee. She didn't like that either. The kicker was when she brought her child to me, said she'd be there at 5, and then when my closing time came, she was STILL not there, and at 6:30 she tried showing up. I was gone (I put a note on the door, I had also texted; no response AND left her a VM) for my son's parent-teacher conference. She freaked out saying why should I leave, that I should be at home and that she didn't get why I wasn't there if she was late. I gave her an explanation of my rules, AND a term letter.
She just thought she ran the show!Comment
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you make the rules, either she follows or she doesn't; parents that try my patience from the start find themselves without care real fast. Yep, termed one yesterday because she thought she did not have to follow policy from get goComment
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I've had to put my foot down this week too, This is my house and my business. I make the rules and try to work with my families. But showing up 3 hours after I close is not gonna happen again. You don't need to follow her sched she needs to follow yours. It's hard, but I have learned so much from the wonderful people here! I'm not a doormat anymore and my parents respect me now.... and they are so much easier to work with!!
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